My Live Fall 09 Recruitment Story

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Fallen_Angel

We were allowed to go over total on two occassions during my four years because quota was higher than the spots we had to total since the other NPC was struggling and our campus total had remained locked for 3 years straight. So like I said Total can only be gone over in the case of a higher quota than total so it is not a total is the final number period situation.

I'm sure it's rare, and unlikely to happen on any big campus, but on our very small two NPC campus it has happened, and from talking to my little who is chapter key advisor this will most likely be the case again this year.

Oh, I know that. Panhellenic can vote to alllow chapters to bid OVER total on certain occasions. But I was trying to give a basic explanation of total/quota to her, and since it's confusiing enough for PNMs, I didn't want to add that fact in and just keep it simple.

[Fallen_Angel]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Oh, I know that. Panhellenic can vote to alllow chapters to bid OVER total on certain occasions. But I was trying to give a basic explanation of total/quota to her, and since it's confusiing enough for PNMs, I didn't want to add that fact in and just keep it simple.

Yeah I realized that after I typed it, sorry I was just like wait what you mean we couldn't do that.. but we did that. *face-palm* ignore me I need more flu pills.

[MidwayManiac]

Me --- (Support) ---> IHeartSephora

If you had waited and not shared your story because it didn't have a "happy ending" then you wouldn't know you had fans out there. I for one am rooting for you!

My succinct advice is to try not to let opinions from people who hardly know you at all get you down.

[sunnyhibiscus]

Originally Posted by IHeartSephora

Not to be rude, but what part of tried pretty much everything on campus isn't clear? I wish I was exgerating when I said I tried everything with the exception of groups that I obviously didn't qualify for (African American, Gay/Lesbian, etc groups) or clubs with majors totally different than my own. I did everything I could last year to fill the fact that I couldn't rush last fall, but I either didn't fit in (Cru, Intramural and club sports), they no longer exist (Hall Council), or you have to for the most part be greek to get in them (Student Government and Student Alumni Ambassadors).

My heart breaks for you. Listen, I'm not greek and I have to be careful about where I post and what I say, but I want to ask you something. Can't you start up a club based on you like? (i.e. cooking, photography) Who knows? There maybe people that share the same interest as you. There are some clubs that are open to all majors. Try one out. After all, college is about trying something new.

[RhoGamma09]

I am sorry to hear about what happened. We all wouldve liked to hear differently, but you know, this is just how it worked out! When one door closes, another one opens, I am sure you'll get involved in a great way! Get creative!

The rough part about recruitment is that though it can be fun and exciting, it can be brutal too. Everyone, sororities, those who get bids, and those who dont, experiences rejection of some kind.

You should be proud of yourself, you did a very hard thing that many people are not brave enough to try, you went through recruitment, you put yourself out there, and youre still awesome you. Girls who go through recruitment - and get bids or not - are awesome, brave girls. Its a great learning experience, and you are better prepared to handle life than anyone who hasnt tried it.

Rejection happens, but people do great things in the face of it!

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by IHeartSephora

Not to be rude, but what part of tried pretty much everything on campus isn't clear? I wish I was exgerating when I said I tried everything with the exception of groups that I obviously didn't qualify for (African American, Gay/Lesbian, etc groups) or clubs with majors totally different than my own. I did everything I could last year to fill the fact that I couldn't rush last fall, but I either didn't fit in (Cru, Intramural and club sports), they no longer exist (Hall Council), or you have to for the most part be greek to get in them (Student Government and Student Alumni Ambassadors).

I would disagree with Student Alumni Ambassadors. We had one come through recruitment (so obviously she wasnt a greek SAA). They do look for/require a high gpa and involvement in other campus activities.

Have you tried Alpha Phi Omega? It is a coed community service fraternity.

IF your major doesnt have a group on campus, start one! If your hobby/interest doenst have a group on campus, start one! This will give you a group to be involved in and a guaranteed leadership position.

College campuses usually have many opportunities available for community service as well whether it be events on campus that need volunteers or volunteerism in the community. Alternative spring break is another way to do community service. YOu can also call up local charities and ask how you can help (Humane Society, Habitat for Humanity, Relay for Life, Race for the Cure, women/children's shelters, etc).

You can also apply to be an RA. I was under the impression that your campus still had residence hall councils, atleast they are all still listed on the registered student organizations webpage for every dorm, along with the National Residence Hall Honorary group. The student government website still lists residence life council as a branch of student government as well.

YOu can contact the office of student life for the most updated list of student organizations and how to start your own if you are interested.

Good luck!

[erica812]

I've been there. It hurts...no doubt about it. Remember that in part it is a numbers game. I have no doubt that in a normal life situation any number of the sorority women would love you, befriend you, enjoy your company. Recruitmant is a necessarily regemented process. It isn't a final assessment of you and your likeability.

It feels like every door is closed, but there are committees and volunteer opportunites everywhere. Even a part-time job can lead to a community of close friends.

Best wishes...