To be a Deb or not to be a Deb?

[DSTCHAOS]

Deb balls only work for me because there's usually scholarship money and/or social networks to gain from participation.

If you don't stand to gain either from a deb ball, even if it's a cultural right of passage, it's pompous and tends to reinforce gender expectations.

[annabella]

Agree with BadCat. It's you do it to make the family members who did it before you happy. I don't know if I'll "make" my kids do it, but I want them to have the option.

Also I wish I could have had cash instead of that dress I will never again wear. Mostly that.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by annabella

Also I wish I could have had cash instead of that dress I will never again wear. Mostly that.

THIS.

I still think about the things I could have purchased with that money. lol.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by annabella

Also I wish I could have had cash instead of that dress I will never again wear. Mostly that.

Bingo. I was supposed to be in one, my mom signed me up and everything. But when I saw the information packet that listed what we'd need and how much everything was, I asked my mom if I could drop out and have a car instead. She obliged.

[libelle]

Thought y'all might be interested in the other half of the deb process. Along the Gulf Coast the deb season peaks at Mardi Gras:

http://blog.al.com/live/2010/01/jama...e_crowned.html

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by libelle

Thought y'all might be interested in the other half of the deb process. Along the Gulf Coast the deb season peaks at Mardi Gras:

http://blog.al.com/live/2010/01/jama...e_crowned.html

I've only participated in one deb ball, but been a guest at many. And yeah, it's a pain to get a dress, get it fitted, wear the stupid gloves and all that, but it's still fun. I'm glad I did it and I like going as a guest even better. Less effort, same fun.