Rush at UCSC - Page 44

FuzzieAlum · #1 04-21-2002, 10:57 PM

It's possible Alpha Psi wants to make up for their behavior in that incident and this is their way of doing it. Of course being wary isn't a bad idea, but if they're sorry, this might be a good time to stop the feud from getting to be a habit. If you rebuff them, they might get a real attitude!

maggieaxid · #2 04-22-2002, 09:15 AM

I have found it is always better to be allies with another sorority rather than blowing them off. A social would be a great idea. You guys could totally make it a fun end of the year date party!

NoShame_Gamma · #3 04-22-2002, 02:21 PM

Hi Corina! I have just recently begun reading this thread and all I can say is WOW! Girl, I feel you! I know how hard it is to start from scratch. Congratulations on everything you've accomplished and keep up the good work!.

On a different note, I noticed a lot of your sisters/members are registered on Collegiate Circuit, is there a reason you aren't? Anyway, I'm on CC, my screen name is HSUGamma.

Feel free to PM me.

Once again, Congratulations and I'll stay posted.

Sincerely,
Obdulia

wishinhopin · #4 04-22-2002, 08:16 PM

Hi everyone,

I finally got in touch with John Holloway, and he hasn't received anything from AXiD even though their director of expansion said she mailed out a packet on the 4th! I'm so confused. But I'm sure things will work out. We're going to plan some kind of casual social thing with Alpha Psi, but not for a little while cuz we're super busy these days. We're having a meeting tonight where we're going to be working on our constitution, which we desperately need to get under control. I think tonight's meeting will be very useful, I'll let you all know if anything interesting happens. Oh, and I'm not on collegiate circuit just because I've been lazy and way too busy to try to do anything else! I was overwhelmed with the process of registering, but I'm going to check it out soon, it seems cool. That's all for now, thanks for the compliments!
Corina

nbosista · #5 04-23-2002, 01:55 AM

hey! i used to be on CC also! my name was nbosistaliz. Yeah, most of us is on it. it's a good way to get to know people from other campuses. a lot of people are greek, so it's cool!

wishinhopin · #6 04-23-2002, 09:11 PM

I'm so mad!!! My roomate- who, by the way, is very unsupportive of my involvement in being greek- just now told me that she's decided to live with some of our guy friends next year, even though we've been planning for OVER A YEAR now to live together off campus!!! How messed up is that? On the plus side, I think NBO is going to try to hunt out a house that we can make the unnoficial sorority house, so that could be pretty cool. I'm just irritated and I needed to vent, thanks for listening.
Corina

princesspage64 · #7 04-23-2002, 09:32 PM

Well, speaking from 2 years of problem roomates...

If she wasn't supportive of what you chose to do, wether she believes in it or not, she probably wasn't a super good friend in the first place. With NBO looking for a house, than maybe this was meant to happen, and it is for the best. Maybe after y'all have seprate living quarters, things will cool down. Good Luck!!

mmcat · #8 04-23-2002, 10:06 PM

you could see it coming...
don't freak out, use it as a chance to grow.
you'll be fine.
mmcat

dzsaigirl · #9 04-23-2002, 11:33 PM

Your friends are supposed to build you up, not tear you down! Consider it a good thing that she won't be there to nag you about NBO next year. You go girl!

Peaches-n-Cream · #10 04-24-2002, 12:33 AM

I never had a roommate for more than one year which is how I managed to stay friends with them.

Believe me, this is a good thing.

NoShame_Gamma · #11 04-24-2002, 03:29 AM

I came to school with a friend I had known since Junior High and we lived together for 2 years. Let me just say that by the end of the 2nd year I was dreading living with her for another year... Now, we each have our own place and we get along soooooo much better. We hang out more now than we did then.

About living with your sisters, that sounds great, but make sure you have the same living/house manners. Trust me, sister or no sister, if you both have different ways of treating your house, there will be conflict.

I hope this helps. Talk to you soon and thanks for the PM.

wishinhopin · #12 04-29-2002, 07:44 PM

Hey all,

I think this whole roomate thing has been good in a couple ways, mainly because its prompted me to rethink my friendships with some people. Sometimes there are people I just put up with, and I'm just not in the mood to do that anymore. Why would I want to hang out with people who bring me down all the time? So since then I've been spending more time with NBO and less time with my outside "friends", and having alot of fun. On Friday night we all went out to a party and just chilled, and it was really nice. We all enjoyed ourselves and had fun and it was just amazing to all of us that we could do that together so well. So I'm really glad we had that chance to bond more. And then on Saturday, the girls went and played softball with DOC (the source of previous drama), but I had to work. I'm really glad we planned that event though, because everyone (from NBO and DOC) that I've talked to said they had a really good time, and I think it made everyone feel a little more comfy. But then here is the drama. One of our pledges- Marissa- works with me at Macy's. Saturday was our first full day open and it was CRAZY. So we both ended up working late and not being able to get out until like 10. The pledges had planned a slumber party for all of us, but then there was this drama because the other two- Suzette and Toni- got into this huge fight earlier that day and didn't want to talk to eachother. So we tried to figure out what to do. Some of my sisters wanted to go get each of them and basically force them to work things out. I didn't think that was a good idea, I thought giving them some space and time to cool off would work better, especially considering that I know Suzette well enough to be aware that she would NOT appreciate that kind of interference. So then we were all trying to get together to just have a slumber party with the rest of us, but no one could agree on where we should meet or what we should do. We took a majority vote to go to Marissa's, but a two sisters didn't want to go. So we decided that, for that night, we didn't have to have a sisterhood activity. The same two sisters who didn't want to go to Marissa's were also depressed about breaking up with their boyfriends, and one of our sisters was really sick, so it seemed like it would be better to postpone it. Makes sense right? But now people are freaking out about how we always delay things, and we never get anything done, and I don't even understand why so much drama is being made about something that is honestly not that big of a deal. So after these two sisters refused to go- they decided to just go home instead- we decided that we could just go chill at Marissa's and just hang out. But some people wanted to stay home and get some sleep, so as it turned out, only me and one other sister went. I suspect that at this meeting tonight I will learn why this is such a big deal- it just stresses me out. I have soooooo much going on in my life right now, and I don't need drama that isn't even necessary. And furthermore, my one sister who is REALLY pissed about this whole thing (although I don't even know why) has been leaving away messages on her instant messenger that are all like "leave me alone, don't bother me with stupid shit, people just keep disapointing me and i don't want to deal with it. i don't want to talk to you" She IMed me that evening and said "Everything is messed up. I hope you had fun." And then she signed off. I'm sorry, I just don't need that kind of negativity, especially when there does not appear to be a good reason for it!! I'm trying to be open minded so I can hopefully figure out the root of this problem, but right now I am very overwhelmed. But I did find out that AZD will be coming to present in mid-May sometime! Tri-Sigma hasn't responded yet, which is a little wierd. And Alpha Phi and Kappa Kappa Gamma (the two orgs that Alpha Psi, the other local org, want to affiliate with) haven't responded yet either. So who knows how things will work out. Sorry this is so long, I've been working soooo much that I haven't had time to do anything else and I had to catch up!
love, Corina

dzsaigirl · #13 04-29-2002, 09:54 PM

One thing you will have to get used to is that there will never be a time when everyone can participate. If you only have events if 100% of people can come, you are being too hard on yourself. If some people can't, oh well, do it anyway (unless everyone can't!). There will always be other opportunities for them to do the things they missed out on!

I am happy to hear that you are getting a visit! Keep us informed

Luv2BGreek · #14 04-30-2002, 12:59 AM

Wow! I've been reading this thread for sometime and I must say I am more and more impressed with every new post - you're doing a great job Corina and everyone is giving her such good advice and support - true NPC love all around!

NoShame_Gamma · #15 04-30-2002, 02:21 AM

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Originally posted by wishinhopin
But now people are freaking out about how we always delay things, and we never get anything done[/B]

What do you mean "never get anything done"? You've accomplished so much. If you never got anything done, there would be no NBO! Keep moving forward and keep up the good work!