GLO membership and your wedding - Page 5

GeekyPenguin · #61 02-21-2006, 11:36 AM

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Originally posted by Contessima
I got married in the Catholic Church last June and did not use this verse. No one told me it was "standard" either. What do you mean by "unless something else is requested"? We were given lists of appropiate scripture reading, and of course that one was included, but it certainly wasn't the only option. My husband and I chose all the details of the Mass, right down to the arrangements of the Common Mass. We didn't have to "request" for anything to be different because it was simply expected that we would make those decisions for ourselves based on our relationship with each other and with God.

I think a lot of Catholic churches kind of say "Here is the standard reading" and assume you know that you do have the freedom to pick out other verses. I know the church I attend does 3-4 weddings a weekend every weekend except Lent and Advent, and they have a THREE YEAR waiting list, so they might not necessarily have as much time to sit down with the bride and groom.

Drolefille · #62 02-21-2006, 07:53 PM

Thanks GeekyPenguin, that's basically what I meant.

I wasn't trying to imply anything negative by it. It's just an incredibly common gospel reading for weddings and even though the church doesn't say "here, this is your reading" I suspect many priests do say, "and we usually read This unless you have another one you'd prefer" or some such.

No need to have toes stepped on!

GeekyPenguin · #63 02-21-2006, 07:55 PM

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Originally posted by Drolefille
Thanks GeekyPenguin, that's basically what I meant.

I wasn't trying to imply anything negative by it. It's just an incredibly common gospel reading for weddings and even though the church doesn't say "here, this is your reading" I suspect many priests do say, "and we usually read This unless you have another one you'd prefer" or some such.

No need to have toes stepped on!

I figured as much. I have no interest in using it simply because everyone else does - although it is a pretty verse that my parents have framed in our house.

aephi alum · #64 02-21-2006, 07:56 PM

My parents (both Catholics) renewed their vows for their 25th anniversary. The ceremony was essentially the same as a wedding Mass. They were given a booklet with 3-4 different options for each of the readings. They were also told that they didn't have to use any of the options, as long as they followed the pattern of first reading from the Old Testament, second reading from the New Testament, Gospel reading from the Gospels.

1st Corinthians 13 is one of the options. Another option is the reading that goes "you who are wives, be submissive to your husbands." (

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GeekyPenguin · #65 02-21-2006, 08:04 PM

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Originally posted by aephi alum
My parents (both Catholics) renewed their vows for their 25th anniversary. The ceremony was essentially the same as a wedding Mass. They were given a booklet with 3-4 different options for each of the readings. They were also told that they didn't have to use any of the options, as long as they followed the pattern of first reading from the Old Testament, second reading from the New Testament, Gospel reading from the Gospels.

1st Corinthians 13 is one of the options. Another option is the reading that goes "you who are wives, be submissive to your husbands." ( )

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I never understood why everybody hates that reading (which is from Ephesians 5) so much until I heard it a wedding at my boyfriend's conservative Lutheran church this summer, when I realized that churches must be leaving off the second part.

The second half of the passage tells men to love their wives as Christ loved the church, being willing to sacrifice his life for her.

I have no beef with that passage and will probably include it in my own wedding, and I think we all know I am a feminist man-hating hippie.

ISUKappa · #66 02-21-2006, 08:21 PM

I had to look at my program to see what we had as readings at our wedding:

Song of Solomon 8:6-7
Colossians 3:12-17
Matthew 6:25-34

Not exactly traditional, but we liked them.

squirrely girl · #67 02-21-2006, 08:36 PM

i guess i'm lucky cause red, buff, and green are rather easy to incorporate!

my dress was a buff color and i got a badge from the vault at IHQ that had belonged to a founding sister from my chapter (back in 45!) and it was my "something old" - i wore it on my dress and so many people ended up commenting on it.

my bridesmaids wore deep red dresses and carried hand-tied buff roses and my bouquet was hand-tied red and buff roses

aephi alum - i'm catholic and we got the same booklet

- marissa

AOII_LB93 · #68 02-21-2006, 08:50 PM

FWIW most Catholic weddings (both with and without masses) take from the same type of booklet for choosing what you want the priest/deacon to say and all the readings that are possible. We got a booklet from our "home" church and picked out the stuff from there. The priest presiding over our ceremony in Ireland was cool, though I wanted to do the full vows where you repeat all the stuff, but we just ended up with the "I do" part. Oh well, not a big deal.

preciousjeni · #69 02-21-2006, 11:44 PM

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Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
I never understood why everybody hates that reading (which is from Ephesians 5) so much until I heard it a wedding at my boyfriend's conservative Lutheran church this summer, when I realized that churches must be leaving off the second part.

The second half of the passage tells men to love their wives as Christ loved the church, being willing to sacrifice his life for her.

I have no beef with that passage and will probably include it in my own wedding, and I think we all know I am a feminist man-hating hippie.

Me too.

I love that it's basically saying sacrifice your own wants for the needs of the other. If both partners are holding up their end of the bargain, both will be in good shape!

DSTRen13 · #70 03-03-2007, 09:53 PM

*bump*

Anyone have any new ideas?

REE1993 · #71 03-03-2007, 11:31 PM

I actually chose maroon for my bridesmaids dresses, and my bouquet was maroon and white. Although no sisters were IN the wedding, several attended.

Funny, I have had an affinity for maroon ever since college. In fact, my house is white with maroon shutters!

Buttonz · #72 03-04-2007, 12:54 AM

One of my sisters that is getting married in July is having yellow roses as part of her flowers...I'm not sure if they are doing anything to honor AEPi (as her man is one) besides most, if not all the groomsmen being brothers.

minDyG · #73 03-04-2007, 02:22 AM

My maid of honor's flowers (I didn't have bridesmaids) and also the boutiniers for my dad and the best man were cream colored roses. I was told that cream colored roses would look like they were dying white roses if they were worn against white tuxedo shirts, so we did ivory instead and I wore an ivory dress.

I think the corsages for the mothers of the bride and groom were cream colored roses too.

I wish that more of my sisters could have attended, but it was a small wedding--and if they had, I would have LOVED to have "Dream Girl" sung. I'm just hoping I'll be attending some DG weddings soon because it's getting to be wedding season soon!

CutiePie2000 · #74 03-04-2007, 07:40 PM

In university, I worked in a golfcourse dining room for a summer job. There was one wedding (presumably a GDI wife and a FIJI husband) and the husband and his FIJI groomsmen sang a really sweet FIJI song to the wife.

guardedbystars · #75 03-07-2007, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu

I think a lot of fraternities (probably sororities too) do this. I knew of a KS whose chapter did this to Journey's "Don't Stop Believing".

hahaha I think every time I hear that song, everyone in the room starts jumping up and down and singing off key.

"JUST A SMALL TOWN GIRL...."

But, I think that blue and white will be easy to incorporate