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ilovemyglo · #1 08-15-2005, 03:19 PM

Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
Like "So, where are you working? What do you do? Oh that sounds fun! Are you dating anyone? How long?"

My gyno also sees two of my good friends and my sister in law... she is always "so how is so and so and so and so..."
Can we wait til your head is out of my crotch to talk? Please?!

tunatartare · #2 08-15-2005, 03:20 PM

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Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
Like "So, where are you working? What do you do? Oh that sounds fun! Are you dating anyone? How long?"

My gyno also sees two of my good friends and my sister in law... she is always "so how is so and so and so and so..."
Can we wait til your head is out of my crotch to talk? Please?!

thank G-d this has never happened to me

MoonStar17 · #3 08-15-2005, 03:48 PM

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Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
Like "So, where are you working? What do you do? Oh that sounds fun! Are you dating anyone? How long?"

My gyno also sees two of my good friends and my sister in law... she is always "so how is so and so and so and so..."
Can we wait til your head is out of my crotch to talk? Please?!

OMG i thought i was the only one who felt like this. The nurse practioner I see works in my office building, so shes always talking to me about work things and asking me how my boyfriend is..and how things are..blah blah blah..

i get so aggitated cause I feel so exposed and its not one of my "better" moments.. so how can anyone carry a conversation?!

christiangirl · #4 08-17-2005, 02:11 AM

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I'll bump this thread up on the 16th...if I don't....just know how much I loved you all...keep me in your thoughts and don't forget me...

I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO VIOLATED IN MY LIFE!!!!

Okay, that's an exaggeration, but it was really uncomfortable. Turns out he's the man who delivered me. So my mom kept saying, "Well, at least it's someone you know!" Okay, mom, the last time I saw him was how many years ago while I was upside down and balling my eyes out.

Well, the first man to check me out down there was the first man to give me an exam down there, I almost wanted to say, "It's all the same stuff, you don't need to check, really..."

His hands were really cold and when he pressed on my stomach, I couldn't help but laugh (I'm ticklish) then he jammed his fingers in and pulled the vaginal walls apart and ALL THE GIGGLES WERE SUPPRESSED. There was nay a "tee-hee" out of me, it hurt so much. After that it was over, I wasn't there for a full exam. But I didn't like it one bit.

SDTSarah · #5 08-25-2005, 07:17 PM

By the way, if anyone needs a good gyno on the south side of Atlanta (she's a GP, but she's really good), I have a really good doctor. She's very gentle and never forgets to WARM everything.

Benzgirl · #6 10-16-2007, 10:54 AM

Three of my cousins -- all male -- are OBGYNs. I wouldn't hesitate to go to any of them, if they lived near me. Unfortunately, they all live over 1500 miles away.

SydneyK · #7 10-16-2007, 11:13 AM

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Three of my cousins -- all male -- are OBGYNs. I wouldn't hesitate to go to any of them...

Wow. Really?

I would be completely uncomfortable with a family member as my OB/GYN.

honeychile · #8 10-16-2007, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

Wow. Really?

I would be completely uncomfortable with a family member as my OB/GYN.

Me, too! My roomie finished her OB/GYN rotation with an intern she liked, and I've been with her ever since. I learned the hard way to NEVER recommend a good doctor - now, it's almost impossible to get an appointment!

Benzgirl · #9 10-16-2007, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

Wow. Really?

I would be completely uncomfortable with a family member as my OB/GYN.

Two of them are brothers. One delivered his brother's baby (sister-in-law was a doctor too). I guess we aren't that modest.

SydneyK · #10 10-16-2007, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Benzgirl

Two of them are brothers. One delivered his brother's baby (sister-in-law was a doctor too). I guess we aren't that modest.

This is going to sound crazy, but I think I could be (mostly) comfortable having a family member deliver a baby... but for yearly check-ups (and for that matter, for the check-ups throughout pregnancy), not so much. Having given birth twice now, I'm pretty much of the opinion that there's no room for modesty when it comes to delivery. That's just part of childbirth. But, I don't feel the same way about check-ups.

I think it must have something to do with all the hormones/adrenaline/etc... of childbirth. Or maybe it's because hubby is there during childbirth (and not check-ups). I dunno.

CutiePie2000 · #11 08-27-2005, 12:01 AM

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Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?

It's actually to try to distract you, or take the focus off of what is going on...it's not that they actually give a isht as to what you have to say.

CatStarESP4 · #12 10-16-2007, 03:15 AM

I see only female OB/GYNs due to their prospective and that I feel comfortable seeing one. It just puts me at ease when I get that internal exam.

Last year, I was diagnosed with an ovarian teratoma on one of my ovaries. It consumed that ovary. A female gynocological surgeon performed surgery to have it removed (fortunately, it was benign). During the pre-surgical visits, she made me feel comfortable and more relaxed about the procedure.

nikki1920 · #13 10-16-2007, 09:13 AM

My first OB/GYN was a man. He was THEE best. He taught me that I was my own best advocate, and if any doctor was doing anything to make me feel uncomfortable in ANY way, that I needed to tell them to STOP and end the appointment. Many of us will not do that for fear of looking stupid or silly or whatever. ALL of my GYNs will be measured against him because he was that good. He was the kind of doctor who was ALWAYS running late because he took however much time the patient needed. My midwife was the same when I had my daughter.

I don't buy the theory that men dont make good GYNs because they dont have the same equipment. Some medical professionals are just assholes by nature, but will take it down if they are CALLED on it and a formal complaint is given. They are there to serve you, not the other way around. Don't be afraid to ask for someone else, if you can.

And in regards to pain, you have to make it relative. Not just "it hurts", but be as descriptive as possible: on a scale of 1 to 10, its a 7, it feels like someone with a hot iron is stabbing my uterus (I've said these things!). I have had some rough female doctors perform my annual tests, and I let them know when it hurts or feels uncomfortable. It's YOUR body and its unique. What they do for others, may not work for you, but they won't know that until and unless you tell them. The key is to try to relax as much as possible and to keep breathing normally.

EVERY woman should see a GYN yearly after the age of 18 or when she becomes sexually active, whichever happens first. Not being sexually active is NOT a reason to avoid the GYN. If you are uncomfortable, do what we are doing here. Ask your girlfriends, talk to other women about issues specific to us and don't be embarrassed. We've all been in the stirrups, and can offer some advice to someone.

WebMD is a great source of information. Has anyone else ever had a Bartholin's Gland cyst? I had one last year and it was VERY painful.

AlphaFrog · #14 10-16-2007, 09:21 AM

I will be going back to the OB/GYN who delivered baby #2 for sure. The appt that I had my pap smear, the nurse got out all of the equipment, and I assumed the position, etc. She did my normal check down there and listened to the baby. Then she told me she was done and I asked if she was going to do the pap smear, and she said that she had already done it when she checked me. It was so painless, I didn't even realize she had done it.

I will never go back to OB/GYN who delivered baby #1. Fake nails + checking for dilation = OUCH X 100!!!!

Scandia · #15 10-16-2007, 11:33 AM

I have only seen female gynecologists.

I do go to a male endocrinologist who does have to check on my chest and back for certain signs- but he wears gloves and it is SO clinical that it is as if I were being checked by a robot. I have been going to him for 12 years and do not mind it one bit.

I had an EKG done once by a very handsome technician. But a gynecologist is where I draw the line.