Minorities and Suicide

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by jessiwannabe

I still love her and still claim her as my sister.

aw... she's BACK

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jessiwannabe

No, what I mean is that was the worst that could have happened was she would get the computer taking away and she would have to study more. My parents would not have put her under the house and not fed her if she didn't make good grades that is not how they operate. They operate in a way that if you can't get your grades up you don't deserve recreational things untill you get your grades up. I don't think it is my parents fault that they had high expections of her. They just wanted her to do well and I just think the pressure got to her. I don't think it is fair to say my parents killed her.They did not put the gun in her mouth and pull the trigger that was her choice not their's; they may have fed to it but they didn't do it themselves. That is just like saying a song I heard make me wanna kill people. You should be stronger than outside influences no matter how strong they are.

Maybe I was to young to know but even if I tried to talk her out of it and did get her help if she already had that decision made up in her mind she would have done it anyway no matter what. She could have just refused the treatment and done it. If we forced it on her we would have been making the problem worse. My parents loved her and they still do how could you say they killed her?

Actually, all the psych folks say is when you GENTLY "force" your loved one into help. What you say is true, the pressure got your sister. Too much so. However, I am saying that her problems did not happen overnight. There is usually a gradual development and decay of one's mind. All the telltale signs were either unknown or ignored. Who knows? If there was fault, there was fault in the system for not getting help to your sister sooner so it did not have to end so tragically.

Originally Posted by jessiwannabe

I still love her and still claim her as my sister.

I do not think anyone here is disputing that fact and would ever say for you to make any different consideration.

I know my biggest concern around here is you and that you are mentioning this pain to a public messageboard. Although your choice to do so, it is a very "heavy" topic and I would not want to see it backfire on you.

[jessiwannabe]

Well this particular thread is about minorities and suicide so I just wanted to share my experience. I responed to what was started. I did not start this forum. It is not really pain to me. The more I talk about it the better I feel about it.

I've made peace with what she did a long time ago. There is nothing I can do about it now except to ask the lord to bless my family everyday. It is out of my hands. No one noticed the signs,she was never ignored. (I can't fix it if I don't know it is broken) meaning I didn't know to get her help if I didn't see a problem.
I was not going to beg her to talk to me about anything.

Pushing her would only make things worse. Maybe those thoughts were in her head a long time but we never knew it. We were not about to ask everyday, do you want to kill yourself honey? That's crazy, but all in all I love my sister and my parents still love her; and nothing anyone says about her is going to make me change my mind.