Tacky wedding "invitation" - Page 5

tunatartare · #61 07-06-2006, 02:46 PM

So it's different to make fun of people for having wedding receptions at White Castle in the ghetto weddings thread, but if someone came and posted in the D&R forum about wanting to have his/her wedding reception at White Castle you wouldn't nitpick at those details?

Marie · #62 07-06-2006, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Umm...I think she was referring to the irony of you nit-picking people for getting nit-picky about details. And the fact that you were also being pretentious doesn't hurt the irony argument.

Yeah...I got that. Thanks!

Anyway, I haven't nit picked...only answered the question that was stated. Did u miss that post? Additionally, perhaps I am a bit pretentious. *shrug* Doesn't change the fact that if you look back at some of our wedding thread, these 'ladies' have attacked some of the ideas/customs/traditions/whatever with a nastiness and cruelty that is unrivaled.

Marie · #63 07-06-2006, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

So it's different to make fun of people for having wedding receptions at White Castle in the ghetto weddings thread, but if someone came and posted in the D&R forum about wanting to have his/her wedding reception at White Castle you wouldn't nitpick at those details?

You'll want to reread my post for the portion that discussed extremes versus small details. Of course we'd call someone out for asking what the board thought about having a wedding at White Castle. While, I'm not sure that I'd be as nasty as some of the people on here about even something THAT off color, I would definitely discourage it. However, when I read one poster say "Oh we had a dollar dance at my wedding." or "I sent out a registry announcement in my invitations." and the next post says something to the tune of "That is the MOST tacky thing I have ever heard of someone doing. I absolutley hate it when people do that, and they simply don't deserve to get married." then I have to say that you should limit your wedding questions to those who know you, your situation, and have similar thoughts/traditions as yourself.

DSTCHAOS · #64 07-06-2006, 04:25 PM

I think she was saying that that other thread highlighted some extreme wedding no-nos that the average person would deem inappropriate. Fighting at weddings and nuptials at McDonald's are fine if that's what you want to do, but the general consensus is that those things are crazy.

However, wedding advice on and off the web should be taken with a grain of salt. Some folks will think it's okay to put gift registry stuff on the invite and others won't. As long as you aren't getting married at Burger King, you will be fine with whichever you choose and be able to ignore the naysayers.

Munchkin03 · #65 07-06-2006, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by KSigkid

My comment wasn't on this thread in particular, but on the dating and relationships board as a whole. I think people on the board tend to be hyper-critical of others weddings. That's just my opinion, and others are entitled to theirs.

This is true, and I will own up to being hyper-critical (but really, I'm like that about all social events and social etiquette--even funerals!). I remember reading one post where a member basically said that a wedding has to have a band. That, to me, was beyond the pale and is beyond being nitpicky--that's just classist. I may make a big deal about brides inviting people to the shower and not to the wedding, or about registry cards in the invitations, or people registering for anvil loppers, but I try not to be classist about my proclivities. After all, not many people can afford $40K weddings...

The most elaborate wedding I attended commenced the shortest marriage; meanwhile, my parents went to the JP and just celebrated their 35th. Food for thought...

valkyrie · #66 07-07-2006, 01:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

or people registering for anvil loppers

Speaking of anvil loppers, I heard that she and plastic sawhorse served sheetcake at their wedding.

OH TEH HORROR.

honeychile · #67 07-07-2006, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

The most elaborate wedding I attended commenced the shortest marriage; meanwhile, my parents went to the JP and just celebrated their 35th. Food for thought...

I've been noticing this for some time now. The other thing I've noticed is that when a couple develops a "you & me against the world" attitude towards their marriage, hardly anything can break them up (elaborate wedding or not!).

Rudey · #68 07-08-2006, 05:50 PM

This is a gay thread.

-Rudey
--In fact I bet this gay thread is having sex right now with another gay thread.

KSigkid · #69 07-10-2006, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Dionysus

It's just not GC (but they are among the worst). If I ever get married, I think we will just go to Vegas or something, and have a crazy bachlorette's party (they don't have to buy me anything except drinks). Until recently, I had no idea how much weddings and wedding related stuff stir up sooooo much drama (among friends, family, and people you work with).

That is completely your right. Honestly, my wife and I had a more "traditional" wedding; we got married at our Episcopal church in Boston, invited a whole bunch of family (and some friends), and had the reception at a ballroom in town. It was traditional, big (we have huge, close families), and just right for us. On the other hand, my parents got married in Vegas, and they've been married over 30 years. Larger weddings don't necessarily mean the relationship is doomed, small weddings don't mean that the people have their priorities straight, and vice-versa...

I tend to think of a wedding as a very personal experience, and I think during the planning phases you can be very sensitive to other's feelings on the matter. That's why I didn't go near this forum while we were planning, and I don't think it's a good idea for others in the planning stages to read the posts. You're bound to find someone calling your wedding plan "tacky," "over-the-top," or a waste of money.

People have the right to be as picky as they want, but I think in most cases the posts on this board are the last things people want or need to hear about their own wedding.

SHEETCAKE · #70 07-19-2006, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Wine&SilverBlue

My dad's work partner's son recently got engaged. A few days ago they got the following "invitation" in the mail:

An 8.5" x 11" sheet of printer paper with a homemade printed "invitiation" mentioning that they had gotten engaged and would be getting married in Bermuda - to let the couple know if you would likely be attending so they could help everyone get travel arrangements, and then included a "reminder magnet" with their picture and the date. I think it said invitiations would then follow to those who were interested.

In other words - "Hi we're going to have a destination wedding so we don't need to pay for a wedding and a honeymoon and we know you aren't really going to come so we're not even going to send you a real invitation. Instead we'll send these to everyone we know so we can fish for gifts without worrying about them coming to the wedding, and then the few people who come can get real invitations - that way we can narrow our costs and guest list but still milk everyone for gifts."

At least that's how my parents interpreted it...

Should they get them a gift?

Is this kind of invite common or tacky? or both?

Tacky is as tacky does. You aren't invited anyway, so you won't be getting a piece of me!

LightBulb · #71 07-31-2006, 03:47 AM

As a college student, I appreciate having a little (printed) note inside the invitation with registry details. It just makes things easier on the guest. Should I go to Target? Bed, Bath, and Beyond? Where? It might not be etiquettely correct, but if it looks nice, I don't see any problem with it.

I actually had a couple of friends who got married, and the bride-to-be didn't want to say where they were registered. People actually said that was a bad / silly idea (I guess - what's the point of registering if people don't know where you are at / what to buy for you?).

Anyways, my sweetie was the best man.

The end.

VandalSquirrel · #72 08-14-2006, 02:39 PM

My roommate informed me that she received an invitation to a wedding at the "Hitchin' Post" chapel, via a MYSPACE BULLETIN. There will also be "a ragin' kegger" afterwards.

I think a MySpace bulletin is pretty damn tacky.

tunatartare · #73 08-14-2006, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

My roommate informed me that she received an invitation to a wedding at the "Hitchin' Post" chapel, via a MYSPACE BULLETIN. There will also be "a ragin' kegger" afterwards.

I think a MySpace bulletin is pretty damn tacky.

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WE HAVE A WINNER!!!!

BetteDavisEyes · #74 09-13-2006, 08:55 PM

So some of you might remember my infamous cousin who refused to invite the family to her wedding b/c his wealthy family wasn't used to being around people like us (Latino's, Catholics, middle class).
He filed for divorce & kicked her out of HIS condo.
She gets no sympathy from me after the shitty way she treated the family.

sugarplumfairy · #75 09-13-2006, 09:14 PM

Well, this is probably a late post, but it looks like the invitation should have said "Save the date" if invitations were to follow later. It pretty much should just have said they were having a destination wedding, the date and venue.

Whether or not to send a gift or not? I never feel obligated unless I really know the person and that includes co-workers..but close friends? I try to get a full place setting of china if I can swing it.