Recruitment at Southern Mississippi

[ladybug12]

I believe that freshman quota was 28, and upperclassman quota was 5 for a total of 33.

Last year freshman quota was 23 and upperclassman quota was 3.

Congratulations to all!!!

[TupeloHoney]

Yes, she got Pi Phi which was not her 1st choice after the first day house visits, but after visiting the house a few more times and meeting more sisters she is now VERY happy and content with where she was placed!! I think she will have a wonderful experience and make some fabulous new friends.

I hope her experience goes to show other PNM, many times you are placed where you belong, you just don't realize it right away

Mom2girls, I heard many went home, about 60 girls? May just be a rumor though. My niece considered going home after her favorites cut her, but she began to feel an affinity for Pi Phi and is now relieved she hung in there (but is was very close LOL).

[carnation]

TupeloHoney, check your private messages!

And yay for a new Pi Phi!

[OleMissGlitter]

Originally Posted by TupeloHoney

Yes, she got Pi Phi which was not her 1st choice after the first day house visits, but after visiting the house a few more times and meeting more sisters she is now VERY happy and content with where she was placed!! I think she will have a wonderful experience and make some fabulous new friends.

I hope her experience goes to show other PNM, many times you are placed where you belong, you just don't realize it right away

Mom2girls, I heard many went home, about 60 girls? May just be a rumor though. My niece considered going home after her favorites cut her, but she began to feel an affinity for Pi Phi and is now relieved she hung in there (but is was very close LOL).

A few of my classmates from high school are MS Alpha Pi Beta Phi alumnae. Great chapter. One of them is an advisor now for them too. So she is in really good hands!

[OleMissGlitter]

Originally Posted by USMAnchorGirl

OleMissGlitter, Kappa Alpha Theta was closed just prior to recruitment last year, so this is the second year there has been one less sorority.

Ahhh, thanks. I couldn't remember if it was prior or after recruitment last year.

[greekmom3]

Just wanted to take the opportunity to THANK USM's "wonderful" greek life. As a greek alum, I loved my greek experience. Not so, my cousin. She rushed this past week and left heartbroken. She was not sure if she would rush after graduating h.s., but a couple of sorority girls decided to make her their pet project. They had "sisters" friend her on FB, hung out with her group, and pursued her all summer. They had a poster in this sorority on her activities and grades (which are excellent, btw). She graduated Cum Laude in Honors, is a scholarship receipient to USM and her resume is about five pages long. She is beautiful, funny and never meets a stranger. However, all the sororities cut her (including the THREE she was a legacy to - grandmother, mother and two aunts) the night of pref because this sorority spread the word she was pledging them. I understand they did not promise anything; however, she liked one of the others best. Thanks, greek life at USM. This gives a new meaning to "dirty rush". I am sure my cousin will go on to be a great attribute to USM; and not miss a minute of the horrible women in this one sorority. I do think she would have been a great fit at the one she loved, but the bad one was so focused on numbers that they ruined it for both. I hope you receive the same consideration when you go for your first job interview or maybe when your child decides to rush.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by greekmom3

Just wanted to take the opportunity to THANK USM's "wonderful" greek life. As a greek alum, I loved my greek experience. Not so, my cousin. She rushed this past week and left heartbroken. She was not sure if she would rush after graduating h.s., but a couple of sorority girls decided to make her their pet project. They had "sisters" friend her on FB, hung out with her group, and pursued her all summer. They had a poster in this sorority on her activities and grades (which are excellent, btw). She graduated Cum Laude in Honors, is a scholarship receipient to USM and her resume is about five pages long. She is beautiful, funny and never meets a stranger. However, all the sororities cut her (including the THREE she was a legacy to - grandmother, mother and two aunts) the night of pref because this sorority spread the word she was pledging them. I understand they did not promise anything; however, she liked one of the others best. Thanks, greek life at USM. This gives a new meaning to "dirty rush". I am sure my cousin will go on to be a great attribute to USM; and not miss a minute of the horrible women in this one sorority. I do think she would have been a great fit at the one she loved, but the bad one was so focused on numbers that they ruined it for both. I hope you receive the same consideration when you go for your first job interview or maybe when your child decides to rush.

First off, I am sorry to hear that your cousin did not receive a bid.

However, I like to caution people against accusing chapters of "dirty rush" because a particular girl didn't get a bid.

Also, just a note, legiacies are never guaranteed bids in any situation. It's also worth considering that there are probably many PNMs at USM with similar stats.

It's also difficult to speculate about the reason someone was released, because that's just not something you know unless you were there and are a member of that chapter.

I realize that this is all probably info that you're hearing from the cousin, but she can't say for sure why she was cut either.

I do hope that she goes on to enjoy college though.

[greekmom3]

She will. And I haven't heard any of this from her. I am not accusing them of "dirty rush" because she didn't get a bid; I am accusing them of it because they DID tell other sororities "she will pledge us".

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by greekmom3

She will. And I haven't heard any of this from her. I am not accusing them of "dirty rush" because she didn't get a bid; I am accusing them of it because they DID tell other sororities "she will pledge us".

Ok, my point with that was simply saying that it's important to know that unless you were there, you do not know what was said by any sorority.

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by greekmom3

Just wanted to take the opportunity to THANK USM's "wonderful" greek life. As a greek alum, I loved my greek experience. Not so, my cousin. She rushed this past week and left heartbroken. She was not sure if she would rush after graduating h.s., but a couple of sorority girls decided to make her their pet project. They had "sisters" friend her on FB, hung out with her group, and pursued her all summer. They had a poster in this sorority on her activities and grades (which are excellent, btw). She graduated Cum Laude in Honors, is a scholarship receipient to USM and her resume is about five pages long. She is beautiful, funny and never meets a stranger. However, all the sororities cut her (including the THREE she was a legacy to - grandmother, mother and two aunts) the night of pref because this sorority spread the word she was pledging them. I understand they did not promise anything; however, she liked one of the others best. Thanks, greek life at USM. This gives a new meaning to "dirty rush". I am sure my cousin will go on to be a great attribute to USM; and not miss a minute of the horrible women in this one sorority. I do think she would have been a great fit at the one she loved, but the bad one was so focused on numbers that they ruined it for both. I hope you receive the same consideration when you go for your first job interview or maybe when your child decides to rush.

That sounds like a movie plot. I don't even understand all that.

How do you know for sure that they told the other sororities that?

[greekmom3]

Originally Posted by BlueCarnation

That sounds like a movie plot. I don't even understand all that.

“Much learning does not teach understanding.”

[sigmaceli]

I find it interesting that you are insinuating a lack of intelligence on Carnation's part. You are understandably upset at the outcome of your cousin's recruitment process, but I think you should heed KSUViolet's advice and refrain from posting comments about a situation that is hearsay at the moment. I think it's also pretty rude to make unkind remarks regardless if it's on the Internet.

Best of luck to you and your family member, and I wish her the best of luck at USM as well.

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by greekmom3

“Much learning does not teach understanding.”

I certainly didn't mean to sound harsh in my post. I was just confused because I've never heard such a story and can't believe girls would do something like that, except maybe in a movie; I never experienced anything like that on my campus, but maybe I'm just naive. I'm very sorry that it didn't work out for your cousin, but KSUViolet is pretty wise when it comes to these things, and I would heed her advice. You were not there and don't know exactly what happened. It doesn't do your cousin any good for you to be out spreading things on the internet when you don't know all the facts. I know you are not upset with me, but if it makes you feel better to release your anger to strangers on here, please go ahead. It must be an upsetting time.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by greekmom3

Just wanted to take the opportunity to THANK USM's "wonderful" greek life. As a greek alum, I loved my greek experience. Not so, my cousin. She rushed this past week and left heartbroken. She was not sure if she would rush after graduating h.s., but a couple of sorority girls decided to make her their pet project. They had "sisters" friend her on FB, hung out with her group, and pursued her all summer. They had a poster in this sorority on her activities and grades (which are excellent, btw). She graduated Cum Laude in Honors, is a scholarship receipient to USM and her resume is about five pages long. She is beautiful, funny and never meets a stranger. However, all the sororities cut her (including the THREE she was a legacy to - grandmother, mother and two aunts) the night of pref because this sorority spread the word she was pledging them. I understand they did not promise anything; however, she liked one of the others best. Thanks, greek life at USM. This gives a new meaning to "dirty rush". I am sure my cousin will go on to be a great attribute to USM; and not miss a minute of the horrible women in this one sorority. I do think she would have been a great fit at the one she loved, but the bad one was so focused on numbers that they ruined it for both. I hope you receive the same consideration when you go for your first job interview or maybe when your child decides to rush.

To be blunt if I heard a woman was going to join XYZ but I liked her, I'd invite her back because a) that's dirty rushing b) it could be a rumor c) she might change her mind. Every group is different but it isn't easy to release legacies without VERY good reason. Perhaps SHE said she was joining XYZ and she was released for that behavior.

There have been instances where women have claimed to have been cut or released from recruitment and are not being truthful about that with their friends and relatives, when in fact they didn't want to go through or join at all (didn't want to join their legacy chapter, cut chapters they didn't like and were left with nothing, etc.) and instead of admitting so, they put the blame on sororities.

Lastly it is completely possible that there was something about your cousin you and your family are unaware of that was brought to the attention of the members, and this is why she has no bid. She may be ashamed or humiliated about it and instead of saying "well I made this bad decision that has come back to haunt me" she again, blames us for cutting her for "no reason" where as there may be a good reason.

Or, and this is unfortunate, maybe she was rude, nasty, or inappropriate at recruitment and since you care for her so much you are unaware that she is capable of being unpleasant.

ETA: Regardless, she is hurting so be supportive, caring, don't badmouth sororities and the Greek system, and give her the love and care she needs. You will likely never know what happened, so don't dwell on it.

[libelle]

ETA: Regardless, she is hurting so be supportive, caring, don't badmouth sororities and the Greek system, and give her the love and care she needs. You will likely never know what happened, so don't dwell on it.[/QUOTE]


Since the South is a small world it would be best to follow VandalSquirrel's advice. You don't want to undermine her if she decides to rush again.