Could some BGLO ladies please explain how the NPHC sorority rush process happens?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jforever21

If that's what it sounds like, I may have been misunderstood... I thought the whole I idea was Patty Pledge competing for XYZ's interest not vice versa...

Yes, its my decision & based on my own merits "not the qualities or accomplishments of any other" (i read that on here a while back i forgot who posted that) and I was never intending to jump on anyone's back in the first place. And I have not posted any questions about what "im not interested in" is like after the intial business because if its meant for me to know, I'll know.. soo i am confused as to where one can confuse anything I've said or asked as me "asking" for anything other than the answers to a few basic questions..? Which have been answered already & have helped..

Don't take it as me being fresh or anything but i'd like to know so i can avoid it in the future.
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First of all, I don't appreciate the term "Patty Pledge". That's me. It is offensive to me and it is dumb thing to say on public messageboards about NPHC BGLO's in general.

Second, I do not understand what you are saying. It is cryptic at best. To me that means you are trying to ask questions beyond what we are willing to give and indicates you have failed to do your required research and actions to want to get to know the members on your campus. Others have kindly told you that if you attend all the "functions", they actually do know who you are...

Here's a bit of advice: Hustle for this, because it will not be handed to you on a silver platter. From my vantage point, there are no basic questions...

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

First of all, I don't appreciate the term "Patty Pledge". That's me. It is offensive to me and it is dumb thing to say on public messageboards about NPHC BGLO's in general.
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Here's a bit of advice: Hustle for this, because it will not be handed to you on a silver platter....

Ok, that's understandable. I had no clue the phrase existed until a few days ago. I wasn't aware that it was offensive because I have seen it so many times on this site and I'm definitely not the offensive type... But the note has been taken, and the term has been disintegrated.

I haven't been making any attempts at filling any of my posts with anything that may be deemed cryptic. I have only been asking the questions that I feel will lead me in the right direction of where I want to go. I'm not a huge fan of wasting time, so if I didn't ask what I feel is basic, I could be wasting time running around in too many directions and not getting anything accomplished.

Thanks for the advice! Every bit helps.
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[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by jforever21

I'm not a huge fan of wasting time

You are.

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You are.

?? I don't see how. Just because I'm on this site posting, doesn't mean im stagnant in my real life endeavors (particularly this one). Since you all seem to know your stuff, it would be silly not to take advantage of the info & advice being given. Which THEN would be wasting time. I am simply taking what you all say and adding it to my knowledge bank as I go. Like I said before every bit helps.

[PinkPen]

The websites to NPHC provide answers to BGLO questions regarding how to apply/join and the requirements......undergrad and grad....I know my org's website does.

Whether you ask here or ask someone personally, the answers SHOULD be the same no matter how many times you pose the question.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by jforever21

?? I don't see how.

That's the problem.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jforever21

?? I don't see how. Just because I'm on this site posting, doesn't mean im stagnant in my real life endeavors (particularly this one). Since you all seem to know your stuff, it would be silly not to take advantage of the info & advice being given. Which THEN would be wasting time. I am simply taking what you all say and adding it to my knowledge bank as I go. Like I said before every bit helps.

I do not care about what you do in your real life. The assistance services I provide costs money and I have a business to run. So, if you desire that kind of support, there is a cost to it.

Like I said before, if you want to impress us, make all "A's" on all your tests...

What's your plans for Spring Break?

[KSUViolet06]

I may be completely lane swerving here, but I've always felt like the best way to learn about ANY org (NPHC or otherwise) is to get off the internet and actually meet people who are in said organization.

Everything else is just kind of extraneous. I mean you say you haven't met any members, but you're sitting here on a website talking about it. Why not actually get out and meet some?

I could be wrong though.

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

What's your plans for Spring Break?

I have already had spring break. I worked the whole time. I also did some studying for some exams I have this week.

I have been to the websites and they do answer the general questions for those that are ON any particular campus. I have found that they are not as helpful when it comes to information on membership pertaining to those who are not ON the campus where the active chapter is. I was only asking for a little insight when it came to that...

I have not met any members yet because I am not a student on that campus. They also have not had an event in a while. I am however involved in something this week that could potentially put me in the presence of such members!!

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I may be completely lane swerving here, but I've always felt like the best way to learn about ANY org (NPHC or otherwise) is to get off the internet and actually meet people who are in said organization.

Everything else is just kind of extraneous. I mean you say you haven't met any members, but you're sitting here on a website talking about it. Why not actually get out and meet some?

I could be wrong though.

You are right, most "on it" "interests" would do just like you noted... That is the way it has been done for decades. But for some reason, IDK, these new crop of "interests" are lazy and demand to be spoon-fed. I wonder how they are handling the recession these days for being so lazy?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jforever21

I have already had spring break. I worked the whole time. I also did some studying for some exams I have this week.

I have been to the websites and they do answer the general questions for those that are ON any particular campus. I have found that they are not as helpful when it comes to information on membership pertaining to those who are not ON the campus where the active chapter is. I was only asking for a little insight when it came to that...

I have not met any members yet because I am not a student on that campus. They also have not had an event in a while. I am however involved in something this week that could potentially put me in the presence of such members!!

Maybe you need to rethink your pursuit for membership after you complete college? Sounds like you are in college by a wing and a prayer and it is probably better for you and anyone else who loves and cares for you to not have these activities in your life at this time, and try to finish school, get a job and move on with your life.

If you still want to join, then it will be available after you have improved upon your communication skills, which only come by maturity and life experiences.

@bolded: Now you know that is a lie because I know for a fact my Sorority's International Website has specific language regarding that kind information. Which means to me (Thank God and Praise Jesus!) you are not interested in my Sorority!!! Unfortunately, my sistergreeks have to contend with you and I will let them speak to their websites...

Basically you are lazy. Reading is fundamental! So, I don't want anyone who chooses not to read my Sorority's website to desire membership after I paid to put accurate information in there! If you really do attend a HBCU, your professors would have told you anything in the book is fair game. Same thing with website. Same thing with the LIBRARY!!! Same thing with the campus or campi that the chapter of your interest GLO is present.

Hustle!!!

[PinkPen]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

@bolded: Now you know that is a lie because I know for a fact my Sorority's International Website has specific language regarding that kind information. Which means to me (Thank God and Praise Jesus!) you are not interested in my Sorority!!! Unfortunately, my sistergreeks have to contend with you and I will let them speak to their websites...

Basically you are lazy. Reading is fundamental! So, I don't want anyone who chooses not to read my Sorority's website to desire membership after I paid to put accurate information in there! If you really do attend a HBCU, your professors would have told you anything in the book is fair game. Same thing with website. Same thing with the LIBRARY!!! Same thing with the campus or campi that the chapter of your interest GLO is present.

Hustle!!!

I tried to tell her that 7 posts up^^.

RIF....which goes to show, well.....nevermind.......

[TreKlub]

OMG!! Yall are so rude. Does it really take all that to answer this person's question?? I think, as Greeks, sometimes we forget how it was to be a GDI. She stated in her message that she is not even on the same campus as the greek organization that she is interested in and she just wants to know what would be a subtle way of letting them know she is interested. I think the simple reply of showing up to activities and various community service projects of the organization would have been a sufficient answer. I know we Greeks are supposed have the mentatlity of "we don't need you but you need us" but does it have to go to this extreme? I think we can all agree that BGLO's are already being viewed in a negative manner by outsiders because of hazing and lawsuites, do we really need to add fuel to the fire by being rude and condescending to potential applicants??

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by TreKlub

I think the simple reply of showing up to activities and various community service projects of the organization would have been a sufficient answer. I know we Greeks are supposed have the mentatlity of "we don't need you but you need us" but does it have to go to this extreme?

Lane swerving again I know, but I personally don't think my reply was rude.

It's true, if you want to learn about an org (and potentially be part of it), you have to MEET people in it. Sitting on a message board talking about meeting XYZ sorority members doesn't get you anywhere.

There is nothing rude about that.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by TreKlub

OMG!! Yall are so rude. Does it really take all that to answer this person's question?? I think, as Greeks, sometimes we forget how it was to be a GDI. She stated in her message that she is not even on the same campus as the greek organization that she is interested in and she just wants to know what would be a subtle way of letting them know she is interested. I think the simple reply of showing up to activities and various community service projects of the organization would have been a sufficient answer. I know we Greeks are supposed have the mentatlity of "we don't need you but you need us" but does it have to go to this extreme? I think we can all agree that BGLO's are already being viewed in a negative manner by outsiders because of hazing and lawsuites, do we really need to add fuel to the fire by being rude and condescending to potential applicants??

How about some discretion, perhaps?

She is loaded with "excuses"...

It is a liability for me to speak about anything related to membership beyond the International Website, campus/local websites, Google, libraries and what is said to her face-to-face in her local area--assuming it is a "her" because one never knows on the internet these days...

We do not KNOW her, so it is unwise to tell her anything...