What if you never get married?

[chopperLI905]

I feel that if the Army wanted me to have a wife, they would issue me one at boot camp.

[blueangel]

Good article on being single and loving it:

Single & loving it
Unmarrieds find happiness and fulfillment in living alone.



By Courtenay Edelhart
courtenay.edelhart@indystar.com
March 20, 2005


Like a lot of people, Donna Shumar assumed she'd be married by her 30s.

Now she's 44, nowhere near getting hitched, and OK with that.

"It's not that I haven't had opportunities over the years," she said. "But I'd rather be happily single than unhappily married. I have a lot of friends who've been married and divorced already. I'd rather wait and make the correct decision."

http://www.indystar.com/articles/9/230459-2209-047.html

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Originally posted by chopperLI905
I feel that if the Army wanted me to have a wife, they would issue me one at boot camp.

But who makes you pie?

[Rudey]

You have a pet vulture and are a bird woman?

I'm gonna be honest with you because honesty is what people need. I think if you're kinda old and have lots of cats, people think you're a lonely loser but feel sympathy for you. It's when you own birds, vultures, and owls that you get a starring role in movies as the really crazy lady and kids are scared of you.

So consider that and find a husband OK?

-Rudey
--Just joking

Originally posted by aggieAXO
ahhh marriage, a dream within a dream (I think that is how the Princess Bride line went?)

I have no plans (and no prospects) to get married ands it annoys me when people say -you'll find someone, you will get married etc.
It would be nice to find someone to share my life with but i will not settle (I see so many people do this). If it happens-great, if it doesn't then so be it-I already have the cats . Besides it is difficult to find a man that likes opossums, vultures, owls, birds of any kind etc...as much as I do (unless I marry another vet which isn't likely going to happen).

I do agree with you Valkyrie-I see many young women say I can't do this or that until I get married. There is a woman I work with that is 25 years old and met her current boyfriend through a friend over the internet. She has already picked out the wedding dress and he hasn't even asked her to marry him. He won't return her calls half the time (she was complaining about this a couple of weeks ago). She is so focued on marriage that she doesn't even care about how he is treating her. It is sad to see her obsess about this guy (she is definitely an example of the extreme). I feel sorry for her-her life is not going the way she had planned (marriage, kids etc..). She needs to stop focusing on this guy and get an education so she can move out of her parents house. Unfortunately, she is so focued on the idea that a man will be taking care of her - what if it never happens?

Another friend was so focused on marrying a man with $$. She did -3 years ago. He makes very good money and they have a very nice lifestyle but they no longer sleep on the same floor of the house. His personality reminds me of Scott Peterson-scarry.

[aggieAXO]

Originally Posted by Rudey

You have a pet vulture and are a bird woman?

I'm gonna be honest with you because honesty is what people need. I think if you're kinda old and have lots of cats, people think you're a lonely loser but feel sympathy for you. It's when you own birds, vultures, and owls that you get a starring role in movies as the really crazy lady and kids are scared of you.

So consider that and find a husband OK?

-Rudey
--Just joking

ahhh Rudy, I never saw this response. Yes I have the cats but fortunately the wildlife gets treated and released. I guess I am really old now and still no husband-oh well

[Sister Havana]

If I find the right guy and get married, cool. If I stay single and become the crazy dog lady at the end of the block, hey, I'm cool with that too. I don't want to settle just to get married.

It's funny. when I was young, I thought I'd be married by the time I was 30. As 30 got closer I started thinking "I am still too young to be married. 35 would be more like it." I'm 33 now and you guessed it - my thought process is "40's an all right age to get married." (Don't ask me why I think in 5s! *lol*) I'll probably be 90 and thinking "you know, I'll still have plenty of life left in me at 95 - no rush!"

[kchaptergphib]

Originally Posted by Sister Havana

If I find the right guy and get married, cool. If I stay single and become the crazy dog lady at the end of the block, hey, I'm cool with that too.

I had to laugh, because I would love to be the crazy lady with all the dogs in her yard. The one thing I am affraid of, like a lot of people, is being "old and alone." I'm fairly close with my family, but I'm an only child... thank God for my sorority sisters!

[AlethiaSi]

I determined a long time ago that I would make my life the best that it could possibly be, and if I get married, then great, if I don't, then thats ok too.
Sure, it would be nice to have someone around, but I don't think that there is any sense in dwelling over it (for me personally) when you could be out doing other things and opportunities are passing you by. I'm lucky to have great friends, great sorority sisters, and an amazing family and sure not everything is fantastic but I know that they will always be there for me rather than a relationship which may or may not work out.

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by valkyrie
I'm noticing more and more comments young women make here and there involving getting married and/or having kids someday. I'm not trying to pick on anyone at all, but examples include saying something like I don't want to get a tattoo that could be visible in a wedding dress, or I don't want to get something monogrammed because I'll get married and change my name someday (and by "I" I don't mean me, of course, lol).

But what if it never happens? Sure, most people get married, but it's not guaranteed. What if you don't meet the man of your dreams? Will you settle for someone who's just okay because getting married is so important, or would you rather be single until and unless you meet someone so awesome you can't imagine spending the rest of your life without him? Isn't it presumptuous to assume it will happen?

The same goes for having kids. "When I have kids I'll..." is fine and all, but what if you don't? How can anyone assume it will happen? What if you never meet the right person, or what if one of you can't have kids? Will you adopt? What will you do?

I don't mean to be raining on anyone's parade, but it seems troubling that young women are putting so much thought into some future thing that might or might not ever happen. Yes, chances are, you will get married someday, but if you're not even dating someone you might want to marry now, why even think about it or plan for it?

Hey, don't cast doubt in their minds just because you're too fucked up in the head to ever get married again after your first marriage failed.


-haha

[Coramoor]

As a guy...if I never get married I will have boat loads of money and probably live to be like 1000.

Plus I'm pretty bitter towards women right now so I don't even consider marriage being an option.