Allowing Significant other to wear letters......

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally Posted by marquise1911

I saw some high school leagers in "future kappa" shirts in the Journal

My Kappa Leaguers wanted to wear "future Kappa" shirts...this led to a looonnng discussion. My first impulse was to look at them silly, but after I explained they understood.

[Live_Wire17]

Originally Posted by jitterbug13

She is!

Then it's all good.

[Live_Wire17]

Originally Posted by KAPPAtivating

My Kappa Leaguers wanted to wear "future Kappa" shirts...this led to a looonnng discussion. My first impulse was to look at them silly, but after I explained they understood.

The Kappa Leaguers out here are out of control sometimes. I find myself checking a number of the youth groups here...they seem to think they can address me and compare with me...I let them know quick...

[DST_philoso4]

WOW, I didn't know ppl got so mad over some things. Like, the stories of ppl rockin' a shirt because it matched etc. is clearly unacceptable. But touching canes paddles etc., I've never heard of anyone flipping over that. As a matter of fact, some of my boys who are Kappas were teaching me how to twirl with their canes! I don't see the big deal with people touching my things, like I have a family paddle that is 5 feet tall, and OF COURSE, people are drawn to it, and other gifts that I received upon crossing, jewelry boxes, pillows etc. people want to see, so I don't mind if they pick them up and look at them [they can't LAY on them, but they can look]. I feel like sometimes people cross the line of "worshiping" these things. While I will NOT let my letters be disrespected, I don't mind people "touching" my things. And there have been times when I was with my ex, who's an Alpha, at a greek event, and I may be cold he'd ask if I wanted his line Jacket, I never accepted, but it doesn't seem like a big deal to me, I'm not trying to "perp", and it's just not that serious...... now if someone was trying to take down one of my degrees off the wall, THAT'S a different story! I have them nicely framed and I WILL shank someone!! lmao j/k

[DST_philoso4]

Originally Posted by jyhad1906

Ha Ha I was a 2nd sem soph. this girl came all the way from USC in colombia to FMU in florence to see me. well the nxt morning about 6 she nudging me telling me she gotta pee. I tell her the bathrms down the hall first door on the rt. i look up eyes full of sleep i see my line name in bright gold ass letters bouncing out my bedrm door. now my line name was on my shirt . my shirt was suposse to be on my chair but instead it was on the girls back. shit i jumps out the bed bucket ass naked down the hall with all my glory boppin and weavin early mornin woody and all. Im yelling what the f**k you doing, and made her take my shirt off right there in the hall. to make matters worse my two rm mates come into the hall to see whats going on and start laughing their asses off. The girls they were with didn't talk to me for about a month. that was the first time i got that nookie. That was the best nookie i had all sem. and that was the last time i got that nookie.

[DST_philoso4]

Originally Posted by Da Mayor

Question -

A couple of my LB's have sons that are around 5 and can frequently be seen rockin' "future Nupe" or "my daddy's a Kappa", or rockin' the colors, holding the kane, etc. While it clearly isn't an issue now, at what point (age) should your child stop rockin' nalia if not in the org! I have my own theory but interested in others views.

It's ALWAYS an issue no matter how old or young they are! I can't STAND those shirts! Show you're a future "insert org here" by doing some service and other GOOD things they do in the community! Your parents being one does not let you lay claim to being one! My bro, who is 9, is dead set on being a Kappa because of the colors "red and white for boys as he says" and he knows so many, they've even offered to show him how to cane--I never let it go down though. But I let him know QUICK that going around saying that he "is going to be" or, God forbid, having one of those idiot shirts is NOT what's up! If when he gets to college he's tip top on his game, and they choose him, then fine, until then, it's not up for discussion, but we do work on things that'll make him an excellent candidate like service, political involvement, learning other languages, extra-curricular business, science and engineering programs and studying abroad! HE should be more concerned about being a FUTURE DOCTOR/ENGINEER/LAWYER above all, everything else is a DISTANT second!

[RedAngel]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

My hubby and I have four children and the 2 boys (7 and 6) wear them now, however I think when they are about 10 it's time to stop. Our girls wear the future AKA shirts as well. However, they wear them if we're at a greek function. What age do you think is too old?

I would think 10. Personally, I'm not a big fan of the future shirts and I've never bought one for my niece who is 3. I'm not sensitive with people touching greek items but I would never let my significant other wear my items.

[pinkies up]

I don't think it's a big deal for someone to touch an item....unless it's on you, well, unless it yo' man........

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by DST_philoso4

It's ALWAYS an issue no matter how old or young they are! I can't STAND those shirts! Show you're a future "insert org here" by doing some service and other GOOD things they do in the community! Your parents being one does not let you lay claim to being one! My bro, who is 9, is dead set on being a Kappa because of the colors "red and white for boys as he says" and he knows so many, they've even offered to show him how to cane--I never let it go down though. But I let him know QUICK that going around saying that he "is going to be" or, God forbid, having one of those idiot shirts is NOT what's up! If when he gets to college he's tip top on his game, and they choose him, then fine, until then, it's not up for discussion, but we do work on things that'll make him an excellent candidate like service, political involvement, learning other languages, extra-curricular business, science and engineering programs and studying abroad! HE should be more concerned about being a FUTURE DOCTOR/ENGINEER/LAWYER above all, everything else is a DISTANT second!

This is true. Our kids know this is something they do in college and when they have the grades. We take them to community service functions when possible, but because they're 7,6,3,and 1, I never really dressed them in the shirts for them. Mainly I do it for me.

[DST_philoso4]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

I don't think it's a big deal for someone to touch an item....unless it's on you, well, unless it yo' man........

bad bad bad...well u are married so u're straight!

[DST_philoso4]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

This is true. Our kids know this is something they do in college and when they have the grades. We take them to community service functions when possible, but because they're 7,6,3,and 1, I never really dressed them in the shirts for them. Mainly I do it for me.

lol I feel you. MAN, but what is NOT what's up, is seeing like SIXTEEN YEAR OLDS [or someone who's big enough where you think they're a SOROR initially] rockin' "future ______ " warm ups, and I've seen it, I'll just say VERRRRRRRRRRRRRY VERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRY recently!!

I almost feel bad for those kids. That is a straight SET UP by their parents. Because when they go to college....NEXT YEAR.... it'll still fit, and I PRAY for mercy on them when the orgs chapter on that yard sees them rockin' that!

[bakingpoodle]

Something similar happened to me before I became greek. My boyfriend was a Mason and I was drinking water from a Mason glass. He had a fit and explained to my why I couldn't drink from it. I understand now that I am greek myself.

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by DST_philoso4

lol I feel you. MAN, but what is NOT what's up, is seeing like SIXTEEN YEAR OLDS [or someone who's big enough where you think they're a SOROR initially] rockin' "future ______ " warm ups, and I've seen it, I'll just say VERRRRRRRRRRRRRY VERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRY recently!!

I almost feel bad for those kids. That is a straight SET UP by their parents. Because when they go to college....NEXT YEAR.... it'll still fit, and I PRAY for mercy on them when the orgs chapter on that yard sees them rockin' that!

Now that's WAYYYYYYY too old. I don't know how I feel about the girls organizations. We have Ivyettes and the Deltas have Cream De La Cream, however, they DO NOT wear anything that can be alluded to a sorority. Ivyettes wear green and white, and the Cream's wear white and black. They are told this is not a Pre-AKA organization and not to go to ______ College/University and wear these shirt or walk up to an AKA and say "I was an Ivyette".

Even though I am an active member of my sorority and I want my daughters to one day experience this sisterhood, they do not have the right to be AKA's. Just because mama is one doesn't mean they have automatic rights. I do not want them going the legacy way. Maybe I'm wrong, but I didn't have that privillege and I'm glad that I didn't. If they choose to go another route... , (LOL) I will support them because they have to love their organization. I don't want them in AKA if their hearts aren't in it.

[DST_philoso4]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Now that's WAYYYYYYY too old. I don't know how I feel about the girls organizations. We have Ivyettes and the Deltas have Cream De La Cream, however, they DO NOT wear anything that can be alluded to a sorority. Ivyettes wear green and white, and the Cream's wear white and black. They are told this is not a Pre-AKA organization and not to go to ______ College/University and wear these shirt or walk up to an AKA and say "I was an Ivyette".

Even though I am an active member of my sorority and I want my daughters to one day experience this sisterhood, they do not have the right to be AKA's. Just because mama is one doesn't mean they have automatic rights. I do not want them going the legacy way. Maybe I'm wrong, but I didn't have that privillege and I'm glad that I didn't. If they choose to go another route... , (LOL) I will support them because they have to love their organization. I don't want them in AKA if their hearts aren't in it.

1st paragraph: lmao, who you tellin' u can imagine my HORROR when I mistook these babes for sorority women [i.e., they looked old enough to be in one]. that's cool the high school groups there don't actually wear colors, around these parts they do! Well, at least the main color, like the Delta girls and Kappa boys groups wear Black and red [which you will also see Deltas and Kappas rockin'] but everyone else actually wears the orgs colors. While I'm like on that, it's not that big of a deal. HOWEVER I've been other places where they have hand signs, "calls", and well, basically everything the frats/sororities have, and I'm like as a matter of fact, check out this page and tell me what you think, all I have to say is I found it when I was looking for more information on it for my brother:

http://www.geocities.com/kl_1922/KLphotos.html *shaking head* someone needs to get BEAT DOWN!

2nd paragraph: I wish everyone felt like that! I've seen it in EVERY org. It is sickening to hear on all occassions. I remember on one occassion I was out with a friend of mine who's an AKA, and a girl came up to her and was like [verbatim] "uh, yeah, my mama is a "skee-wee" *throwing up pinky* I'm going to be one of your sorors soon" I counted to ten like A HUNNID TIMES! but since that didn't work, and the visions of me knocking her to the ground and riverdancing on her chest just wouldn't go away, I had to just go on ahead and leave.

[abaici]

Originally Posted by DST_philoso4

http://www.geocities.com/kl_1922/KLphotos.html *shaking head* someone needs to get BEAT DOWN!

They are emulating things they see.