The Proliferation of Huge Engagement Rings - Page 4

Rio_Kohitsuji · #46 05-07-2003, 07:14 PM

Well, no antique rings for me!

Both mine and TKE209's parents went off and eloped, and we both never had grandparents, so we have to have a fresh start on rings.
TKE209 is an artist (thankfully art teacher here soon..) and will design my ring and also buy the stones and set it himself. For some reason I have a feeling I'm going to have a blue star sapphire stone...

But, since he couldn't afford a ring and wanted to keep me close he pinned me! A cheaper alternative that's for sure, but just as stressful!

deltaphi94 · #47 05-07-2003, 07:17 PM

My engagement ring is a round solitaire, 1/3 carat. I don't think I would have it any other way. I have very small hands, so something big just wouldn't do. When we went shopping for wedding rings, hubby and I could decide on a matching set. We were going to get etched bands, but we bumped the wedding up last minute and didn't have a lot of time to have the rings ordered. Anyway, he decided to get a plain gold band with millgrain (or whatever it's called). I didn't want that on my ring, so he bought me a wrap for my solitaire. My wedding ring has a total of 13 stones (1/4 tw). Three small stones set into a triangular shape on either side of the solitaire with 7 stones that run across the bottom of the solitaire. It wasn't expensive, but it's the meaning behind it that matters.

We didn't spend a lot on the wedding, either. Neither of us wanted to go through the stress and spend all kinds of money, so I told him he could wear jeans for all I cared. As long as we were together, I was happy. So, we headed off to the courthouse.

If I'd had the opportunity to wear his mother's ring - or any that were generations old - I would have gladly accepted. The sentiment behind something like that, to me, is just incredible.

Peaches-n-Cream · #48 05-07-2003, 07:41 PM

You don't need to defend the size of your ring or where you bought it.

AOIIsilver · #49 05-07-2003, 07:53 PM

Thanks, Cream!

But, "WANTING" a big ring and actually "OWNING" a big ring are two quite different things....especially in our "Is it a NEED?" household!

HAHAHAHA
Silver

LeslieAGD · #50 05-07-2003, 08:37 PM

My dream ring:

An Emerald Diamond in a Platinum Setting
with Trillion Diamond Accents

bethany1982 · #51 05-07-2003, 09:17 PM

A nice engagement ring... sounds good to me.

juniorgrrl · #52 05-08-2003, 01:17 AM

The jewelry store we went to told us that there are no real standards for cut except for the round cut.

They also gave us the acceptable percentages for the parts of the round cut stone.

I know that my boy bargained on the price of the stone. He bought it loose and had them set it. He actually didn't ike any of what they had in the store so they shipped in more stones from NY and he picked from one of those.

My stone has incredible fire. It's an I in color, which is still "Near colorless." My boy said he put it next to the D stones and couldn't tell a difference.

I love my ring and it gets a lot of attention. But, it really doesn't make a difference in the long run - the real gem that I got/am getting is my boy

sororitygirl2 · #53 05-08-2003, 02:22 AM

Okay, I totally agree that money doesn't buy love and a big ring doesn't mean he loves you more, but really... some of these comments are getting a little catty. I mean, if people like big rings and want to finance them, whatever... more power to them. Why should we care? I personally don't think it's anyone's damn business what I (or someone else) choose to wear or not wear on my hand.

Also, while I know that people don't want a discolored diamond, realize that not all colored stones are "imperfect." Good canary diamonds are quite rare, and very beautiful. I have a friend that has a large one that I am sure cost a good chunk of money.

Anyway, sorry to go off... I just needed to vent. Now play nice, girls!

xo_kathy · #54 05-08-2003, 11:22 AM

OH, SG2, I agree with you! If I want more than a carat on my thin finger, then that's my perogative! If aephi loves her Tiffany ring, good for her! If you're man wants to borrow money to get the ring, who cares?

And personally, I don't think a family ring "means more" than a store bought one. My boyfriend loves me, he also works his butt off at a good job, so he's going to go to a jewler to buy me a ring. I certainly don't think he loves me any less or the ring means any less because it's not passed down. Also, if I end up with a chunk of change on my finger, I certainly won't think it's a sign that he loves me more than someone who has 1/16th of a carat.

Let's just all love our sparkly things (or our hopes for them!) and be happy!

On a side note: My mom had a college friend who got a HIDEOUS ring. The girl struggled for a few weeks, but eventually told her fiance that she really didn't like it and they exchanged it. Sounds crappy, but you are going to wear it for - hopefully- the rest of your life. Might as well like it!

Munchkin03 · #55 05-08-2003, 12:00 PM

I don't think anyone was deliberately being catty...most people were just saying that money does not necessarily buy quality, nor does it ensure the success of a marriage. The discussion was primarily about those people who allegedly believe that, or that where you get the ring is a symbol of the love that goes into a marriage. Many of the people who believe this tend to be young--as indicated by Killarney's post.

As any discussion does, this one skewed off-course; it's okay to discuss why you did or didn't choose a larger ring--we all have our reasons. As we are all adults, we all understand that if someone wants to wear a ring out of coal, that's their prerogative. It's someone's prerogative to spend whatever they want on whatever they want.

I know over a year ago, there was a thread about college educations; most of the people here said it was ludicrous to spend $35,000 on a college education. I don't remember any posts alleging that those people were catty...not trying to be mean, but food for thought.