Rush - What to NOT do or say

[FLgirl24]

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

So, the question that came from that vent is: How do I compliment the Sisters in the houses without sounding
A: Like a fakey-McFakerson
B: Like a kiss-ass ?

Hey, that is such a great question! I'm going through recruitment this week and I was thinking the same thing. I want them to know I'm impressed with their accomplishments without sounding like I'm sucking up or a total creeper. I don't want them to think of me like this: GIFSoup

Any GCers have advice?

[MaryPoppins]

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[DeltaBetaBaby]

I don't understand what the question is. You want to compliment the chapter, or individual rushers, or what?

[FLgirl24]

Sorry, i see now that i didn't really phrase the question clearly. How do you give compliments to the rusher without sounding fake? (both complimenting the rusher on her chapter and complimenting the rusher individually)

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by FLgirl24

Sorry, i see now that i didn't really phrase the question clearly. How do you give compliments to the rusher without sounding fake? (both complimenting the rusher on her chapter and complimenting the rusher individually)

I don't really understand why you want to compliment the rusher or the chapter. I mean, you should show genuine enthusiasm for the chapter and cool things that it does as they come up in conversation ("wow, you guys raised a billion dollars for poor kittens? that's really impressive!"), but just complimenting people out of the blue is a little awkward.

[misscherrypie]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I don't really understand why you want to compliment the rusher or the chapter. I mean, you should show genuine enthusiasm for the chapter and cool things that it does as they come up in conversation ("wow, you guys raised a billion dollars for poor kittens? that's really impressive!"), but just complimenting people out of the blue is a little awkward.

This is what I meant. I mean, I can't help but be appreciative of the great accomplishments that are done through Philanthropy, whether inside or outside of GLO's.

I'm just going to be myself, and if someone says something like "We raised $10,000 for Local Animal Shelter last year", I can respond in the way that comes naturally to me, such as "That's really cool. What did you enjoy most about working with Local Animal Shelter?"

[SWTXBelle]

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[carnation]

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[Cheerio]

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[AGDCanada11]

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[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by greekmomIN

I have a daughter who is a junior and very active in her sorority. Her sister will be attending the same university this fall, but is determined to consider all sororities on campus. Does she mention being a legacy but wanting to keep her options open, or say nothing?

Odds are, every sorority will know, unless it's a huge campus. And even then, chapters know when it's an inhouse legacy. I would suggest that if the actives seem to assess her interest she says something about how her sister is in a sorority on campus but she wants to find her home, not her sister's home. (And continue to express interest in her sister's assuming she IS interested after meeting the chapter.)

[Loyally Kappa]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Odds are, every sorority will know.

Agreed.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by bulldog_2010

The 5's are outdated. I hate having these rules that everyone breaks. After the days events are over a few girls are always called and asked back over to meet the favorite frat. These girls are also taken out by a girl or two for dinner and to the social bar to show potential new members how much fun we are. This is dirty rushing but one every sorority does. When was the bible off limits? All the sororites I know have a bible study and attend the oncampus relgious centers.

So you are familiar with all the sororities in the world for your first point? And for the second, it's usually considered bad form to discuss religion outside certain very specific forums or with close friends.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

So you are familiar with all the sororities in the world for your first point? And for the second, it's usually considered bad form to discuss religion outside certain very specific forums or with close friends.

^This. Or politics. Whether or not you think it should be off limits you run the risk of accidentally offending someone and since both religion and politics can be VERY personal, it can get out of hand in 2.5.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

I do wonder about NPC recruitment at schools like Houston Baptist, which require Christian worship and other spiritual participation for graduation. I haven't been there, but it's hard to imagine that you could have a conversation about school without touching on religious topics at a college with that sort of mission.

I don't know. That kind of college is WAY outside of my experience.

If I were a PNM, I'd let the person recruiting me take the lead on that. I wouldn't bring it up, unless she did. In any event, I wouldn't focus on personal faith, but use it as opportunity to talk about my extra-curricular involvement (choir, youth leader, stuff like that).

Better safe than sorry.