I made a girl cry.... - Page 4

KillarneyRose · #46 09-14-2003, 10:20 PM

You know, I've been reading posts by Kayla for quite some time and I've never had reason, nor do I now, to think she's a bitch. So I think she did what she did because she felt it was the best way to handle the situation. Was she wrong to feel good about making the girl cry? That's not for me to judge, but I can personally attest that if I get pi$$ed off enough at someone I've been known to be happy that I managed to upset them.

Besides, maybe this is the wake up call the girl needs before she trashes her reputation beyond repair.

exlurker · #47 09-15-2003, 12:35 AM

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Originally posted by TKE209Sweethrt
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1. She left her nasty nasty nasty thong in my boyfriend's apartment's bathroom after banging 2 guys at a party.

2. The same night my best bud's boyfriend was DD and taking a lot of people back to campus, she was one of them. She was then telling people that she also had sex with him. *growl*

3. She was trying to give another one of my boy's head at the same party, thankfully he wasn't that drunk to let her.
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It's heartwarming to see that romance isn't dead.

RUgreek · #48 09-15-2003, 12:41 AM

Pray for her.

No wait, is she busy this weekend, pray that cheap floozies come to RUgreek this weekend.

Munchkin03 · #49 09-15-2003, 01:12 AM

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Originally posted by MTSUGURL

It is admirable that you care enough about your friends to try and settle things for them, but your previous post made it sound as though you enjoyed making her cry. That' in most of our books, qualifies as mean.

Why can't the guys (or the offended parties for whom this is actually their business) sort it out themselves? I've had friends in all sorts of trouble--one domestic violence thing comes to mind--that you just have to sit back and let them live their own lives.

MTSUGURL · #50 09-15-2003, 01:18 AM

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Originally posted by Munchkin03
Why can't the guys (or the offended parties for whom this is actually their business) sort it out themselves? I've had friends in all sorts of trouble--one domestic violence thing comes to mind--that you just have to sit back and let them live their own lives.

I agree with you completely That's why "for" is in itallics. What I find admirable is her care for her friends, however it was handled.

socialbutterfly · #51 09-15-2003, 02:17 AM

When people get to you where you've just had enough....sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do....I think TKE just had to snap, it might not be right, but if the girl started crying because she was being confronted about her actions, I think it might have done her more good than bad...she might realize that others see her the same way.....I see therapy in the near future.....

Peaches-n-Cream · #52 09-15-2003, 11:06 AM

I don't know. I feel bad for girls like this one. She sleeps around and gets a bad reputation before mid term exams. She seems young and unaware that her actions have consequences. It's kind of pathetic. I knew a few women who also slept around in college, but were smart enough to keep it private. They thought that they were having fun at the time, but they soon regretted it.

James · #53 09-15-2003, 11:47 AM

This is a tough one, especially when it comes to rumours and characterizations.

You can say something about someone that is not true or twised, it will be believed most of the time, or at least taken at face value.

And it can effect a person's status in a peer group or organization.

This is how the game is usually played:

Cream has something against KillarneyRose (KR) for whatever reason so starts making disparaging comments about KR or making some stuff up. First she tells her friends, after making them promise not to say anything to KR.

At first KR doesn't know anything is going on, but it spreads among circles of people and eventually gets back to her. But the people that tell her make her promise not to say THEY said anything lol.

The damage is on going because people that take Cream at her word are harshly judging KR, and those include people that aren't really Cream's friends, just people that have heard rumours.

The longer it goes on, the more people that won't like KR, most won't even know why.

And KR is now on the defensive with public opinion mostly against her. Sometimes she only finds out when its too late to do anythin but find a new group to belong to.

Sounds pretty elementary school but I have seen it in the Chapter House, School, and workplace all the time.

Has anyone else seen it? I have definitely seen it in small degrees on GC. GC being a microcosm.

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Originally posted by Munchkin03
Why can't the guys (or the offended parties for whom this is actually their business) sort it out themselves? I've had friends in all sorts of trouble--one domestic violence thing comes to mind--that you just have to sit back and let them live their own lives.

James · #54 09-15-2003, 11:57 AM

Going along with my last rambling post, confrontation can be the solution to a lot.

If she started the rumours it might be best to take a forceful approach.

If she was just part of the rumour than a softer approach is better lol.

Don't worry about her crying. You didn't make her cry, she cried because that is how she responds to being confronted.

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Originally posted by TKE209Sweethrt

Mainly, she made my best friend cry w/the rumors going around, that is what really sparked it for me.

Oh man..it was hilarious...I called her out and had a "chat" with her, she's a lot bigger than me but she started balling...muhahahaha...oh I love my evil side...

James · #55 09-15-2003, 12:05 PM

I would like to note that most of us do not confront or take confrontation well.

Some people are combative and it takes very litle to push a button so to speak.

Other people will let so much slide that when they finally do let it out, its not very pretty.

I don't have much advice for combative people, exept please stay away.

But for the people that should be a little more assertive try doing it in small things. Ask for extras at restaraunts. That small thing you let go because it doesn't make you angry? Don't let it go, but don't get angry.

You can simulate anger, but don't have to feel it.

When you master doing it, you wll find it very easy to assert your foot into someone's ass . . . to the appropriate depth.

tkeos443 · #56 09-15-2003, 01:00 PM

I am personally under the feeling that if these men were in that situation why did they let it go so far and why arent you ripping their asses. I will never condone what that "lady" did but it is their right to do it. By the way why was her underwear in your boyfriends bathroom. I know someimtes you have to rip some ass but you have to remember in the greater view of this all that what she did is PR especally with rush you dont want to be known as the people who have others fight your battles. I really do got much love for ladies who support the fine organization that Tau Kappa Epsilon is and what you do Kayla to help. I just believe these "men" should have either dealt with the actions themselves or kept their dick in their pants. Remember it takes ones actions to wreck others

DZHBrown · #57 09-15-2003, 01:25 PM

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Originally posted by tkeos443
I am personally under the feeling that if these men were in that situation why did they let it go so far and why arent you ripping their asses. I will never condone what that "lady" did but it is their right to do it. By the way why was her underwear in your boyfriends bathroom. I know someimtes you have to rip some ass but you have to remember in the greater view of this all that what she did is PR especally with rush you dont want to be known as the people who have others fight your battles. I really do got much love for ladies who support the fine organization that Tau Kappa Epsilon is and what you do Kayla to help. I just believe these "men" should have either dealt with the actions themselves or kept their dick in their pants. Remember it takes ones actions to wreck others

I agree, I think both should be held equally responsible for their trashy actions. However, I think some women don't expect as much out of men. (No offense men, but it's true) A lot of women expect men to act like this, but not other women.

tkeos443 · #58 09-15-2003, 01:31 PM

I live my life trying to hold all accountable for their actions men, women, housepets, who or whatever

AKA_Monet · #59 09-15-2003, 07:10 PM

There is a difference between one's character vs. reputation...

I agree with James: The young lady chose to cry...

However, it is unwise to get involved in other folks relationships... Tables can be turned very quickly... It is not anyone's job to explain to this teenager the consequences of her actions except her parents, her parole officer and/or the test of time...

Documentation of one's actions would have probably been better suited... Stands up better in court...

Besides, at the course this girl was going, she was riding her body into the ground, heading for diaster or just plain flunking out of school. Whether it was deceit or real in her mind, either way, that is what student psychosocial health services is for...

To make matters worse, her actions eventually would have reflected on her grades...

MTSUGURL · #60 09-16-2003, 12:51 AM

Kayla, I've done some thinking and rereading of my posts on this thread, and I want to apologize for how harsh I have sounded. I don't agree with the way that you handled the situation, but I am sorry for coming down on you so harshly about it. I counsel teenage girls like this girl every day, and I was seeing their faces when I posted my comments. However things turn out in this situation, at least you did what you felt you had to do.