A Hunger Games Recruitment

[clemsongirl]

Congrats to Lucy on Sigma Kappa! I know that they are a wonderful chapter that I was sad to see leave my schedule, and I am sure that she will grow to love it. It is really hard to receive your second choice (I was mentally preparing myself for it all day), but in time I hope she grows to be happy.

[AGDee]

I think we need to keep in mind that women in these chapters go through the same disappointments. They get a rush crush who goes to another chapter and are sometimes very sad on bid day too. That doesn't mean they don't end up loving the young women who are their new members too.

An awful lot of women go to their second choice, or even third choice- or accept a snap bid to a chapter they ranked low early in the process. Things work out in most cases.

[honeychile]

Please give Lucy my very best on her Sigma Kappa bid! I have a SK cousin who loves, loves, loves her sorority. Getting ANY bid at Clemson is well worth celebrating!

Congratulations!!

[thetygerlily]

Congrats to Lucy and ΣΚ! I hope she embraces the whole experience. She's very lucky to have someone like love2read guiding her through the process.

The whole thing reminds me of a pregnancy craving. You normally love chocolate cake, but someone mentions pickles and suddenly you can't stop thinking about them. If your heart is set on those pickles, it doesn't matter how amazing chocolate cake is at first- you were set on pickles! You have a choice to either embrace the chocolate cake that you've always loved and have in front of you, or pine away for the non-existent pickles. Then- bring on that amazing chocolate cake!

Originally Posted by etadrisophila

The story would have best been continued with Hunger Games names instead of the actual names of the houses.

I disagree. In the original GC recruitment stories, no codes were used at all. Dgdramadawg's annual threads are a great example of how every single woman has a unique experience, perspective, and reaction to the same groups within the same week. Maybe I just prefer realism though.

[gee_ess]

I loved reading this story - I feel it is absolutely the real version of what happens between a pnm and her mom/friend/mentor on Bid Day when the pnm doesn't get her first choice.

If you have been in their shoes (and I say "their" because this process definitely sucks in the mom/friend/mentor to the drama) you can feel the stress and tension, the emotion and angst that they have been experiencing. And, then, that whole pref day/bid day experience - well it is spot on.

I am sooooo hoping Lucy is giving SK every chance they deserve. I hope that she gets some sleep, and eats a few good meals, can think about something other than rush for a whole day and see if she is feeling less emotionally scarred. She will, no doubt, have regrets if she walks away. I can guarantee it.

And, I hope all of us that often get pissy with moms and pnms who cry to us the few days after rush about not getting their first choice will remember Lucy and this thread and how easy it is to let the emotion and intensity of recruitment get in the way of rational thinking.

Sending warm thoughts to Lucy and all of the other pnms this month who are digging through their drawers looking for their one pair of big girl panties in the middle of all those Victoria Secret thongs!

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

Sending warm thoughts to Lucy and all of the other pnms this month who are digging through their drawers looking for their one pair of big girl panties in the middle of all those Victoria Secret thongs!

Best quote ever!

And I hope that Lucy is falling in love with her sorority!

[love2read]

I sent Lucy a text this morning asking how yesterday went and how she was feeling. She said she was feeling better but that she didn't "click" (her words) with "some" of the girls.

I encouraged her to give it 3-4 weeks (as she needs to ride the wave of disappointment as everyone has mentioned). I also reminded her that SK saw something special in her. I told her that things happen for reasons and she is meant to be an SK.

As I left my phone sitting in my A&P class/lab room, I'm not sure if she responded to my text or not. I have to go back and pick it up from security (thank god they found it).

She is in the bid day picture that clemsongirl posted in the bid day pictures thread. She is smiling in the picture too.

thetygerlily- your pregnancy example is the best! I might have to use that example to her or any other PNM.

etadrisophila- I want this thread to be real. Real life isn't always puppies and rainbows. We have TONS of threads where the PNM gets her first choice and she is super happy. We also have threads where the PNM has gotten her second choice and is still happy. I can honestly say, I can count on 1 (maybe 2) hand(s) the amount of threads (that have been completed and the PNM didn't drop) where the PNM isn't happy with her bid. That is real life.

The reality is, Lucy like SK earlier in the week. She just needs to take her disappointment and remember what she liked about the chapter earlier in the week.

[DesertRose]

I just went and checked out the SK photo posted by clemsongirl. That is a large new member class, and there has to be some girls that Lucy will click with! It is a beautiful photo!

[PearlGirl13]

My daughter recently pledged AGD at UGA. She was not invited to prefs at the sorority that she had loved all week and really had her sights set on. She went to prefs (under some duress) and completed her bid card (reluctantly). When she received her bid she was very hesitant. She knew without a doubt that she wanted to be Greek, but she was still in a fog of disappointment and hurt.

For one week the calls and texts were neutral and measured and then all of a sudden everything shifted and the enthusiasm and joy burst through! She is one very, very happy AGD at this point and, as cliched as it sounds, she says she can't imagine herself anywhere else. I had read stories like that on this site, but was so afraid that she wasn't going to be one of the happy ones and I am sooo glad that she is.

Tell Lucy to just keep attending, keep meeting new sisters and to stay open and willing. Sometimes trusting the process just takes longer than expected.

[FSUZeta]

Great news PearlGirl.

I can't help but think that some of the disappointment must stem from the PNMs having to readjust and rethink their choices after every round(at least that seems to be what I am seeing with the 20 something PNMs I wrote recs. for around the country). Everyday (for the most part) they had to find a new number 1, over and over, even up to prefs. and THEN they don't get their new #1 pref. choice.

There is just so much readjustment a person can make in a short period of time. But hopefully, if they all give their sorority a month or so, they will all see that there are sisters that they love to hang out with, and fun parties to go to, and wonderful philanthropies to support.

[DoctorD]

Originally Posted by PearlGirl13

My daughter recently pledged AGD at UGA. She was not invited to prefs at the sorority that she had loved all week and really had her sights set on. She went to prefs (under some duress) and completed her bid card (reluctantly). When she received her bid she was very hesitant. She knew without a doubt that she wanted to be Greek, but she was still in a fog of disappointment and hurt.

For one week the calls and texts were neutral and measured and then all of a sudden everything shifted and the enthusiasm and joy burst through! She is one very, very happy AGD at this point and, as cliched as it sounds, she says she can't imagine herself anywhere else. I had read stories like that on this site, but was so afraid that she wasn't going to be one of the happy ones and I am sooo glad that she is.

Tell Lucy to just keep attending, keep meeting new sisters and to stay open and willing. Sometimes trusting the process just takes longer than expected.

<3. I hope she grows to love it even more. That chapter has a great bunch of women.

[etadrisophila]

Originally Posted by love2read

I sent Lucy a text this morning asking how yesterday went and how she was feeling. She said she was feeling better but that she didn't "click" (her words) with "some" of the girls.

I encouraged her to give it 3-4 weeks (as she needs to ride the wave of disappointment as everyone has mentioned). I also reminded her that SK saw something special in her. I told her that things happen for reasons and she is meant to be an SK.

As I left my phone sitting in my A&P class/lab room, I'm not sure if she responded to my text or not. I have to go back and pick it up from security (thank god they found it).

She is in the bid day picture that clemsongirl posted in the bid day pictures thread. She is smiling in the picture too.

thetygerlily- your pregnancy example is the best! I might have to use that example to her or any other PNM.

etadrisophila- I want this thread to be real. Real life isn't always puppies and rainbows. We have TONS of threads where the PNM gets her first choice and she is super happy. We also have threads where the PNM has gotten her second choice and is still happy. I can honestly say, I can count on 1 (maybe 2) hand(s) the amount of threads (that have been completed and the PNM didn't drop) where the PNM isn't happy with her bid. That is real life.

The reality is, Lucy like SK earlier in the week. She just needs to take her disappointment and remember what she liked about the chapter earlier in the week.

Oh I understand that. I was concerned about there possibly being too much detail and identifiable information about Lucy - I didn't want her sisters & pledge sisters to be able to figure out who she is! I hope things are going well for Lucy - and you sure have been a wonderful source of inspiration and support for her.

[love2read]

etadrisophila- Thank you for your concern! That is one of my concerns also. I really am trying to not give to much information. Which is also why I changed my username for this thread.

Lucy has decided to give SK a chance!

I told her the pregnancy, chocolate cake and pickles analogy.

[cinder1965]

Originally Posted by love2read

etadrisophila- Thank you for your concern! That is one of my concerns also. I really am trying to not give to much information. Which is also why I changed my username for this thread.

Lucy has decided to give SK a chance!

I told her the pregnancy, chocolate cake and pickles analogy.

Tell Lucy I met my best friend of over 25 years at SK, we were pledge sisters together and have been through all kinds of things together. So glad to hear she is giving it a go!

[FSUZeta]

Also please tell her that after college many of us have met sisters from different chapters who have become some of our greatest friends as well as panhellenic sisters who also fall into that category!