IU PNM Numbers - Page 6

IndianaSigKap · #76 12-31-2014, 06:26 PM

As an active member who lived in the house and off campus, I preferred living off campus. Partially because I hated the cold dorm and lack of closet space, in all honesty. I do not believe that living in the house is the end all be all of sorority life. Living out allowed me to be healthier, therefore I was able to be a better member. I had a meal plan to eat at the house whenever I wanted and just made sure to put a little extra effort into building relationships. You can most definitely have a good Greek experience at Indiana without living in a house.

hooosier · #77 12-31-2014, 08:25 PM

I hope that's true if I end up getting a bid from an Unhoused chapter or any chapter really. I worry no one will consider me because I have below a 3.0 but I have reasons for my tough first semester.( I'm not going to spew my sob story to any of them, because no one really cares and I don't want to be "that" girl).

#78 01-13-2015, 10:48 PM

A bit of advice needed. If one is a Legacy... and likes that house.. but also likes a second house... do you play it safe and rank Legacy House #1? Especially if house is interested in her? Had no idea IU was SO competitive

33girl · #79 01-13-2015, 10:52 PM

Which one does she like best?

#80 01-13-2015, 11:05 PM

That's the problem... she is having a hard time picking between the two. This is all assuming she has this choice after Saturday... but what would you do? Rank the Legacy #1 regardless??

33girl · #81 01-14-2015, 12:07 AM

Don't plan for things that may not occur. They might both cut her. Who knows.

thetalady · #82 01-14-2015, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Life is good

That's the problem... she is having a hard time picking between the two. This is all assuming she has this choice after Saturday... but what would you do? Rank the Legacy #1 regardless??

Step back, Mom. Let your daughter make her OWN choices and decisions.

KSUViolet06 · #83 01-14-2015, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by thetalady

Step back, Mom. Let your daughter make her OWN choices and decisions.

YES.

There is nothing worse than ranking a chapter first and getting it, then feeling like you didn't actually want it. Or you did it because mom/sister/whoever wanted you to, knowing you didn't really want it.

#84 01-14-2015, 10:31 AM

It's interesting how I came here just for some advice. You see I was in a house a long time ago and things have changed. I moved on from college life , got a job , had a family, friends... By the amount of posts some of you have... I would say you need to get off your computer and get a life. You certainly aren't here to help others.
My daughter and I are very close, she has asked me what to do... I don't know what to tell her. I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

KDCat · #85 01-14-2015, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Life is good

It's interesting how I came here just for some advice. You see I was in a house a long time ago and things have changed. I moved on from college life , got a job , had a family, friends... By the amount of posts some of you have... I would say you need to get off your computer and get a life. You certainly aren't here to help others.
My daughter and I are very close, she has asked me what to do... I don't know what to tell her. I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

You got good advice and it was kindly and honestly rendered. I'm sorry that you don't like the advice. It's the same advice that I would give any alumna of my own sorority, including the ones that I work with as a chapter adviser or member of a house corporation.

She should put the one that she likes best as #1.

tinydancer · #86 01-14-2015, 11:11 AM

KSUViolet is one of the kindest and most helpful people here on GC. I'm sorry that point passed you by.

Katmandu · #87 01-14-2015, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Life is good

I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

Perhaps that is what you should tell her.

More than a few posters here are chapter advisors, consultants, officers of alumnae chapters, long time rec writers, even regional or national officers of their respective groups. As a whole, the collective wisdom from long time posters is sound, practical and honest.

You have received good advice here but have chosen to act as a snarky asshat, posting the same question on a variety of threads, then acting out when you don't get the answers you are evidently seeking. If you don't like what you are hearing then quit asking for advice.

AZTheta · #88 01-14-2015, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by tinydancer

KSUViolet is one of the kindest and most helpful people here on GC. I'm sorry that point passed you by.

THIS.

Life is good: your use of terms like "was in a house" and "sorority girls" indicates that you have not maintained contact with your organization. Correct me if I'm mistaken. Further, we have many parents (dads come here too) who post who do NOT come across the way that you have in your short time here. You've been given help and suggestions and all you've done is take umbrage and confirm the observations of others that you are a helicopter mom. I hope that your daughter finds a home using her OWN mind. Otherwise it will likely not go well for her.

I'm going to overlook your judgemental crack about getting a life, although it's really tempting to observe that you might do well to take your own advice and get out of your daughter's life. But I won't say it, because I'm trying my best to emulate KSUViolet, although I'm not having much success - yet.

DubaiSis · #89 01-14-2015, 01:57 PM

Or here's an option. She should absolutely put her legacy chapter first. There is a black and white answer for you.

(This answer has absolutely nothing to do with anything and should be utterly disregarded, but seemed like the answer that was sought. In real life I would rank based on your daughter's actual real life preferences. Most, but I am not prepared to say all, NPC sororities, if a chapter invites her to preference parties are required to put her in their top bid list, therefore guaranteeing her a space. That being said a lot LOT of legacies get cut the round just before preference because while they may like her enough to offer her a bid, they may not want to have to put her on that top list. The days when legacies were a shoo in have passed, maybe 10 or 15 years ago)

33girl · #90 01-14-2015, 02:07 PM

You acknowledged that you are assuming, and as Felix Unger so eloquently said, when we assume, we make an ass out of u and me.

Your question is not a question your daughter needs to deal with until January 18, and possibly not even then. Until then she needs to be learning as much about the sororities still on her party list as she can, meeting as many women as she can, and doing all she can to ignore rumors, gossip and tent talk.

Gaming the system might work to simply get you a bid, but it rarely works to put you in the place where you'll be truly happy. It rarely works in deferred rush at all.