Let the "Where's Your Boyfriend?"s begin!!! - Page 4

uwkappa · #46 02-07-2005, 11:56 PM

i get this question allllllllll the time...my cousin who is three months older and recently engaged (and a full fledged bridezilla btw) has decided to also start this question...why is this an appropriate question? i would never ask someone why they dont get their facial hair seen to or why they stay with an obviously less than satisfactory spouse or a million other things i would dearly love to know but feel would be rude to ask...blah!

RUgreek · #47 02-08-2005, 12:16 AM

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Originally posted by jess_pom
ETA: Do guys get this too? If so, then "Where's your girlfriend?"

Yea, this is always my big chance to pass some jokes at a party though. Where is she? Damn if I know, they told me 4-6 weeks?

These questions come from girls though, always gauging to see which friends are on the market. No guy gives a crap about their friend's love life. I'll get a call when they decide to propose though...better come up with some new single jokes

RUgreek · #48 02-08-2005, 12:19 AM

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Originally posted by James
I was just wondering this . . . I don't think we get it as much or as early. I think a mom or other female relative is likely to ask this question of a guy when he is much older than girls getting the same question.

Also, I think a guy's family knows that a lot of times men will be dating but not bring their girlfriend home for the holidays for a variety of reasons so won't bring it up.

How often do we hear stories about X girl being the first one the parents met even though he has been in the dating game fo years and multiple partners?

Also, and I know this sounds harsh, girls receive more social validity by having a guy than a guy does having a girl. Very little of our social value is determined by us being single or taken. Also, guys don't seem to have a social shelf life, or the shelf life is much longer than the dating female.

Actually this sounds more on key, but the questions usually comes for a guy after he first brings a girl and then stops. The question (again, only from the ladies) what happened to your girlfriend? Always implying I broke the toy, sheesh....

axidhawkeye · #49 02-08-2005, 12:52 PM

luckily for me, i have 2 older, single girl cousins and they don't have boyfriends (or at least not that they're going to tell the entire fam about), and my family is still caught up on my major, so most of their time is spent trying to change my political views and majors. (don't you want to be a surgeon like your grandfather? or how about architecture? your mother is a terrific architect.) by the time they've exhausted all things politics, i'm heading home.

astroAPhi · #50 02-10-2005, 01:11 PM

It's only my mom's side of the family that cares about this. My dad's side is like, "You date?" WTF?

I got it at Thanksgiving since that was when the whole family got together. I told them it was because he couldn't afford the plane ticket to Colorado (hell, I barely could, and I have a "real" job), and because he didn't want his mom to be alone for Thanksgiving, because she always is for Christmas because he flies back to California to see his dad and half-brothers.

I left out the part that he's scared of them because they're wackos.

3time · #51 02-10-2005, 02:40 PM

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Originally posted by jess_pom: ETA: Do guys get this too? If so, then "Where's your girlfriend?"

I've heard the question before - but rarely.
Because I'm 185lbs I don't really get asked that 'cause it's not expected I'd be in a relationship so I suppose in a strange way I'm fortunate. Of course the 185lbs (non-muscular) weight and not looking buff shirtless means no pretty girl will be attracted to me and I'll probably die alone. Ah well, you play the cards you're dealt.

edit: I know, hardly clinical obesity but still rolls.

edited again because I can't type

axidhawkeye · #52 02-13-2005, 03:53 AM

this is a truly random thought - what happened to the days when we weren't old enough to date until we were 40 (or whatever random age fathers might have come up with)?

starang21 · #53 02-13-2005, 12:35 PM

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Originally posted by 3time
I've heard the question before - but rarely.
Because I'm 165lbs I don't really get asked that 'cause it's not expected I'd be in a relationship so I suppose in a strange way I'm fortunate. Of course the 165lbs (non-muscular) weight and not looking buff shirtless means no pretty girl will be attracted to me and I'll probably die alone. Ah well, you play the cards you're dealt.

edit: I know, hardly clinical obesity but still rolls.

come on man.....have some self-esteem in yourself.

aephi alum · #54 02-13-2005, 02:00 PM

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Originally posted by axidhawkeye
this is a truly random thought - what happened to the days when we weren't old enough to date until we were 40 (or whatever random age fathers might have come up with)?

I've been married for over five years. According to my father, I'm still not old enough to date.

I was supposed to be over 30 and have my doctorate before I even thought about dating. (In my field, you don't need a doctorate, so I never went for one.)

Yet somehow... even though I'm not supposed to be dating, much less married, and premarital sex is a big no-no... I'm also supposed to be busy popping out his grandchildren.

Jill1228 · #55 02-13-2005, 02:24 PM

AKA Monet, my husband hasn't met all my family either.

Just wait until you are married. The ink is barely dry on the marriage certificate and they ask you THE dreaded question:

"When are y'all having kids?" What gets me is the ones who ask you the most are the ones who had their first kids as teens and have 2 or 3 now. (cousins)

And G-d forbid if you are married over a year and haven't pumped out any rugrats yet!

Let me get back to you...I will even call you as we are conceiving!

aephi alum · #56 02-13-2005, 06:35 PM

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Originally posted by Jill1228
Just wait until you are married. The ink is barely dry on the marriage certificate and they ask you THE dreaded question:

"When are y'all having kids?"

My in-laws took us aside ON OUR WEDDING DAY and said, "Wouldn't it be nice if your grandmother became a great-grandmother before she DIES???"

AGDee · #57 02-13-2005, 08:20 PM

The first time my first husband and I went to visit his parents after our wedding, my mother-in-law (who I generally adored) took me aside and told me that we could sleep in their bed for the weekend, the waterbed, and that she had put leopard print sheets on it so we could start working on grandchildren! AS IF! In HER bed??? With them in the house??? No way!!!!!

Thank goodness I caught on that he was an abusive bastard before we conceived!

Dee

Jill1228 · #58 02-13-2005, 08:20 PM

Gotta love the in law guilt!

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Originally posted by aephi alum
My in-laws took us aside ON OUR WEDDING DAY and said, "Wouldn't it be nice if your grandmother became a great-grandmother before she DIES???"

Munchkin03 · #59 02-13-2005, 09:58 PM

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Originally posted by AGDee
The first time my first husband and I went to visit his parents after our wedding, my mother-in-law (who I generally adored) took me aside and told me that we could sleep in their bed for the weekend, the waterbed, and that she had put leopard print sheets on it so we could start working on grandchildren!

LEOPARD PRINT SHEETS = SEXXXXXY.

I will HIT someone if they try to throw that mess.

Munchkin03 · #60 02-13-2005, 10:00 PM

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Originally posted by Jill1228

"When are y'all having kids?" What gets me is the ones who ask you the most are the ones who had their first kids as teens and have 2 or 3 now. (cousins)

You mean the same ones who aren't married and don't have a college degree or vocational training?

Those are the same people I want to ask, "When are you having a tubal ligation?"