Going through recruitment

[Confusionn]

Hey Guys! So I'm in a sticky situation...Perhaps I should tell you my story first...

I went through recruitment when I was a Sophomore during Fall '09. There are only three sororities at my university. I knew which sorority I had wanted to be in because of the parties...After the first day of parties (the following morning), I had gotten a call saying that sorority A and sorority B had cut me. It was fine with me because those two were the ones I didn't want to be in. The second day of parties, I had gone to sorority C (the one I DID want to be in). I felt that the girls I talked to were really nice. The following morning, I had gotten a call telling me that I was not invited back to the party. What had happened was that the girls I had talked to the night before had said I didn't sound interested because I had told them "I know which sorority I want to be in." I was very upset for the few days after.

Then in the Spring, the sorority C had called me inviting me to this small party that they were having because three girls had dropped from the sorority. I was told that there were 5 girls going for the spot. One girl didn't show up and that left 4. A few days after, my friend who was in sorority C had to break the news to me that I did not get in. That instead of being three girls getting in, only two got in. She and the other girls did not know why, but all had told me that they all voted for me when it came down to it.

I am a Sophomore short by 3 credit hours of being a Junior this semester. My GPA is currently standing at a 2.26. I am in a situation where I do not know if I want to go through recruitment again. I do not want to be rejected for a third time. Not only that, in Spring '11, I am going into a medical program at my school at the end of the semester. So only a year of having fun, and then I'll be studying my butt off.

What should I do?

Signed--
Confusion.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Confusionn

Hey Guys! So I'm in a sticky situation...Perhaps I should tell you my story first...

I went through recruitment when I was a Sophomore during Fall '09. There are only three sororities at my university. I knew which sorority I had wanted to be in because of the parties...After the first day of parties (the following morning), I had gotten a call saying that sorority A and sorority B had cut me. It was fine with me because those two were the ones I didn't want to be in. The second day of parties, I had gone to sorority C (the one I DID want to be in). I felt that the girls I talked to were really nice. The following morning, I had gotten a call telling me that I was not invited back to the party. What had happened was that the girls I had talked to the night before had said I didn't sound interested because I had told them "I know which sorority I want to be in." I was very upset for the few days after.

Then in the Spring, the sorority C had called me inviting me to this small party that they were having because three girls had dropped from the sorority. I was told that there were 5 girls going for the spot. One girl didn't show up and that left 4. A few days after, my friend who was in sorority C had to break the news to me that I did not get in. That instead of being three girls getting in, only two got in. She and the other girls did not know why, but all had told me that they all voted for me when it came down to it.

I am a Sophomore short by 3 credit hours of being a Junior this semester. My GPA is currently standing at a 2.26. I am in a situation where I do not know if I want to go through recruitment again. I do not want to be rejected for a third time. Not only that, in Spring '11, I am going into a medical program at my school at the end of the semester. So only a year of having fun, and then I'll be studying my butt off.

What should I do?

Signed--
Confusion.

I'm sorry you were cut.

However, I think the "we all wanted you" line is just a sorority member who may be trying not to hurt your feelings. Sorority members are not permitted to discuss member selection, so she may have just been trying to give you an answer without making you feel bad (and discussing something she isn't permitted to).

Also, it was a bad move to say "well I know which chapter I want to be in." When you say that to a sorority member, it typically translates to "I don't like your sorority and I don't want to be here." That can be seen as rude.

In a school with 3 chapters, and you having been cut from all of them, I would seriously consider whether you could handle the rejection of being cut from all 3 again.

[kddani]

What the heck kind of medical program can you get into with a 2.26 GPA???

I am pretty doubtful that you would have a successful recruitment with that GPA- you are a major grade risk. Even if they loved you oodles and oodles, your grades are close to failing out of school.

Stop worrying about whether or not to be greek and get your grades together so you can get a job or get into grad school when you graduate.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by kddani

What the heck kind of medical program can you get into with a 2.26 GPA???

I am pretty doubtful that you would have a successful recruitment with that GPA- you are a major grade risk. Even if they loved you oodles and oodles, your grades are close to failing out of school.

Stop worrying about whether or not to be greek and get your grades together so you can get a job or get into grad school when you graduate.

"Failing out" is a little dramatic, but OP those are low grades for a PNM. Whether you should try again is up to you, but realize your grades will remain a problem unless they get better quickly. There are tons of other ways to have fun before medical school, but if I were you I would focus on school. Make that your job, and blow off steam on the weekends.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

"Failing out" is a little dramatic.

Not really. Where I went, under a 2.0 will get you on academic probation and if you don't improve, academic suspension. You must also have a 2.0 to graduate. And that was general for the school, many programs had an even higher requirement. She's dangerously close.

If your grades are that low, putting more demands on the person's time should not be encouraged.

[als463]

Originally Posted by kddani

What the heck kind of medical program can you get into with a 2.26 GPA???

I am pretty doubtful that you would have a successful recruitment with that GPA- you are a major grade risk. Even if they loved you oodles and oodles, your grades are close to failing out of school.

Stop worrying about whether or not to be greek and get your grades together so you can get a job or get into grad school when you graduate.

You took the words right out of my mouth. What medical program do you think you will get into with that GPA? I can tell you EXACTLY why you were cut from the sororities----your grades! I also find it a little funny that you already knew which sororities you wanted, maybe because you thought you were too good for the others so, you had one picked out that was right for you. With your class standing (even at a non-competitive school) and your horrible GPA, you would have been lucky to receive a bid to ANY sorority. Stop worrying about going Greek because at this rate, it ISN'T going to happen.

With a GPA that low, good luck getting into graduate school. Unless you have a severe learning disability, you are pretty much screwed in terms of finding a decent paying job or getting into graduate school, unless you attend a very prestigious university that may make up (a little) for your grades. Just, wow!

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by als463

you are pretty much screwed in terms of finding a decent paying job or getting into graduate school, unless you attend a very prestigious university that may make up (a little) for your grades. Just, wow!

I think that's a little harsh. There are a lot of jobs that don't look at your grade point (or even any specifics of your degree) when you're looking for a job even right after college. No, it's not ideal and certainly not good enough to get into any graduate program I can imagine, but insinuating she's only qualified to work at a learning disability job is over the top.

That being said, the sorority life ship has sailed. I'm sorry your friend didn't give you the easiest answer: we have national minimum grade point standards that we can under no circumstances break.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I think that's a little harsh. There are a lot of jobs that don't look at your grade point (or even any specifics of your degree) when you're looking for a job even right after college. No, it's not ideal and certainly not good enough to get into any graduate program I can imagine, but insinuating she's only qualified to work at a learning disability job is over the top.

That being said, the sorority life ship has sailed. I'm sorry your friend didn't give you the easiest answer: we have national minimum grade point standards that we can under no circumstances break.

Well said. That post was unnecessarily harsh and judgmental.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by als463

You took the words right out of my mouth. What medical program do you think you will get into with that GPA? I can tell you EXACTLY why you were cut from the sororities----your grades! I also find it a little funny that you already knew which sororities you wanted, maybe because you thought you were too good for the others so, you had one picked out that was right for you. With your class standing (even at a non-competitive school) and your horrible GPA, you would have been lucky to receive a bid to ANY sorority. Stop worrying about going Greek because at this rate, it ISN'T going to happen.

With a GPA that low, good luck getting into graduate school. Unless you have a severe learning disability, you are pretty much screwed in terms of finding a decent paying job or getting into graduate school, unless you attend a very prestigious university that may make up (a little) for your grades. Just, wow!

So, basically, she fails at life? Jeez, don't sugarcoat it or anything...you might leave her with some hope of getting a better job than Taco Bell for the rest of her life.

[bostongreek]

Originally Posted by als463

You took the words right out of my mouth. What medical program do you think you will get into with that GPA? I can tell you EXACTLY why you were cut from the sororities----your grades! I also find it a little funny that you already knew which sororities you wanted, maybe because you thought you were too good for the others so, you had one picked out that was right for you. With your class standing (even at a non-competitive school) and your horrible GPA, you would have been lucky to receive a bid to ANY sorority. Stop worrying about going Greek because at this rate, it ISN'T going to happen.

With a GPA that low, good luck getting into graduate school. Unless you have a severe learning disability, you are pretty much screwed in terms of finding a decent paying job or getting into graduate school, unless you attend a very prestigious university that may make up (a little) for your grades. Just, wow!

Did she piss in your cornflakes or something?

[33girl]

I don't think it was a question of thinking she was "too good" for the other 2 groups as they were the ones that cut her right off the bat anyway. That's honestly not always why someone wants one group over the other, especially at a school with only three groups. If it's that small of a system and you're an upperclassman, you would be kind of an idiot to NOT know which one you want going in. (However, that doesn't mean you should broadcast your preference.)

"Medical program" covers a myriad of things. She's not necessarily trying to be a brain surgeon.

Confusionn - it was a major faux pas to say "I know which sorority I want to be in." They cut you because they thought you meant someone else. They found out you meant them and decided to give you another chance. For whatever reason - could have been your grades, could have been something else - you didn't receive a bid. (p.s.: The fact that they had 3 girls drop that quickly after rush really isn't a good sign IMO - especially at such a small school.)

Your sorority ship has sailed. The system at your school is really too small to get out of this fix. Concentrate on doing well in school and find another extracurricular or two that you enjoy.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Confusionn

I am a Sophomore short by 3 credit hours of being a Junior this semester. My GPA is currently standing at a 2.26. I am in a situation where I do not know if I want to go through recruitment again. I do not want to be rejected for a third time. Not only that, in Spring '11, I am going into a medical program at my school at the end of the semester. So only a year of having fun, and then I'll be studying my butt off.

Sounds like you already had 4 semesters of fun.

Yeah, I can almost guarantee that you were cut because of your grades. A 2.26 is really low even for a non-competitive school. Most NPCs have national GPA requirements, and often the chapter requirement is higher, but your GPA probably wouldn't meet either. You will most likely be rejected a third time.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Confusionn

I am a Sophomore short by 3 credit hours of being a Junior this semester. My GPA is currently standing at a 2.26. I am going into a medical program at my school at the end of the semester....then I'll be studying my butt off.

Focus on doing really well in school and raising your GPA. When I was in college, that also included taking "fluff" courses and/or summer courses to raise your grades. That was done to be eligible for Greekdom (that's not the topic I care about right now) but more importantly to reach your maximum potential and not waste your college investment.

There are plenty of people who graduated with GPAs that they weren't too proud of but recovered from it by getting graduate degrees or finding another way to recognize their potential. Although you will have to submit undergraduate transcripts for graduate schools and certain types of jobs, your undergraduate GPA does NOT follow you for the rest of your life.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Focus on doing really well in school and raising your GPA. When I was in college, that also included taking "fluff" courses and/or summer courses to raise your grades. That was done to be eligible for Greekdom (that's not the topic I care about right now) but more importantly to reach your maximum potential and not waste your college investment.

There are plenty of people who graduated with GPAs that they weren't too proud of but recovered from it by getting graduate degrees or finding another way to recognize their potential. Although you will have to submit undergraduate transcripts for graduate schools and certain types of jobs, your undergraduate GPA does NOT follow you for the rest of your life.

This^. Bring up your grades now, focus on making school your job, and if you enter a graduate program, bust your butt to make up for the undergrad GPA.

Also, make sure to keep your major GPA high. I know my grade problems usually came from gen-ed courses, so I focused on making sure I was making good grades in my major to help offset that. If you haven't already, visit the Graduate Studies office on your campus. They can help you decide how to maximize your options and can point you towards tutors or study skills help if you need it.

[mikewozowski]

als463 - if you are a typical example of the "sorority girl" (or what a sorority girl grows up to be (and, actually, i don't think you are), i don't know who would want to be one!

your responses are just rude. there is a difference between "telling it like it is" and rude, and YOU are the latter.

so many people here talk about being polite by going to all parties to which you are invited and such and knowing what (and what not!) to talk about, etc.

how did YOU ever get in a sorority.

or did you just turn into a bitter witch recently?