Auburn Recruitment Fall '08

[tennesseemom]

Yeah!! I am excited your daughters have parties to go to! One of the auburn moms asked if there are more cuts before pref day and the answer unfortunately is yes. Traditionally after skit day it is a heavy cut. some sororities this is the day they make their "legacy" cut. depending on what quota is (typicallly for Auburn it is around 55-60) Sororities will invite 2 to 3 times the amount of quota to pref. So that means for sorority xyz, a total of around 150 girls will be invited to pref, and they can extend around 55 bids. Hope that makes sense- hang in there, keep up the positive smiles, believe it or not, lots of girls quit here....tell them to hang in, its almost over!!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by tennesseemom

Sororities will invite 2 to 3 times the amount of quota to pref. So that means for sorority xyz, a total of around 150 girls will be invited to pref, and they can extend around 55 bids.

I'm not sure, but I believe this may not be the case any longer if the new release figure methods are being utilized. School me if I'm wrong, people in the thick of this.

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I'm not sure, but I believe this may not be the case any longer if the new release figure methods are being utilized. School me if I'm wrong, people in the thick of this.

you are correct. with the new release figures method, more "popular" groups will need fewer PNMs at preference in order to make quota and so may not have the traditional 3x quota at preference nor have been allowed to issue as many invitations as before.

[AuburnMom08]

Originally Posted by tennesseemom

Yeah!! I am excited your daughters have parties to go to! One of the auburn moms asked if there are more cuts before pref day and the answer unfortunately is yes. Traditionally after skit day it is a heavy cut. some sororities this is the day they make their "legacy" cut. depending on what quota is (typicallly for Auburn it is around 55-60) Sororities will invite 2 to 3 times the amount of quota to pref. So that means for sorority xyz, a total of around 150 girls will be invited to pref, and they can extend around 55 bids. Hope that makes sense- hang in there, keep up the positive smiles, believe it or not, lots of girls quit here....tell them to hang in, its almost over!!

Oh that is very informative. Thank you!

I just found out that legacies typically send gifts to the house during the week as they are making their decisions...gift cards, flowers, food...I had no idea!

[ztafromuk]

Originally Posted by AuburnMom08

I just found out that legacies typically send gifts to the house during the week as they are making their decisions...gift cards, flowers, food...I had no idea!

I don't think the legacies typically send gifts. Their alumnae mothers / sisters / grandmas / whatever might.

It wasn't typical at Kentucky. Some alums would send flowers / balloons / snacks for the members during work week and rush week, but I never saw the alleged "Remember Suzy Rushee" cheesecake.

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by AuburnMom08

Oh that is very informative. Thank you!

I just found out that legacies typically send gifts to the house during the week as they are making their decisions...gift cards, flowers, food...I had no idea!

At least as my school way back when, if a legacy that was going through rush sent a gift to a house, it was considered a rush infraction.

Alumnae would send things, but not legacies

[srmom]

A friend of ours husband just got sent home from the war in a box. Two small children.

Remind your daughters of things like this.

That is absolutely awful and tragic. Hopefully none of us will experience that sadness in our lifetime. My dear friend has her 19 year old son over there and is scared day and night. We all pray for his safe return and will rejoice when it happens.

That being said, it bothers me when others try to minimilize feelings by comparing some terrifically awful thing with what they percieve to be a "minor" upset.

Like yesterday, my son, who got his license exactly 6 days earlier, got into a wreck (thankfully just a fender-bender but did about $3,000 damage to this man's truck). I was PISSED! - Angry, upset, worried about my insurance rates, etc. My father in law said, with condescension in his voice, "Yes, it is a bummer, but all of your kids are healthy." Well, OF COURSE I know that and appreciate it beyond belief!!! But, dangit I was upset when it happened, is that so wrong? Within a few hours, my anger had simmered, and I am just fine now.

I'm sure there are people who are even tempered all of the time, never letting things bother them, I wish everybody could be that way, but, I admit I'm not, I get upset over things that some others with much worse problems would probably think are silly, I get over them quickly, which is a blessing. Just don't discount my feelings because YOU think they're silly, they are MY feelings and I'm going to own them. It's not your problem, it's mine!!!

Sorry I had to respond to this post and I am not in any way discounting that what has happened to your friend, it just doesn't have anything to do with rush at Auburn, and telling a girl who is upset that just got cut by every house that she should feel fine because it could be worse is not really respecting the fact that she has feelings that are hurting right now.

When a kid falls down and skins his knee do you say, "Suck it up, your leg could be broken?" No, you comfort them until they feel better then move on..

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by srmom

That is absolutely awful and tragic. Hopefully none of us will experience that sadness in our lifetime. My dear friend has her 19 year old son over there and is scared day and night. We all pray for his safe return and will rejoice when it happens.

That being said, it bothers me when others try to minimilize feelings by comparing some terrifically awful thing with what they percieve to be a "minor" upset.

Like yesterday, my son, who got his license exactly 6 days earlier, got into a wreck (thankfully just a fender-bender but did about $3,000 damage to this man's truck). I was PISSED! - Angry, upset, worried about my insurance rates, etc. My father in law said, with condescension in his voice, "Yes, it is a bummer, but all of your kids are healthy." Well, OF COURSE I know that and appreciate it beyond belief!!! But, dangit I was upset when it happened, is that so wrong? Within a few hours, my anger had simmered, and I am just fine now.

I'm sure there are people who are even tempered all of the time, never letting things bother them, I wish everybody could be that way, but, I admit I'm not, I get upset over things that some others with much worse problems would probably think are silly, I get over them quickly, which is a blessing. Just don't discount my feelings because YOU think they're silly, they are MY feelings and I'm going to own them. It's not your problem, it's mine!!!

Sorry I had to respond to this post and I am not in any way discounting that what has happened to your friend, it just doesn't have anything to do with rush at Auburn, and telling a girl who is upset that just got cut by every house that she should feel fine because it could be worse is not really respecting the fact that she has feelings that are hurting right now.

When a kid falls down and skins his knee do you say, "Suck it up, your leg could be broken?" No, you comfort them until they feel better then move on..

Exactly what I was thinking, but said much better than I would have.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by srmom

That being said, it bothers me when others try to minimilize feelings by comparing some terrifically awful thing with what they percieve to be a "minor" upset.

THANK YOU!

Also, AuburnMom08, with 6 parties at the max and 4 chapters that your daughter could be invited to, it would definitely be in the realm of possibilities that Panhellenic would put her parties later. She got a little extra sleep maybe?

[Army Wife'79]

Barbie, our husband's do what they do b/c they chose to. We all know the knock on the door can come anytime and we will will be wearing black and listening to a 21 guy salute. That does not mean we live our lives in fear and discourage our kids from having normal lives (if normal means living in 10 states by time they graduate high school). I'm sorry for your loss, but there will always be greater tragedies than our own. (i.e. 9/11 and Katrina). This does not mean we can't be hapy for our own little successes in life or worry about our own small problems.

[AuburnMom08]

Thank you, srmom. My thoughts exactly.

[Just interested]

sr mom, Thank you. It is like you were reading my mind.

[NeverBeBarbie]

Oh no I was not meaning to bring any of you down- just reminding you of the real world.

Carry on.

[ComradesTrue]

^^^Sockpuppet?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

^^^Sockpuppet?

I like the way they're supporting their friend and her children by signing up and posting random anonymous comments on a message board. That's a bowl of awesome, man.