Which would you choose: school or GLO?

[JohnnyCash]

I would pick my GLO any day. I would love for my kid(s?) to go to my alma mater since I can see it changing a lot (for the better) in the future, but if my chapter isn't a good chapter when my son is college-aged then I wouldn't mind him choosing another school that has a better chapter.

I would not accept him joining any other fraternity than my own though.

[Preston327]

Originally Posted by JohnnyCash

I would not accept him joining any other fraternity than my own though.

I don't know how I'd feel about that, honestly. Obviously I have awhile to think about it but still its a conflict. On the one hand I want my (future) sons to experience the same things I have in Delta Tau Delta, but on the other I realize that each person has their own unique fit and Delt may not be right for them.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by JohnnyCash

I would pick my GLO any day. I would love for my kid(s?) to go to my alma mater since I can see it changing a lot (for the better) in the future, but if my chapter isn't a good chapter when my son is college-aged then I wouldn't mind him choosing another school that has a better chapter.

I would not accept him joining any other fraternity than my own though.

What if he went to a school where your fraternity wasn't? And for whatever reason, your nationals weren't up for having a colony there?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Preston327

I don't know how I'd feel about that, honestly.

I do.

My son becoming my fraternity brother because it's what he wants = awesome.

My son becoming my fraternity brother because it's what I want = total parental failure.

[als463]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

Finally answering my own question...

I would choose Tri Delta. I've already indoctrinated my daughter enough by (almost) age 4 that she'll be a Spartan to some degree no matter where she ends up going to college.

But there are no women in any of my extended family on either side who are Greek and I would love to share Tri Delta with her. If not Tri Delta, just sharing the Greek experience would also be rewarding.

Wait...By Spartan, do you mean Michigan State? If so, hello to my Big Ten friend! I'm a PSU graduate!

[Preston327]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I do.

My son becoming my fraternity brother because it's what he wants = awesome.

My son becoming my fraternity brother because it's what I want = total parental failure.

Yeah true, but all the same I think I'd probably a little disappointed if my (future) son ended up somewhere else.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by als463

Wait...By Spartan, do you mean Michigan State? If so, hello to my Big Ten friend! I'm a PSU graduate!

Oh, yes! Michigan State! Go Big Ten!

[DTD Alum]

School, absolutely. I love USC. I think it is the best school in the nation and would love for my (future) kids to go there. It'd be cool if they pledged DTD, but chapters change. The row at the end of my senior year did not resemble at all what it looked like my freshman year (at least for fraternities, it seems like the sororities have been the same since the 40s). This is true in terms of what chapters were present and the strengths and personalities of the chapters that stayed the course. If they prefer another fraternity or DTD isn't what they are looking for so be it...at least they are part of the Trojan family. We had several actives whose fathers had been in different SC fraternities that they just didn't see themselves in. Although my brother (their future uncle) was also an SC Delt so that would be a cool family tie.

[When Doves Cry]

Tough question

I love(d) my school, but I also love(d) my sorority. I just hated the academic part of school If I didn't have to go to classes, both would've made me equally happy

So all in all, I can't answer that question

[violetpretty]

I'm kind of surprised to see the overwhelming number of people who said alma mater, since this is Greek chat. I have little attachment to my alma mater as compared to my GLO. I was never Suzy-School Spirit. So that would be easy for me, my GLO of course. I feel like I would have had a similar experience at other large state universities. Then again, I could have been happy in other GLOs at Maryland, and I wouldn't necessarily be a Sigma Kappa if I went to another school. But when I think about the two scenarios:
A) my long-off future daughter loving Maryland and not going Greek/not joining Sigma Kappa
or
B) my long-off future daughter going to another university and finding happiness in Sigma Kappa

I'd pick B no question. Sharing Sigma Kappa is so much more meaningful. I wouldn't drop everything to help another Terp in need but I sure would help another Sigma Kappa.

[alum]

I would have loved my daughter to become a Tartan or a Kappa but c'est la vie.

Carnegie Mellon did not have a strong department in her major, so I gave up hope while she was still in high school. In terms of women's fraternities, she is a member of the Monmouth Duo. Close, but no cigar.


My niece is CMU caliber and I could see it being a good fit for her. It all depends on the chaper in terms of Kappa. Her mom (my bio sister) is also a KKG but we went to very different schools.

I can't see my son and nephew fitting into CMU but perhaps they will pledge SAE like their uncle. Their fathers are Academy graduates so no Greek affiliation there,

[greekmomjo]

GLO, you bet.

[als463]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I'm kind of surprised to see the overwhelming number of people who said alma mater, since this is Greek chat. I have little attachment to my alma mater as compared to my GLO. I was never Suzy-School Spirit. So that would be easy for me, my GLO of course. I feel like I would have had a similar experience at other large state universities. Then again, I could have been happy in other GLOs at Maryland, and I wouldn't necessarily be a Sigma Kappa if I went to another school. But when I think about the two scenarios:
A) my long-off future daughter loving Maryland and not going Greek/not joining Sigma Kappa
or
B) my long-off future daughter going to another university and finding happiness in Sigma Kappa

I'd pick B no question. Sharing Sigma Kappa is so much more meaningful. I wouldn't drop everything to help another Terp in need but I sure would help another Sigma Kappa.

I like what you said, right here. I guess you are right about that, although I would always be willing to help a Nittany Lion out, any day of the week! As a Penn State Alumna, I have so much school spirit and pride but, I would def. help a Phi Mu out, if she ever needed me! I said school, earlier. I still stand by that but, (AND THIS IS A BIG BUT) if she went to another equally good school (or better) and there was a Phi Mu chapter there, I'd LOVE-LOVE-LOVE to see my daughter become a member of the "Faithful Sisters." I would love to share that bond and be at her initiation.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I'm kind of surprised to see the overwhelming number of people who said alma mater, since this is Greek chat. I have little attachment to my alma mater as compared to my GLO. I was never Suzy-School Spirit. So that would be easy for me, my GLO of course. I feel like I would have had a similar experience at other large state universities. Then again, I could have been happy in other GLOs at Maryland, and I wouldn't necessarily be a Sigma Kappa if I went to another school. But when I think about the two scenarios:
A) my long-off future daughter loving Maryland and not going Greek/not joining Sigma Kappa
or
B) my long-off future daughter going to another university and finding happiness in Sigma Kappa

I'd pick B no question. Sharing Sigma Kappa is so much more meaningful. I wouldn't drop everything to help another Terp in need but I sure would help another Sigma Kappa.

I love my organization, but I guess because my mother (and all the females in my family in fact) is Greek but in a different organization I've become partial to that relationship. Since many NPC organizations have similar structures, and there are some across the board commonalities in sororities we have enough in common to still talk about our experiences, but she's not all up in my business. I'll probably be the only one in the family that is a member of my organization since there are only two girl cousins left that are not in sororities and I have a feeling they'll be in the same sororities as their mothers. I kinda like being unique.

But I love my campus so much, too. It's perfect for me and just like different chapters aren't a fit for everyone, schools aren't either, but I'd be delighted if my daughter could share my alma mater with me. And currently at least the other four sororities on campus all have strong chapters and are all very strong, well respected organizations nationally/internationally, so I'd be ok with her joining one of those, if my chapter wasn't a good fit for her. Honestly I would have a hard time if she didn't want to go Greek at all, but if I ever make her feel bad about it I'll be very ashamed of myself.