Parents against sororities....

[BabyPiNK_FL]

I didn't tell my parents until after initiation and they've never paid my dues, (even now and before during times when I'm not working have they paid my dues) so it can be done, but you better be sure that it's a realistic option for you!

[cutie_cat_4ever]

There are, in fact sororities that are geared towards southeast asian women. One of the biggest ones is Delta Phi Omega http://www.deltaphiomega.org/ . If you feel that cutural would be a big issue (as you mention in your posts) groups like this would probably suit you more. Maybe you can even try alpha Kappa Delta Phi http://www.akdphi.org/ , which is to date the largest asian sorority. Good luck!

[Redraidergirl]

Actually a friend of mine is the president of DPO Alpha Chapter. The only problem with that is we have an very small [2 people] chapter of a similar sorority...
Delta Kappa Delta... but its on the verge of closing... and the south aisian community here is not very supportive of a sorority, and waning.

[OPhiAGinger]

Although I'm not that familiar with the restrictions resulting from your religion, I have quite a few Indian friends from work so I completely understand the cultural implications involved. I would strongly advise against trying to do something behind your parents' backs. It will almost certainly blow up in your face, and your parents will never trust you again.

Instead, look for a sorority that meets your sisterhood needs but will also make your parents more comfortable with the whole idea. I'm sure the NPC and NPHC chapters on your campus are admirable, but your parents may be more comfortable with a cultural (Indian or multi-cultural), Christian, or service sorority instead. Research your options, even the option of bringing a new one on campus if none of the current ones feel just right. Fortunately, on most campuses the process of bringing one of these chapters on campus is a bit quicker and easier than bringing a new NPC chapter on.

Find one that you think your parents might be comfortable with, and then approach them with a specific proposal ("I am interested in joining the XYZ sorority and here is why I think it would be good for me") rather than the general "I want to join a sorority" statement. Best of luck!

[IVY BEAUTY]

I know some people that pledge against their parents thoughts. Some of them actually continue to hide it til this day. The choice is yours, I don't think Greekchat.com can help you with that. At the end of the day, your parnets may still be against it. Or they might began to love it. Who knows????

[JetGel]

to be honest, i pledged as a junior without my parents knowledge. they too didn't see eye to eye on being in a sorority with all the bad images of girls going wild and what not. basically i just raised the money myself and plus my chapter was really supportive and understanding about dues and what not. also after i crossed, i told my folks that i was in the sorority and it was for life. nothing they do could ever change that. fortunately for me, they understood. although they prefer me not to be too involved, but i do it anyways. don't get me wrong...i have really really strict folks, but yea- it's possible.

[DGMarie]

Redraidergirl: i am pretty sure in the bible it doesn't say "Thou shalt not have short hair, or date" yeah there are guidelines.... but nothing like "those who wear their shoulder bare shall be cursed"


I know this is an old thread, but this website will explain where the not cutting hair interpretation comes from. See verse 6 in 1 Corinthians 11.

http://www.bible-researcher.com/headcoverings.html

and the part about not wearing pants is commonly cited from this passage:

Deuteronomy 22:5 - The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by epchick

I know that Alpha Phi has scholarships, but (at least from what i understand) our scholarships are STRICTLY for APhi members. Do any sororities have scholarships for non-members?

I'm bored & was rereading this thread. ASA has a scholarship specifically for a nonmember, who is majoring in the special education field (since Special Olympics is one of our philanthropies).

If your even still reading this b/c it's such an old thread....

I pledged my sorority against my parents wishes. Once I was finally initiated I introduced them to my new sisters and after that they were better with it. I've now been in for a year and now that they know my sisters personally (I live a half hour away from campus and they always come visit) and they will actually how different sisters are.

[Redraidergirl]

i'm still around, but now i'm working with girls to start an engineering sorority. there are reasons that i am doing this....
some of you can do some sleuthing and put together some clues... it shouldn't be that hard....