Don't Marry Career Women

[tld221]

http://www.forbes.com/home/2006/08/2...x_mn_land.html

i like point/counterpoint type articles.

2 things about me: i tend to go with logic. i don't want to be married.
so it makes sense that i would agree with the man's POV. all his research is there. but in the end it seems like "if a woman has a stable career, and if you marry her, then a, b, and c, will happen, so ha! don't marry her!"

on the other hand, the woman's argument isnt any better: she seems to be saying "suck it up you big baby! MY marriage worked; whats wrong with YOU?"

i'm still digesting.

[f8nacn]

I skimmed the article and I must say...

Marry where your heart is at. I agree with Elizabeth and that there must be a willingness to change, a willingness to adapt to things that arise in marriages. Marriages take work and definitely there isn't some "cookie-cutter" format that we must work it by.

[texas*princess]

that article makes me ill.

What about the guys who cheat on their wives with their secretaries? Where are the statistics on that?

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

that article makes me ill.

What about the guys who cheat on their wives with their secretaries? Where are the statistics on that?

Marriage is very difficult. I wouldn't do it. For the fellas who decide to marry, make sure you have a job, and not only a job but one where you can financially carry the load.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by KAY10

Marriage is very difficult. I wouldn't do it. For the fellas who decide to marry, make sure you have a job, and not only a job but one where you can financially carry the load.

"Financially carry the load"... can you clarify?

Are ya scared that a woman might make more than you someday? It is a problem if she does?

[shinerbock]

Whats wrong with the man providing? Its pretty common here for women not to work (at least after she has children).

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

"Financially carry the load"... can you clarify?

Are ya scared that a woman might make more than you someday? It is a problem if she does?

No. I'm not scared of a woman making more than me. I could care less. I just know that man better provide for his wife rather you agree with it or not. Marriage is hard. Period, and I wouldn't do it.

Now, I'm not going to get into it with you, because just by the way you've jumped to conclusions by accussing me of being afraid of women making more than me, I'm not going to even waste my time detailing my thoughts to you. I can see it would just anger you.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by KAY10

make sure you have a job, and not only a job but one where you can financially carry the load.

Why?

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

Why?

Because he is supposed to be the provider by default, unless they both agree she provides.