nphc and anxiety

[UGAalum94]

Another silly/ignorant question from an NPCer, in the AKA photos/video are they wearing sunglasses partly because their eyes are closed?

I know that may sound stupid, but they were moving like they were being guided solely by the girl in front of them, and they had their heads down too. Or is it just for style and uniformity maybe?

I hope things work out for the OP. I can see how the event would be stressful in a lot of ways: attention, crowds, etc. But maybe with the strength of the group she can overcome it, especially if she is strong in the other areas of service.

Random AKA thought: pink and green are powerfully associated with AKA, even by random white people. I have kind of a loud pink and green outfit (it's really not pretty enough for AKA), and I wore it to work one day, and another middle aged white woman (non-NPHC or NPC, in her case) remarked to me that those were AKA colors. I knew it already, but it was funny to me that she mentioned it to me. Not Delta Zeta or whatever, Alpha Kappa Alpha= pink and green.

[12dn94dst]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Another silly/ignorant question from an NPCer, in the AKA photos/video are they wearing sunglasses partly because their eyes are closed?

I know that may sound stupid, but they were moving like they were being guided solely by the girl in front of them, and they had their heads down too. Or is it just for style and uniformity maybe?

It's a means to disguise identity to enhance the surprise. Some chapters have their lines wear masks, either full face or just covering the eyes & nose (like in the pics Senusret posted), some paint faces, some don't do anything at all.

I would hope their eyes were open, but if not, WOW, they're good!

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by 12dn94dst

It's a means to disguise identity to enhance the surprise. Some chapters have their lines wear masks, either full face or just covering the eyes & nose (like in the pics Senusret posted), some paint faces, some don't do anything at all.

I would hope their eyes were open, but if not, WOW, they're good!

The section I was thinking of was really when they were moving in a line several steps forward and back and they seems be to holding hands with the person in front and in back. Maybe I missed a lot though.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 12dn94dst

it can be on stage, sometimes. my undergraduate chapter had a step show and the new sorors' coming out show fell on the same day. they were the last act of the show. but typically, coming out shows are outside.

Thanks for the info...there are some amazing vids on youtube.

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

My mistake. I thought it was an open forum and she seemed quite upset.

As it tells us in 1Thessalonians 5:15 "See that no one returns evil for evil; rather, always seek what is good (both) for each other and for all"

I may not know what I am talking about but I know when a person has been replied to in a harsh manner. Some replies were very mean.

And what meds are you on? If you read the entire thread, which I doubt you would have seen a variety of opinions on this open forum. One comment was questioning the validity of the post; see if you were NPHC or knew anything about it you would realize any prospective concerning themselves with a coming out show as opposed to being qualified to make line, making line, and most importantly serving the community through community service seems suspect.

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I said I was sorry. I am not on meds nor do I need to be unless empathy is an illness. That was unnecessary. She seemed upset and I was trying to be kind. I felt badly for her. This is obviously not the place for kindness. I will not be back. Sorry.

I'm sorry but BWAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Originally Posted by Reds6

I'm sorry but BWAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm taking my ball and going home! *HMPH!*

[AKA_Monet]

Well, I say half the things I say to interests because I really cannot afford anymore dues increases because some interest is unclear about the strict membership requirements.

Maybe, I cannot afford my pearls to be snatched because some little girls thought it would be funny to not fully disclose her readiness or preparation in joining my Sorority and undergo an illegal kind of process.

I am not saying we are intolerant to those who are physically or mentally disabled, but to fathom thinking things about requirements for membership when we clearly have this information available on our websites indicates to me that a person chooses to ONLY see membership at the level college/university and NEVER her duty beyond that of college.

And maybe I am tired of seeing inactive members due to my Sorority's empinging Centennial Celebration because these girls thought it cute to wear T-shirts when they were young and thought it funny to tease girls unlike them--especially when my Sorority and all the D9 NPHC organizations are about community service.

I think my Soror Eleanor Roosevelt, Soror Rosa Parks and Soror Corretta Scott King are rolling over in their graves...

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I will not be back. Sorry.

Sure, sure.

[JonInKC]

Just remember...ain't no half steppin'...

I'm just sayin'.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm thinking about rushing for a black sorority, and have been for like a year but i have social anxiety disorder and the idea of a probate show scares the crap out of me and has kept me away. do you think greeks would be sensitive to this, or would i just get written off for being scared and not outgoing enough??? i realllly want to rush, but also a lot of the time i seriously just can't physically take being the focus of a group and i cant imagine theres any way to get out of doing a probate show because its such a tradition

I can relate to your anxiety issues, but you don't really have to worry about the probate show, because that is a very SMALL part of what you will do in an NPHC org for your LIFETIME. I'm not a very 'show offey' person either, but there are SO many other aspects to my org that it really doesn't hinder my membership. Believe me, it seems like a big deal, but in the big picture of things, it's not. Remember also, unless you're the only person online, you're not there by yourself either.


And I'm LMAO @ some of these responses!

And oh yeah, the suggestion of joining other orgs was a good one, as well as thinking about membership once you graduate college, where you won't be put so much on the spotlight in that manner (but you will have spotlight moments, though).

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I said I was sorry. I am not on meds nor do I need to be unless empathy is an illness. That was unnecessary. She seemed upset and I was trying to be kind. I felt badly for her. This is obviously not the place for kindness. I will not be back. Sorry.

That is a wise decision.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

You reallllllllly don't know what you're talking about here. Are you in an NPHC org?

Originally Posted by Reds6

Are we reading the same thread?

I know!

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I was trying to be kind and helpful to a woman with a disability. Boy am I an idiot. How dare I try to help her?

OP, PM me if you need any advice or help. I really feel for your position. I know how hard it is.

You people should be ashamed for discouraging her.

Not saying NPCer can not post in this thread, but she clearly named the thread with NPHC in mind. I have a good feeling that you may know less about NPHC than I (an Alpha Kappa Alpha woman) or any of the rest of us for that matter.....maybe ut us just a hunch.

*Singing: I-I-I-I got a feeling....I-I-I-I got a feeling Sorors*

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

My mistake. I thought it was an open forum and she seemed quite upset.

As it tells us in 1Thessalonians 5:15 "See that no one returns evil for evil; rather, always seek what is good (both) for each other and for all"

I may not know what I am talking about but I know when a person has been replied to in a harsh manner. Some replies were very mean.

Do me a favor....don't got to PledgePark.com

Originally Posted by Reds6

I'm sorry but BWAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO

[ejay286]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

I can relate to your anxiety issues, but you don't really have to worry about the probate show, because that is a very SMALL part of what you will do in an NPHC org for your LIFETIME. I'm not a very 'show offey' person either, but there are SO many other aspects to my org that it really doesn't hinder my membership. Believe me, it seems like a big deal, but in the big picture of things, it's not. Remember also, unless you're the only person online, you're not there by yourself either.


And I'm LMAO @ some of these responses!

And oh yeah, the suggestion of joining other orgs was a good one, as well as thinking about membership once you graduate college, where you won't be put so much on the spotlight in that manner (but you will have spotlight moments, though).

Best response I have read so far.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

I can relate to your anxiety issues, but you don't really have to worry about the probate show, because that is a very SMALL part of what you will do in an NPHC org for your LIFETIME. I'm not a very 'show offey' person either, but there are SO many other aspects to my org that it really doesn't hinder my membership. Believe me, it seems like a big deal, but in the big picture of things, it's not. Remember also, unless you're the only person online, you're not there by yourself either.


And I'm LMAO @ some of these responses!

And oh yeah, the suggestion of joining other orgs was a good one, as well as thinking about membership once you graduate college, where you won't be put so much on the spotlight in that manner (but you will have spotlight moments, though).

Thanks for a solid answer without all the hype Soror...we were all interests once upon a time...