Confessions...

[PerfectVerse06]

TELL 'EM WHY YOU MAD, ENIGMA!!!

TELL 'EM WHY YOU MAD!!!




That's alright...this is the place to VENT!

Sometimes folks out there make you wanna chop them in the throat, but you know you are above that sort of behavior. So you can come on this thread, release the tension, and tell us all the things you'd do to that chick if you weren't a classy woman.

LET IT OUT!

[enigma_AKA]

^^^^Hahahahahaha. I only needed a reason...

*Looks around the room--decides the coast is clear and then......*

So, it all began with sophomore year and here we are, about to graduate, and you still don't effin' get it.

Jealousy like that can kill you. Seriously. I've never been one to concern myself with other people's property ('You down wit' OPP?' No, nigga--you DON'T know ME!), with other people's talents, other people's backgrounds, friends, associations, etc, etc. I got my own ish; what I need to compare mine to anyone else's for?

I DON'T have to compete for being the one who is spoken to. I DON'T have to compete for popularity. I DON'T have to compete for looks. I DON'T have to compete for brilliance and I DON'T have to compete for respect.

I tried to squash it by addressing the situation to your silly ass in the beginning of last year. Our girl told you you were bogus as hell--told you straight up, no chaser. You continued to talk junk in a small environment, knowing it would get back to me. You tried to act like my best friend was doing me bogus while I was abroad; yet you didn't know that we talked on a daily basis. I know my FRIENDS---that circle of which you are not a part of. Everything that you had to 'die to tell me'? I already knew. Minus your ad-libs and whatnot. Three times in a row. You continued to act like nothing was wrong--yet your passive aggressive tendencies got the best of you (you can barely maintain posure by yourself) and even now? You still never once admitted you were wrong and once again proved--once a hoodrat, always a hoodrat. In both attitude and composure.

But I thought you knew that already. It seems with all your insecurity, pettiness and small-mindedness, you still haven't gotten over IT, gotten over ME. Now, you and all of your situations are becoming self fulfilled prophecies. You know deep down that you are WEAK. A sad state of affairs. And you know what's worse? That everytime you do something else wack, it proves that main point that these duplicitous behaviors speak to a weak character. I don't have to be fake to you or anyone else. I'm doing. I suggest you start doing YOU.

Getting rid of you will be like getting rid of a serious case of hives. That they are not useful in any means but there to serve as a reminder that something is wrong in my system--you being it---and that I am allergic to you like Diddy's momma and a decent weave!

Lastly, I need you to slow your effin' role. You know it's brimming just beneath the surface and you've done a good job of tip-toeing around it. Good for you. Keep it up. We only have a few weeks left and trust, you will do best to do like you've been doing before you get jacked up. Not that we will fight physically, becaue I don't get down like that. But, no, all that ish you were afraid of? Karma? Yeah, it's a bitch.

*Whew....some ish never ceases to amaze me. I got a lot of pent up rage. I need to vent here more often.*

What's more, I should have listened to my mother when she told me "a snake in the grass, once hidden, is still a snake in the grass." Mama's always right.

enigma_AKA

[Bajan_Delta]

Well thank you my dear for the well wishes. Actually the more we think about it the more we are both liking the idea of a destination wedding. If we do that we can get married sooner and be able to buy a home alot quicker. This could work out

Originally posted by lil_sunshine
Dearest Bajan_Delta,

First, I'd like to congratulate you on your engagement. I know this is an exciting time for you and your fiance!!! Also, I'd like to tell you that there will always be people (family, friends and strangers alike) who will try to steal your sunshine. Please do not allow them to do so.

Destination weddings are a beautiful thing! If you and your fiance agree to do that, then by all means. The people that should attend are the ones that will cause you the least stress and are the most genuine about their well wishes for you and your husband-to-be. Your wedding day is not the be all and end all of family gatherings. It is just the day when you and your fiance tell the world that you are willing to commit to spending the rest of your lives together. Whoever cannot understand that, tell them, "FUHGEDDABOUTIT!!!!!!"

[PerfectVerse06]

*falls out after reading enigma's post*



I have to give you PROPS for that one, girl!

I have never 'heard' anyone get told off so eloquently LOL!!!

If/when you tell that so-called friend what you typed in this thread, she won't be able to say NATHAN! Which is alright, in my opinion! She has been shut down cyberly, and soon in reality as well!

LOL, I'm mad I'm all crunk like I know you and ole girl, but this is what I was trying to explain to someone the other day. There are ways of expressing oneself with the force and conviction to leave your enemies powerless without having to resort to ignorant phrases and expletive-laden drivel, and this is the perfect example of that!

Yes, you used a lil foul language, but it was used to give your words a lil somthing extra, more POP. But you didn't depend on cursing to make your point.

*round of applause*

[lil_sunshine]

See Bajan_Delta, that's the spirit!!!!! Home ownership is extremely important, and the fact that you and your fiance are keeping it a top priority is great! I recently read an article on MSN.com about first-time homebuyers. I'll send it to you and hope that the article can help you and your fiance.

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
Well thank you my dear for the well wishes. Actually the more we think about it the more we are both liking the idea of a destination wedding. If we do that we can get married sooner and be able to buy a home alot quicker. This could work out

[ShamikaT]

Originally posted by ShamikaT
I've been having the r.u.n.s since 3 am.

I "borrowed" some more money from my cash register. And, don't yall trip. It was only thirty dollas, and I will pay that mess back. I'm not above of asking for some more allowance from pops.

LAWD, I have not had sex in a year. I done regained my virginity since I became a Christian, and I'm 'bout to relose it. I am also stuggling with masturbation. All before I get out of bed in the morning. All at work (when no one's there). All in the showers. All at stoplights (when there's no cars next me). All before I go to sleep at night. Yall pray for me.

Thank yall for the prayers, I have NOT masturbated in 3 1/2 weeks!

But, do female wet dreams count?

[Bajan_Delta]

Please, share the knowledge, I am a woman who constantly seeks knowledge. O believe me we fully understand the importance of homeownership. I have us on a plan to be debt- free in 3 years, luckily we don't have too much bad debt (credit card etc.) It's mostly good debt, ie school loans.

Originally posted by lil_sunshine
See Bajan_Delta, that's the spirit!!!!! Home ownership is extremely important, and the fact that you and your fiance are keeping it a top priority is great! I recently read an article on MSN.com about first-time homebuyers. I'll send it to you and hope that the article can help you and your fiance.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
I just recently got engaged and these people are annoyed because I didn't tell them when it happened. What I did do was call my cousins and tell them, knowing they would tell their parents. I knew if I called any of these people someone would have said something to ruin this great moment for me (plus it was my birthday as well).

I want to plan a nice wedding where I can invite people who care about us. But now I'm seriously contemplating a destination wedding, just the parents and the 2 of us. Sigh....

I tole you 'bout how some folks just will ack a fool... They just ack a fool...

But be 'bout it, 'bout it and do yo thang gwirl... Destination, far, far away...

Or, you can skrait piss 'em off and go waaay out and do the stuh you KNOW will piss them off just to see how pissed off they can get...

Naw, I don't recommend that... But, in my ole age, I'd be crazy enuf to do it...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by enigma_AKA
^^^^Hahahahahaha. I only needed a reason...

*Looks around the room--decides the coast is clear and then......*

So, it all began with sophomore year and here we are, about to graduate, and you still don't effin' get it.

Jealousy like that can kill you. Seriously. I've never been one to ..."a snake in the grass, once hidden, is still a snake in the grass." Mama's always right.

enigma_AKA

Soror Enigma...

To whom the gods wish to destroy, they must first make them angry...

Why you lettin' a fool get to you lak dat dere? Is she that relevant or that important, really?

And no, you ain't gotta be friends with homegirl, nor does she havta be your "special project"... But since you ain't getting paid for psychotherapy sessions, why give them? So what if homegirl is delusional and hallucinates? Is she really stopping you from graduation? Ending your real friendships? And I know your man ain't that weak--so why let this fool get to you lak dat dere?

No problem venting and that's okay... Sometimes anger gets pent up and builds on us, like lava floes... And it cannot be quelled unless it comes out violently or affects us psychologically... I know, been there, done that, got a T-shirt...

So, you gotta just know some folks have mental problems. Here is just one of them.

10 years from now, where do you think they will be?

If you laugh, then, you are already over the fool...

[enigma_AKA]

I hear you, Soror Monet, I hear you. And I thank you. Seriously.

It's like I KNOW but...somethings are better left alone. I'm not one to buddy up with someone who is wack to me more than once, but when it's a close circle of friends...things get complicated.

10 years from now--or even 10 days from today, I will be over it. She, though, will have to deal with the reality of her wackness forever as it continues to haunt her...this I already know.

Also--about the venting thing---I don't vent just to vent, usually, and that's something I should do more of. Why I don't vent? My philosophy is and always has been "So what am I going to DO?" Basically, a whole lotta talk doesn't get the situation taken care of. Dealing with the situation does. With some folks---it just aint that easy. One would think that it would be, but it's not, in real life...

I'm not making excuses; I'm just gone let this one ALONE and wait until May 13th...

enigma_AKA
PS--No, my 'man' would never be that weak. He would know better...

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Soror Enigma...

To whom the gods wish to destroy, they must first make them angry...

Why you lettin' a fool get to you lak dat dere? Is she that relevant or that important, really?

And no, you ain't gotta be friends with homegirl, nor does she havta be your "special project"... But since you ain't getting paid for psychotherapy sessions, why give them? So what if homegirl is delusional and hallucinates? Is she really stopping you from graduation? Ending your real friendships? And I know your man ain't that weak--so why let this fool get to you lak dat dere?

No problem venting and that's okay... Sometimes anger gets pent up and builds on us, like lava floes... And it cannot be quelled unless it comes out violently or affects us psychologically... I know, been there, done that, got a T-shirt...

So, you gotta just know some folks have mental problems. Here is just one of them.

10 years from now, where do you think they will be?

If you laugh, then, you are already over the fool...

[AKA_Monet]

Sweetheart, t'ain't nothin' wrong with venting. If you bottle it up inside you, it will kill you... It is actually taking action on the venting--like if you felt like killing someone, then you actually do it kinna thing--that is the problem. But if you don't vent or at least let off some steam to get it all out into the open, then whatever is causing you the trauma has triumphed...

The flip side of the coin is don't let some dysfunctional unmedicated delusional schizophrenic psychotic neurotic mental patient get to you to the point that you actually will take your time to utter your breath to set him or her correct...

Right now, I am dealing with someone like that... And I have to use all my Spiritual powers to make sure that I smile, count to 10, try to understand from the delusional perspective and move on--according to WebMD... Because ultimately, who will be the person driven most insane??? Not the unmedicated person...

You've all you've got and this life ain't a dress rehearsal--so take care of yourself... Always...

Originally posted by enigma_AKA
I hear you, Soror Monet, I hear you. And I thank you. Seriously.

It's like I KNOW but...somethings are better left alone. I'm not one to buddy up with someone who is wack to me more than once, but when it's a close circle of friends...things get complicated.

10 years from now--or even 10 days from today, I will be over it. She, though, will have to deal with the reality of her wackness forever as it continues to haunt her...this I already know.

Also--about the venting thing---I don't vent just to vent, usually, and that's something I should do more of. Why I don't vent? My philosophy is and always has been "So what am I going to DO?" Basically, a whole lotta talk doesn't get the situation taken care of. Dealing with the situation does. With some folks---it just aint that easy. One would think that it would be, but it's not, in real life...

I'm not making excuses; I'm just gone let this one ALONE and wait until May 13th...

enigma_AKA
PS--No, my 'man' would never be that weak. He would know better...

[Bajan_Delta]

LOL. I don't do things to specifically piss them off, but i'm gonna do what's best for me and my honey. At the end of the day I come home and turn the key to my door, no one else's. I pay my bills without help from any of them. And I will get married without financial or emotional help from any of them. Who ever get vex, will have to stay that way. Tough nuggies.

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
I tole you 'bout how some folks just will ack a fool... They just ack a fool...

But be 'bout it, 'bout it and do yo thang gwirl... Destination, far, far away...

Or, you can skrait piss 'em off and go waaay out and do the stuh you KNOW will piss them off just to see how pissed off they can get...

Naw, I don't recommend that... But, in my ole age, I'd be crazy enuf to do it...

[Bajan_Delta]

My sister-in-law to be is AKA, and she's actually been very supportive with this engagement. I find it funny (in a good way) that I'm also getting support in an AKA forum. However she says she not coming to a crimson and creme wedding. I told her "Girl I'mma miss you being there". Kidding. We are going with Burnt Orange, I was just messing with her. Thanks ladies for all the support, I appreciate it.

[9dstpm]

Confession #1: I no longer have a crush on my work friend. He looks like a Black Hans Moleman from "The Simpsons" and he's goo-goo-ga-ga over the super-skinny Diana Ross-ish weave wearing day care lady who works downstairs. We are still cool with each other and we are tight at work, but he is no longer someone I want to date. I am so over him because. . . . . .

Confession #2: my ex-hubby and I have been talking on the phone QUITE regularly for the past month. Like everyday, sometimes up to 4 times a day. He is coming to spend time with me and our son next weekend. I can't wait. A reconciliation is in the works. I still love my ex-husband. Very much. And I know he still loves me too. He's even looking for a job here in Jacksonville and planning on moving here and you know I'm scouring the papers and talking to people trying to get him a job!

Confession #3: Being an investigator is no longer alluring for me. What I don't like is all of the late nights. Every night last week, I didn't get home before 10pm, with me getting home after midnight on Thursday night. I knew there were some late nights involved but I didn't bank on so many. With a possible reconciliation with ex-hubby, I want to focus on re-building my family and I can't do that being out 1/2 the night at work. I talked with my boss about it but she feels that I'm doing well and does not want me to leave. I did tell her that I'd give it a month. Meanwhile, I am looking for another job that is eight to five-ish so that I can be at home (and stay home) with my family.

[treblk]

Ok, I think its about time I said (typed) this. I think what has been holding me back is my deep fear that it will come true. I have a crush on a co-worker! I've had a crush on him for years, we use to work together, then he left and now we work together again. I think he is a beautiful person, very caring and funny (at least to me). I don't think we can be together because another friend use to love him (like for real) and he told her that he was not the setteling down type. Now she is engaged to marry someone else. He says the most interesting things to me, I think, just to see my reaction. I told him if he doesn't stop, I may start thinking he is serious, and he looked at me all werid and stuff. Anyway, I like the attention but not sure how I would feel if it turned serious.

Thanks I needed to put it out there!