General Advice - Page 8

adpiucf · #1 02-20-2011, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnydcq

Dumb question alert: GUEST LIST

For my commitment ceremony I was asked to provide a list of names and addresses of sorority sisters I wish to invite from other chapters. I have a list of 6 ladies so far and my question is should I invite people I am only acquainted with? Is it a snub not to invite like every single person I know who is a member? (For example: sorority members who are friends with my mother at church, aunts or grandmother's of friends, friends of friends, HS facebook friends and so on.) Is it deemed showy or flashy to have a long guest list or impolite not to ask everyone you know?

By committment ceremony, are you referring to a pledge ceremony or membership initation? If that is the case, I would only invite close family (mom, grandma, sister).

sunnydcq · #2 02-18-2011, 11:29 PM

recruitment is stressful.

hottytoddy6 · #3 06-10-2011, 08:15 PM

Hi! I'm from Chicago and I'll be attending Ole Miss in the fall. Having read the recruitment forums thoroughly (a million thank you's- I definitely would have shown up in jeans or made some awful faux pas), I know I need to contact the Chicago Alumnae Panhellenic for my recs. However, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice regarding how to word that introductory e-mail. It seems rude and rather forward to simply ask for alumnae to write my recs- especially if they don't know me. Should I ask them to lunch? Any help would be much appreciated!

33girl · #4 06-10-2011, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by hottytoddy6

Hi! I'm from Chicago and I'll be attending Ole Miss in the fall. Having read the recruitment forums thoroughly (a million thank you's- I definitely would have shown up in jeans or made some awful faux pas), I know I need to contact the Chicago Alumnae Panhellenic for my recs. However, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice regarding how to word that introductory e-mail. It seems rude and rather forward to simply ask for alumnae to write my recs- especially if they don't know me. Should I ask them to lunch? Any help would be much appreciated!

It's not rude at all - for them, it's an opportunity to introduce a young woman to the sorority they love. You don't have to grease the wheels by feeding them or anything.

Just be sure that you have all the information needed (which an Ole Miss-savvy poster will help you out with) so they don't have to keep calling you for confirmation on this or that.

DeltaBetaBaby · #5 06-10-2011, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by hottytoddy6

Hi! I'm from Chicago and I'll be attending Ole Miss in the fall. Having read the recruitment forums thoroughly (a million thank you's- I definitely would have shown up in jeans or made some awful faux pas), I know I need to contact the Chicago Alumnae Panhellenic for my recs. However, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice regarding how to word that introductory e-mail. It seems rude and rather forward to simply ask for alumnae to write my recs- especially if they don't know me. Should I ask them to lunch? Any help would be much appreciated!

Are you in Chicago proper? There are several groups in the area, and you'll want to find the one closest to you.

VandalSquirrel · #6 06-20-2011, 06:47 PM

Retaking classes or attending summer school to bring up your GPA? These are things to look into, take into consideration, or be aware of if you are someone concerned about GPA or class standing and recruitment. Places or people to ask are the registrar or records office, an academic advisor, and also the Greek Life advisor/office.

1) Check and see when grades are officially posted and GPA is calculated as it may not happen until after recruitment or after the deadline to submit materials and when local Panhellenics check for a GPA.

2) Check and see if a class is eligible for a repeat and/or grade replacement, not just for rush but also for academic purposes.

3) If you are an incoming transfer student refer to number 1 and see when your first school and your new school post and calculate grades/transcripts so you know the facts about your class standing and GPA.

4) If you were at school and then went to a JC or CC, and are returning to your first school or a new school, check if and how those credits transfer and/or affect your GPA and class standing.

Every school is different and has their own rules so before you waste time, energy, and money or summer school, a different school, or rush, get all the policies and information so you can make the best decision based on reality.

ml2314 · #7 08-08-2011, 05:11 AM

Hi Y'all,

I have a bit of an unique situation and would love some advice. While in high school I participated in a program that allowed me to earn college credits while in high school and graduated with one year completed. After.. graduating I went to college for a year and had to take a break last year due to complicated famly issues. Now, I have transferred universities and would love to pledge a sorority.

This is really my sophomore year of college considering the time I had to take off. However, I have roughly 53 credits because of the classes I took while in high school. Should I consider myself a sophomore with my 53 credits or consider myself a junior? I am asking because I know not rushing my freshman is going to severely hurt my chances of getting a bid. Rush at my school is very competitive. Also, I have heard that being a junior would actually help me out as they do not count as part of the quota but rather are just extra additions added on to a previous pledge class.

Does anyone have any advice??? Thank you!

KSUViolet06 · #8 08-08-2011, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by ml2314

Hi Y'all,

I have a bit of an unique situation and would love some advice. While in high school I participated in a program that allowed me to earn college credits while in high school and graduated with one year completed. After.. graduating I went to college for a year and had to take a break last year due to complicated famly issues. Now, I have transferred universities and would love to pledge a sorority.

This is really my sophomore year of college considering the time I had to take off. However, I have roughly 53 credits because of the classes I took while in high school. Should I consider myself a sophomore with my 53 credits or consider myself a junior? I am asking because I know not rushing my freshman is going to severely hurt my chances of getting a bid. Rush at my school is very competitive. Also, I have heard that being a junior would actually help me out as they do not count as part of the quota but rather are just extra additions added on to a previous pledge class.

Does anyone have any advice??? Thank you!

The junior thing you're speaking of is called upperclassman quota.

That's also not how it works. You're correct in that juniors don't count against quota, but it's not an "automatic in" kind of thing. There's also a limit to the number of juniors one can take with it.

A chapter can choose to utilize it. It certainly doesn't have to.

FSUZeta · #9 06-10-2011, 09:01 PM

To Whom it May Concern,

My name is Patty PNM and I will be attending the University of Mississippi as a freshman this fall. I am planning to participate in sorority recruitment, and understand that I need recommendations.

The sororities at Ol' Miss(or Ole Miss[i can't remember which is correct]) are (list them in Alpha order). I was hoping that you might be able to provide me with contact information for local alumnae members of those sororities who might be willing to help me.

I appreciate any assistance you can provide.

Sincerely,

Patty PNM
123 Hopeful Lane
City, State Zip
Cell Phone Number

DubaiSis · #10 08-08-2011, 07:46 AM

You only have to ask a question once on this site. It will seen by everyone regardless of what category you used. But on the other hand, this is a great post, so bumping it to the top is cool.

DubaiSis · #11 08-20-2011, 04:41 AM

Usually when a girl is in the midst of a conversation at a rush party, it's just a conversation. But sometimes they will press very hard for either information as to your interest in them, or in trying to convince you that they're for you. Sometimes the rushee won't even notice they're pushing, sometimes she'll know and will be pleased at their extra interest, sometimes it's creepy and you just want outta there, and sometimes it's breaking rules.

They might bump several girls onto you so that the most possible girls meet you and you will hopefully make the "connection" with the right girl that will bring you back. Or they might single you out with the one girl who they think will be your perfect match and have her sell you on how awesome the house is.

If it's done well you should not notice, but feel a warm fuzzy walking out of there. If it's done poorly you can feel like you just got assaulted.

This is the sort of thing you don't need to worry about. Go in, try to make friends, not win points, not try to count how many members the other rushees are talking to, not listen in on other people's conversations to see if they're having a more intense conversation than you. You can torpedo your experience by focusing too much on all that crap. There is no sign that you are in/not in/loved/hated. Meeting the president doesn't necessarily mean anything. Being first, 10th or last in line doesn't mean anything.

Get some sleep! Get plenty of fluids, turn off the chatter in your head and from others, and just have a good time.

WCsweet<3 · #12 10-11-2011, 06:10 PM

Please make T_witter private as well. It is just as easy to look up a PNM there as it is on FBook. Tweeting about how drunk you get on gameday is just as bad as posting pictures of it.

MaggieXi · #13 01-17-2012, 02:19 PM

Something to add about ICS/Recruitment Registration information:

1. Fill out the WHOLE profile. Your name and picture does not provide accurate info.
2. About your picture, if you are going to include one, make it of yourself without other people in it. In normal clothes - not your prom picture, not in your halloween costume, not in super hootchy going out clothes, not in your pjs. If you don't have one, have your friend take a picture of you somewhere nice on campus. Also, along the line of pictures: do not include alcohol (I can't believe I actually had to write that!). Your HS portrait is fine to use.
3. Do not provide an artsy picture of just your eye or some other part of your face.
3. Don't lie about your GPA on the application. The school provides your real GPA. Saying you have a 3.9 and really having a 2.8 is a big deal.

DeltaBetaBaby · #14 01-17-2012, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MaggieXi

Something to add about ICS/Recruitment Registration information:

1. Fill out the WHOLE profile. Your name and picture does not provide accurate info.

However, most of the mavens around here suggest you leave off any legacy affiliations.

MaggieXi · #15 01-17-2012, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

However, most of the mavens around here suggest you leave off any legacy affiliations.

I'm not talking about legacy affiliations. I believe that is up to the individual PNM to decide if they want to list them. I'm talking about the registration form itself- Where it asks you what your hometown is, any clubs or activities you belong to in both college and HS, any interests, extracurriculars or hobbies.