University of Arkansas Rec Letter Help - Page 4

tpiazza · #1 07-13-2012, 08:21 PM

My grandmother did not go to college and my family that I have been able to contact hasn't been able to think of anyone. I have told them to keep thinking/looking though. The Greek girls that my cousins knew in college were more of acquaintances and they are no longer in contact with them.
My friends in town have been able to contact Greek girls but the communication is slow since everyone is taking vacations.

Titchou · #2 07-14-2012, 12:00 AM

Make a list - a written list - of everyone you know who went to college. Male, female, peer, parent of friend, Pastor, daddy's boss, EVERYONE. Then start calling - on the phone. There are only 10 groups at UA. Even if you don't have a student directory or a church directory, I promise you know how to contact at least one teacher - either where they work during the summer, volunteer, etc. Call that person...they will know other people. You are relying on others to do your work for you. I hate to be snarky but you really aren't working this correctly. Don't ask other people to do your work for you. you live in an area with a HUGE employer and many other related businesses. I promise there are a ton of Greeks in town.

TNAuburnMom · #3 07-14-2012, 12:16 AM

If your parents have Facebook accounts, sit beside one of them and have them look up each sorority's national Facebook page. It will show if any of their friends liked that page. If they did, chances are they are a member. Make a note of the person and the sorority. Do the same through your Facebook page. If I was the one that was friends with them, I could then either call them or message them and say, "My daughter is participating in sorority recruitment at Auburn and I heard that you are in a sorority. Would you mind if I gave her your contact information? Since I was not in a sorority, she would really benefit from any advice you might be able to give her." EVERYONE said yes and then I let her take it from there. My daughter found 11 people to write recs that way.

gee_ess · #4 07-14-2012, 09:21 AM

Walk around the block. Knock on the doors of your neighbors( just like when you were selling school fundraiser items or girl scout cookies). These people know you or at least know your famiky lives on their block. Say the following, " hi, I am tpiazza. I live down the street in the white house. I am going through recruitment this fall. Are you, by any chance an alumni of any of the groups represented at the UA? I would love some advice, help, etc with the process. Do you have some time to visit?"

The neighbor is not in a sorority? Drat? Keep talking! Is her married daughter? Her sister? Her best friend who lives across town? This technique requires conversation- asking questions, chatting about college, etc. If you can have a good convo, chances are they will suddenly remember someone who can help. Follow up if they give the suggestion that they need to think on it.

gee_ess · #5 07-14-2012, 10:09 AM

If anything, the attempts to help on here should demonstrate for her that in real life sorority women are usually more than willing to help/ guide other women.

Greek_or_Geek? · #6 07-14-2012, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by gee_ess

If anything, the attempts to help on here should demonstrate for her that in real life sorority women are usually more than willing to help/ guide other women.

But we're making it toooooo haaaaaaarrrrrrrdddddd!

Titchou · #7 07-14-2012, 10:17 AM

Can we have a rousing chorus of the Eurythmics "Sisters are doing it for themselves?"

gee_ess · #8 07-14-2012, 10:38 AM

When oh when will we have the opportunity to "like" or post a smiley face on posts?

AGDee · #9 07-14-2012, 11:29 AM

This is one of those threads that really emphasizes the differences between North and South...lol. But, given the OPs location, I agree with y'all. If she was from up here, I would think you were all nuts.

arrowlady · #10 07-14-2012, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

This is one of those threads that really emphasizes the differences between North and South...lol. But, given the OPs location, I agree with y'all. If she was from up here, I would think you were all nuts.

I can see that in the North it would be seen as crazy lol..
However it is no more crazy then this girl coming to an internet forum and ask for people to get her recs.

DeltaBetaBaby · #11 07-14-2012, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

This is one of those threads that really emphasizes the differences between North and South...lol. But, given the OPs location, I agree with y'all. If she was from up here, I would think you were all nuts.

Yeah, but...one of my chapter sisters who is now a high school teacher was recently talking about writing a rec for 'bama. How do women find her during the summer, and know she is a Phi Mu alumna? Obviously, some of them are doing the things listed here. It's not as extreme as knocking on doors, but somewhere along the way, someone had to randomly be like "hey, mrs. such-and-such, were you in a sorority?"

AGDee · #12 07-14-2012, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Yeah, but...one of my chapter sisters who is now a high school teacher was recently talking about writing a rec for 'bama. How do women find her during the summer, and know she is a Phi Mu alumna? Obviously, some of them are doing the things listed here. It's not as extreme as knocking on doors, but somewhere along the way, someone had to randomly be like "hey, mrs. such-and-such, were you in a sorority?"

I know. But I've been an alumna member for 25 years now. I'm one who is open and talkative about my sorority involvement and I have only met 5 or 6 women in that entire time who are in other NPC groups. There are definitely geographic differences.

DeltaBetaBaby · #13 07-14-2012, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

I know. But I've been an alumna member for 25 years now. I'm one who is open and talkative about my sorority involvement and I have only met 5 or 6 women in that entire time who are in other NPC groups. There are definitely geographic differences.

Oh, absolutely. I just meant that PNM's still have to do the leg work.

Titchou · #14 07-14-2012, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

I know. But I've been an alumna member for 25 years now. I'm one who is open and talkative about my sorority involvement and I have only met 5 or 6 women in that entire time who are in other NPC groups. There are definitely geographic differences.

True but she's in Arkansas..either the NW area - think WalMart home offices - or Little Rock - depending on which of her posts you pay the most attention to. A high school of 1000 students. Come on, she knows people and she only needs 10 recs. Any one of us could do that in one weekend and she's been willy-nillying around for 4 days now.

gee_ess · #15 07-14-2012, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Titchou

True but she's in Arkansas..either the NW area - think WalMart home offices - or Little Rock - depending on which of her posts you pay the most attention to. A high school of 1000 students. Come on, she knows people and she only needs 10 recs. Any one of us could do that in one weekend and she's been willy-nillying around for 4 days now.

And, just to be clear for others looking for advice: this is Arkansas. She needs a minimum of ten recs (10 groups on campus) but could actually be better off with more.