Would you marry someone in the military?

[KunjaPrincess]

Would I marry someone in the military?

Of course, I did. In fact we were both active duty when we got married.
We've been married 6 years and this year was the first anniversary ever that we got to spend together with nothing military going on.

He's now a civilian but I am still in the National Guard and don't envision getting out anytime soon. He knows the deal, knows I may get deployed again and is Ok with it. That's why we have a strong support group in place for the lil ones.

However, if I was never in the military I don't know that I would have been able to really understand all the trials and tribulations of deployments and late nights. That really did help.

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by Jadey28
Military men are the same as police officers and firemen. Everyday they put their lives at risk for the protection of others.

Thats the biggest bunch of bullhsit I've ever heard. Military people are nothing like police officers unless they're MP. Military people fight wars, defend our country and kill people legally. Cops, on the other hand, don't do any of those three. Cops are those guys in highschool that always wanted to be cool and respected but never got there. Cops think they're the shit and have all the authority because they have their little badge. They think they can do what they want. Military people obey orders and do what they're told. Military people get mad respect their whole lives for serving their country......cops get their pension and sink into oblivion. People want to beat cops up just because they're cops. You never hear lil'thugs or rappers talking about busting a cap on some army people. If the penalites werent so harsh you'd see more cops get their asses kicked than what presently do. COPS would be the number TV show in america if hitting a police officer was treated the same if you hit anyone else. Everyone would watch them get beat down, myself included.





NO, I wouldnt EVER marry someone in the military. The girls in there are dykes anyhow.

[amanda6035]

Originally Posted by cashmoney

Thats the biggest bunch of bullhsit I've ever heard. Military people are nothing like police officers unless they're MP. Military people fight wars, defend our country and kill people legally. Cops, on the other hand, don't do any of those three. Cops are those guys in highschool that always wanted to be cool and respected but never got there. Cops think they're the shit and have all the authority because they have their little badge. They think they can do what they want. Military people obey orders and do what they're told. Military people get mad respect their whole lives for serving their country......cops get their pension and sink into oblivion. People want to beat cops up just because they're cops. You never hear lil'thugs or rappers talking about busting a cap on some army people. If the penalites werent so harsh you'd see more cops get their asses kicked than what presently do. COPS would be the number TV show in america if hitting a police officer was treated the same if you hit anyone else. Everyone would watch them get beat down, myself included.





NO, I wouldnt EVER marry someone in the military. The girls in there are dykes anyhow.

I miss cashmoney....

[Coramoor]

I'm in the Army, but I don't think there is any way in hell I would marry someone while I'm in.

What most people don't know is that the divorce rate is ridiculous. One of my fraternity brother's was deployed for 14 months and on return they had new babies waiting for them, wives with boyfriends, or straight out divorce papers waiting on them. I think it ended with like 60-65% either being divorced or cheated on.

Fuck that. Sorry girls-I don't trust any of you.

[chopperLI905]

i just have to say that from the flip side women in uniform are good looking to. I have seen my share of good looking women in uniform. and i would marry a woman in uniform.

[XOMichelle]

I guess it depends on the person, doesn't it? The older I get, the more I realize that some people just fit, no matter what their background.

However, if I could pick the perfect profile of my husband, I wouldn't pick someone who is in the military. Someone who had been in the military, but isn't anymore would be just fine. But, I definately dream of a functional family unit. I want my baby's daddy to be around!

[omegamcgee]

A few months ago, maybe. Now, NO WAY. I hate the war, and, even though I don't hate the soldiers (please don't accuse me of that, my own dad was a vet), I couldn't do it. A girl from my town got married in July, and her husband died Sunday in Fallujah. She's only 19. I don't think I could handle that. I'm not very brave though.

[polarpi]

I used to always think - NO WAY IN H*** would I marry anyone in the military. I grew up in a military family (Dad's retired Navy) and understand the lack of communication, constant deployments, and the divorce rate (and this was during "peacetime").

Now, I can't say I'd rule it out. You can't help who you fall in love with (maybe I'm looking at it with rose-tinted glasses?), and their occupation is part of who they are. That being said, I'm not going to go out and hunt down a military man to date and maybe marry, but if that's who I wind up settling down with, then I'd be fine with it.

[SigKapBling]

i think i could... i mean if you were really truly honestly in love with these people, why would you throw it away??
i grew up in a militarial background - my uncle was in the marines - and he'd always talk about it - and a good friend of mine at work is active in the Nat'l Guard, and got deployed this summer, so i pretty much have the utmost respect for anyone in uniform..... not to mention they're particularly nice looking
so, YES! i could !!

[Munchkin03]

Originally posted by Coramoor
I'm in the Army, but I don't think there is any way in hell I would marry someone while I'm in.

What most people don't know is that the divorce rate is ridiculous. One of my fraternity brother's was deployed for 14 months and on return they had new babies waiting for them, wives with boyfriends, or straight out divorce papers waiting on them. I think it ended with like 60-65% either being divorced or cheated on.

Fuck that. Sorry girls-I don't trust any of you.

This made me think about a lot of my hometown homies.

It seems like a lot of young men enter the military right before or after marrying their high school sweethearts--and for a lot of 18 year olds, I'm sure it's the ability to provide a comfortable living for a family without having a college education or vocational training that attracts them to the military. Most of them are divorced before they can drink legally.

[Coramoor]

Yeah, that's part of it.

Especially when the time for deployment comes. Everyone rushes to get married and have kids to leave something behind. Plus, it's very, very difficult to have a comfortable living on an enlisted person's pay, unless both of them are working.

[AlethiaSi]

i recently started dating a guy in the army.. a medic at fort drum near watertown, new york. He's being sent to iraq the end of january. we met the beginning of december... i want to be with him- but the thought of him leaving is tearing us apart b/c he doesn't want to hurt me.

i don't know what to do.... i miss him so much already and he's just in illinois visiting family... suggestions...?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by AlethiaSi
i recently started dating a guy in the army.. a medic at fort drum near watertown, new york. He's being sent to iraq the end of january. we met the beginning of december... i want to be with him- but the thought of him leaving is tearing us apart b/c he doesn't want to hurt me.

i don't know what to do.... i miss him so much already and he's just in illinois visiting family... suggestions...?

Sweetheart, he has to go... Period. There is no getting around that... If your 19-28 years old, I would say move on. You have your whole life ahead of you. If you are older than 28 years old, then what do you want to do? Do you want to wait for him? Can you wait for him?

I don't care how you all slice it, in times of war, all military personnel serving on the war front do come back with some issue that is difficult to resolve and see through completely... Can you deal with post traumatic stress disorder? I'm not trying to scare folks, but I am a realist when it comes to war. And most folks in the US never see what's really going down in times of war...

[Optimist Prime]

I remember a certain (name of sorority witheld) that stole my heart for a semester or two, who was in ROTC. She looked damn fine in her uniform.

[AlethiaSi]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Sweetheart, he has to go... Period. There is no getting around that... If your 19-28 years old, I would say move on. You have your whole life ahead of you. If you are older than 28 years old, then what do you want to do? Do you want to wait for him? Can you wait for him?

I don't care how you all slice it, in times of war, all military personnel serving on the war front do come back with some issue that is difficult to resolve and see through completely... Can you deal with post traumatic stress disorder? I'm not trying to scare folks, but I am a realist when it comes to war. And most folks in the US never see what's really going down in times of war...

i know what you are saying- and sigh... you are definately right. my best friend just came back from afghanistan/iraq (i forgot to mention this) and he's had serious pts, nightmares, and alcohol problems...(and you are def right to say that not as many people know about the horrors of this war) i've stood by his side- but he's my best friend.... not my boyfriend... i guess i'll just take it day by day- move on and see how things go when he gets back...

thanks for the advice though- its a tough situation- i appreciate it