Are you close to your Big/Lil?

[Buttonz]

I'm not close with my big at all.....My pledge sister and pledge mom I am close with but not my big However my pledge sister is very close with her big.

My Phi Gam Big and I are pretty close. We don't hang out a lot, but when we do we are like best friends. She and I really care about each other and it shows.

Actually, the same thing happened with my Kappa Phi Big and I. We clicked pretty well througout my pledge process and we kept an on-going joke that she was my Big. When it came time for revealment, I just knew it was her and was happy when I found out I was right!

[DZHBrown]

Unfortunately, I'm not very close to my big or my lil. My big graduated a year after I joined and now she wants nothing to do with the sorority. We talk sometimes, but it's as if she looks down on me for being an active alum. My lil wasn't very active and moved to Florida.

[Kevin]

I had one shot at having a little. He ended up being kind of flakey so I actually was among the 'no' votes that got him booted..

[butterfly2001nc]

Besides TNX, i am also in Alpha Kappa Psi co-ed business fraternity. Been in that since freshmen year (by the time i graduated in May 2003, i was the oldest brother) so i've had 5 little brothers. My big brother was great but she was kind of quiet but we got along well. I even went to her wedding after she graduated.

**(had one before this, but she dropped so i don't really count her)

1st little- also kind of quiet, distanced herself from the frat but we were cool...joked all the time but she graduated, we lost touch

2nd little - was FAB! He was in a social frat and i was pledging TNX at the time so we had a lot in common. Absolutely love him. We have soo much fun when we see other. He had some school trouble so he moved back home but now he's back in town but now i'm about to move. Would love to keep in touch though.

3rd little - also GREAT! we didn't get a chance to hang out much but i love her to pieces. Took her to her 1st step show this past semester. We'll def. keep in touch

4th little - is such a cuttie!! I was busy with school stuff so i didn't make it to any rush events except for one. My lil' was actually the 1st rushee that i talked to. He showed me his car and we just hit it off. We had a few misunderstandings cause i felt that he didn't need me cause he was pledging with his best friend and one of the guys in the frat was his roommie but we got past all that and are good friends now.

5th little - was a freshmen and also a cuttie! Loved him to pieces! He got completely wasted on our beach trip this past April (after he got inducted) and i took care of him....but i have pics of him trashed for blackmail hehe....we will also keep in touch!

I have a few adopted lil's also cause sometimes you just click with people. On demit nite, my 4th little's roommie (the brother i talked about) even said that he wished i was his big cause i always take care of my littles) Always a nice feeling when someone says that!!

We have one of the biggest family trees in my fraternity..

Next tread will be about TNX!

[butterfly2001nc]

Now for Theta Nu Xi...

My big was misunderstood in the chapter but we get along. We still keep in touch every so often

1st little - great person to have as a little sister. but we have had our share of misunderstandings since she became President but hopefully we can get past that now!

2nd little - lives in Atl so we didn't get to become close but she's cool and we keep in touch by email every once in a blue moon.

3rd little - is from Arizona. Absolutely LOVE her! Distance is our problem but we manage. We IM and email each other. She was actually one of my roommates at last year's convention. We have a lot in common!!! Can't wait to see her in Florida!!

Actually closer to some other sisters' bigs and littles but i love having a little sister though! Can't wait til i get another!!

[stmuprncez]

I am pretty close to my BIG we both are members of exec and we are both in love with Alpha Phi. She is the President and I'm Vice President of Program Development so we work hand in hand. We got to go to Conference together and slept in the same room and went to all of our meetings together and I felt then that we really bonded. She is also always doing great things for me and there when I need advice. She is just one of those sisters that I admire very very much and I hope that one day I can be just like her in the eyes of my own little and the rest of the chapter. I LOVE YOU MELANIE!!!
My little sis and I are super duper close!!! We are always together and party together and are there for each other when we need advice... we even have been buying the same things at stores when we aren't shopping together. We have so much fun together and I think she is a lot more agressive because of me and I think I'm a lot more passive because of her so we even each other out! I LOVE YOU LIDA!!!! HB ROCKS!!!

[AOcutiePi4ever]

i'm not close to my big at all )-:
i wish i was

[KappaKittyCat]

My big is the bestest. She is the reason I became a Kappa, and we're really close. I'm actually her third little-- her first transferred and her second resigned-- and I think that it was meant for me to pledge when I did so that she'd be elligible to take a little, me!

My littles are awesome and we have a good time, but we're not that close. I'd still bend over backwards for them, though, and they for me.

[Not a Mezzo]

She's just about the perfect big for me, I think. I remember talking to her just after I'd decided to go through recruitment. I had waited a year because I didn't think I was the sorority type, then decided what the heck, why not? She's the same kind of person, and we had a lot of things in common. We're both music majors, too, which helps a lot because at UNC Greensboro, music is a huge deal and tends to section off music majors from the rest of campus, so it was great to get her thoughts.

Then, during recruitment, she never came up and talked to me, which made me wonder, until it came to Pref Night, when I found out that she'd waited to pref me. We both cried during the ceremony (which, by the way, was how I knew I was going Phi Mu ).

She was then my "paw pal," which is a sister assigned to each new member to hang out with during the week, get help learning the creed, things like that. You switch off and get to know a couple of the older sisters this way.

Then we signed up to be roommates on our hall in the spring, and next thing you know, she reveals herself as my big! It was awesome. She's the kind of girl I can completely look up to. She genuinely loves all of our sisters and Phi Mu, and tries very hard to live by our creed. She's funny, creative (she made my badge box, and it's a beauty!), loving, supportive, honorable, crazy, fun, beautiful...in a word, the best big I could ever ask for.

She's going to be a Rho Chi this fall...so I can't talk to her until Bid Day in September. How have others dealt with this situation?

[tunatartare]

I only pledged in the Spring so I'm not getting a lil for about a year. My big and I are very close we're like inseperable. Everyone knew I was gonna be her little because we're so similar.

[Buttonz]

Originally posted by pinkyphimu

to end this on a positive note: i had an adopted little in college. she and i still talk regularly and see each other whenever we can. a few months ago, i was at homecoming and a sister who i had always wished was my little and i knew always wished that i was her big started talking about bigs/ littles. i told her that i would adopt her as my little....and i did. so 5 years after graduation, i got a new little!! we talk weekly (which we hadn't until after homecoming) and we made plans to meet in a few weeks when i will be in the state. it is never too late to get a great little sis!!!

You can always adopt a big also! I adopted my pledge mom as my big to the point where she offered to make me a pillow but I told her no, b/c i knwo what would happen if my big found out, even though she and I aren't close (and she didn't want me as a lil but I am not really supposed to know that )

[AlphaGamDiva]

omg i loooooooooooove my Lils!!! they are the best!

from bid day, i knew i wanted my lil to be my lil! she was boy crazy (as some ppl on here like to accuse me, of all ppl, of being ), just totally sweet and cool......that pledge class i had 4 put me on their list, and over their pledge period i had grown close to all of them, but i knew she was the fit! we're still close and i love her to death and miss her TONS. my second lil is a straight up copy of myself....like, day one we were instant family. she came through COB....and if she was around and i wasn't, they would ask her where i was and vice-versa. freakin siamese twins.....and i have this great big/lil relationship with them where i look out for them (scary thought me being the responsible one, i know) and make sure they are taken care of ALWAYS....but i love those girls to death and they make my family what it is....SUPER FUN AND SUPER COOL! proud to have been one of the biggest active families of my chapter as i have 2 lils, 2 grand lils, and 2 GREAT grand lils. for us all to still be active was cool as all heck!

me and my big...that girl, lol. she was the first person i talked to at rush....alpha gam was my very first party and she's who i met right off the van. totally cool and laid back, we hung out all the time when i first pledged....she's who kinda introduced me to the air force idiot, but i don't hold it against her! she's all graduated and moved away now of course, but we still keep in good touch. we just bonded really quick my bid day night and i love it that i am her one and only lil!!!! she loves me! yay!

[ShaunaF01]

My family line is the greatest!! We have a relatively small tree in my chapter (there are now 8 of us.)

Pepper, our founder, is great. When she found out that my big was taking two littles, she wanted to be there. So she came to our midpledge and was absolutely wonderful.

Alexa, Pepper's Little, is going to grad school in Virginia, but is easily reachable. I've talked to her quite a few times.

Renee, my Grand-Big (aka Grama,) is amazing. She was one of the first sisters I met and I couldn't get over her. She was beautiful, very active, a steller student. We're very close. I model everything I do after her I swear. She was the first Sorority Woman of the Year at our school. I won the award this year and I had never seen anyone so proud of her tree as Renee was. She cutely dubs us the "Pretty Tree" (now the whole sorority calls us that.)

Sherri, my big-is absolutely great. I adore her. I wanted her from the moment I met her. Then I found out she was taking twins and I didn't want any part in that, cause I was real selfish and stupid. But she was my first choice anyways. I knew she wanted myself and my twin, Kristy. When I first got her as my Big, I really thought she favored Kristy. But it was really cool, Kristy at the time was all about partying and boys and I wasn't (times have changed!) So Sherri had like two different relationships with us and it was great. She graduated the semester after I got in, but we were remarkably close. She called me 9 months ago to let me know that she was pregnant. I've been right by her side the whole time. She's due ANY minute now (LoL) and I plan on going there the second I find out she's in labor.

Kate, my lil is great as well. I met her the night before our Big-Lil lists were due, and I had already filled mine out. But after hanging out with Kate, I knew she had to be my little. We were so much a like and even looked alike. She's my little pride and joy. She's accomplished so much in the year that she has been in. I know she's going to be an amazing big when she gets my grand lil this semester (who I will also be pledge mom for!!!)

[ksig600]

I love my Big and Lil...

My Big and I are still close (eventhough he graduated 2 years ago is currently in law school) We still call each other and go out sometimes. Its great that I can call him and vent about the chapter and ask advice.

My Lil and I are also close, I give him advice about the chapter, school, and girls. Its like we are best friends that light up when we see each other.