Etiquette!

[Taualumna]

Originally posted by AOIIsilver
Here, the use of "Miss Mary" does NOT have anything to do with the marital status of the older woman. At least in my area, the most revered women are "Miss INSERT FIRST NAME" whether they are married or not. This status is especially reserved for older women with power and grace to whom you do not have a family connection (i.e. Aunt, etc.)
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Question for southern gals: Do men have a similar status? I have long heard about the Miss FIRST NAME designation for women, but I have not heard anything about men. Are men still Mr. LAST NAME no matter what?

Thanks

[LightBulb]

Originally posted by PhoenixAzul
I was always taught the correct handshake would be to grip firmly, pump 3 times, and give your greetings while hands are grasped (including your name).

"Hello, I'm Susie Sorority, how are you?" (grip)
"Hello, I'm Fred Fraternity, i'm well, thank you, and yourself?"

- YES, this is so important!

Also, according to etiquette (though you did it right), a lady is always supposed to offer her hand to a gentleman, not the other way around. Though this is not as important as grip.


- I hate when I am around people I don't know, and no one introduces us. It is so awkward to find a pause in the conversation (without interrupting) to introduce myself.

[BetteDavisEyes]

I'm bumping an old thread but I saw this story and couldn't help but laugh and applaud this movie theater. Going to movies can be a pain since a lot of people spend more time on their damn cell phones texting instead of watching the movie they just forked over $10 for and most of the time, those cell phones are not on silent or vibrate.

Movie theater kicks out obnoxious texter.

[33girl]

That just confirms that Ann Richards was totally badass.

[victoriana]

I JUST saw this! So funny!

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes

Movie theater kicks out obnoxious texter.

I just saw this, too. I wish EVERY theater did this!

[Alumiyum]

LOVE it.

I will say that the last time I went to a movie (this weekend) I noticed that the person a seat down from me was texting but had turned the screen brightness all the way down. I wouldn't have noticed if they hadn't knocked over their popcorn and dropped the phone in surprise. Don't text. But if you have to at least put it on silent and turn your screen on the lowest setting.

[AnchorAlumna]

Great thread! And seeing some of these names makes me wonder where they went.

I'm amazed at the number of people who think nothing of leaving in the middle of a performance...or coming in after something has started.
Plays, concerts, church service...I watched one woman come and go three times during a sermon. It wouldn't be so bad if she had sat in the back couple of rows but no, she was on the third row from the front.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Great thread! And seeing some of these names makes me wonder where they went.

I'm amazed at the number of people who think nothing of leaving in the middle of a performance...or coming in after something has started.
Plays, concerts, church service...I watched one woman come and go three times during a sermon. It wouldn't be so bad if she had sat in the back couple of rows but no, she was on the third row from the front.

I do not understand why people do this. If you have to go to the bathroom a lot, are expecting an important call, have a child that might need to be taken out...sit in the back.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

At the movies, I am a terrible talker all through the previews. I can't help it, I have to comment on whether the movie in the preview looks good, ask where I know that one actor from, etc.

I'm really good once the real deal starts, but I wonder how much I annoy the other theatergoers.

[33girl]

I don't care if people talk during the previews. I'm kind of disappointed if people don't make fun of at least one of them, actually. But once the movie that I paid for starts, man, STFU.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Taualumna

Question for southern gals: Do men have a similar status? I have long heard about the Miss FIRST NAME designation for women, but I have not heard anything about men. Are men still Mr. LAST NAME no matter what?

Thanks

Just saw this. If you do not know the man personally, it is Mr. LAST NAME. If you have a long relationship with the man in question, it is Mr. FIRST NAME.

As an aside, I laugh every time I see the name of this thread. I took a 1 hour credit etiquette course in college to push me into Junior status when I was a first semester Sophomore (I don't know why I cared...I just did.) Anyway, a sister took the course with me and never came to class. She ended up with a "D" in the course and complained to me that she didn't understand how she made a "D" in "etiKWette"! I figured if you couldn't even pronounce the subject you probably deserved an "F"!

[dekeguy]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Just saw this. If you do not know the man personally, it is Mr. LAST NAME. If you have a long relationship with the man in question, it is Mr. FIRST NAME.

May I suggest that two gentlemen unknown to each other are always Mr. Surname. If they are well known to each other they are John and Peter without the Mr. prefix.
A neice or nephew will address the older relative as Uncle John.
A gentleman never addresses anyone as Mr. John.
Mr. John is a form of address, dieing out (in the US but not so much in the UK) for the last twenty years or so, used only by family servants to younger males or in some cases by an old family servant to a grown man who was addressed in that manner by that servant when the man was a boy.
This was a charming custom which is now hopelessly obsolete and actually inappropriate unless the person using the "Mr. John" form of address is more comfortable with it than the "Mr. Smith" form.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by dekeguy

May I suggest that two gentlemen unknown to each other are always Mr. Surname. If they are well known to each other they are John and Peter without the Mr. prefix.
A neice or nephew will address the older relative as Uncle John.
A gentleman never addresses anyone as Mr. John.
Mr. John is a form of address, dieing out (in the US but not so much in the UK) for the last twenty years or so, used only by family servants to younger males or in some cases by an old family servant to a grown man who was addressed in that manner by that servant when the man was a boy.
This was a charming custom which is now hopelessly obsolete and actually inappropriate unless the person using the "Mr. John" form of address is more comfortable with it than the "Mr. Smith" form.

Look at the context of the question:

Originally Posted by Taualumna

Question for southern gals: Do men have a similar status? I have long heard about the Miss FIRST NAME designation for women, but I have not heard anything about men. Are men still Mr. LAST NAME no matter what?

AOII Angel is answering the question specifically in the Southern context. In my (Southern) experience, Mr. First Name is a very common way for children (up to about15 or 16) to address the adult male friends of their parents and perhaps certain other men. I rarely hear an adult use it.

It doesn't work quite the same way as Miss First Name though. Miss First Name has always been a common way for a person of any age to refer to or address an older woman. (Miss, in this context by the way, has nothing to do with marital status. My grandmother and her sister, one married and one widowed, were widely known as Miss Mary and Miss Suzie 'til the day they died.) I have to say, though, that it is dying out.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Look at the context of the question:
AOII Angel is answering the question specifically in the Southern context. In my (Southern) experience, Mr. First Name is a very common way for children (up to about15 or 16) to address the adult male friends of their parents and perhaps certain other men. I rarely hear an adult use it.

It doesn't work quite the same way as Miss First Name though. Miss First Name has always been a common way for a person of any age to refer to or address an older woman. (Miss, in this context by the way, has nothing to do with marital status. My grandmother and her sister, one married and one widowed, were widely known as Miss Mary and Miss Suzie 'til the day they died.) I have to say, though, that it is dying out.

I still call the men I knew as a child as Mr. First Name. It's the culture of the portion of the South where I was raised. I even call my FIL Mr. FN and my husband calls my father the same. We do the same with women...Ms. FN. It's a sign of respect that never goes out of style like "ma'am" and "sir".