Rush - What to NOT do or say

[jwright25]

Originally Posted by tigers01

im pretty clear on what not to talk about, however i AM very worried about the cost of pledging but i dont want to ask about it, do they usually inform us about the financial aspect of the sorority at some point of rush week?

I'll give you the non-sugar-coated answer. If you ask about finances, it may stick out negatively to some sororities. If they are in a position where they have a zero accounts receivable, they may not want to risk that with someone who mentions early on that she'll have trouble paying. Conversely, if they are in a position where their A/R is astronomical, they might be looking to correct that and won't want to pledge a new member who can't pay.

GammaPhi88 mentions that some schools ask the sororities to distribute this information. Some Panhellenics do it on their behalf. If you haven't received the information or at least know that you will receive it, I suggest you ask the Greek Advisor for it prior to recruitment. Then review it and your budget carefully. Remember that the accounting you get might not include extras like tshirts, socials, required fundraising, etc. Sorority membership is a financial commitment - one that you should carefully consider before getting in too deep.

Originally Posted by tigers01

lastly, ive heard from a lot of people that its a good idea to deactivate your facebook during rush and some people have said to do it as soon as you register for rush because they will start looking you up once they get your info.. is it really that big of a deal? ill probably look through and make sure i dont have any inappropriate pictures but ive heard that they judge as harshly as not considering girls who have red cups in their pictures or have their arms behind friends backs in pictures because apparently in college thats how they hide drinks in pictures?? i just think this sounds a little extreme, does anyone know how seriously they judge pictures??

I feel like there may be a discussion of this somewhere on GC - I vaguely remember replying to it. Here's my take. Too often we hear from PNMs (and their mothers) who are upset that they got released after just one party or that they are soooo awesome and don't know why the sororities couldn't see their fabulosity. I say leave your FB up and open to the public and display your awesome qualities and achievements for the members to see. Depending on your school and the size of the chapters, there just might be a couple of members assigned to research FB and MS and anything else they can find.

Personally, I think a very nicely done FB with tasteful pictures and well written content is a MUCH better tool than PNMs realize. Use it like a photo-resume. In my experience, chapter members like to see FB profiles and actually fall in love with PNMs that way. I've even had active send me emails - prior to women even signing up - requesting them as little sisters based on researching FB profiles. They liked what they saw, they recruited them hard, pledged them, and yes - got them as littles. Private profiles lead to the question, "What does she have to hide???" Not necessarily anything, but the question could be legit.

Cliffs Notes: If you rock, make your FB profile clean and awesome - it can't hurt and can only help. If you suck, make it private.

Good luck with recruitment!

[txpacer]

I rushed a local sorority last year, thinking that I would not fit in with an NPC sorority. Things did not work out with the local and I feel like I missed out on a lot by not going through NPC recruitment. If asked about any previous rush experiences I may have had, how should I go about discussing that--or should I even mention it?
Is it a big no-no to say that I feel like I missed out on a lot of opportunities and great friendships by not going through NPC recruitment? Is it appropriate to say that rushing a local sorority did not work out well last year?
BTW: I do go to a southern university that is somewhat competitive

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by txpacer

I rushed a local sorority last year, thinking that I would not fit in with an NPC sorority. Things did not work out with the local and I feel like I missed out on a lot by not going through NPC recruitment. If asked about any previous rush experiences I may have had, how should I go about discussing that--or should I even mention it?


Is it a big no-no to say that I feel like I missed out on a lot of opportunities and great friendships by not going through NPC recruitment? Is it appropriate to say that rushing a local sorority did not work out well last year?
BTW: I do go to a southern university that is somewhat competitive

I wouldn't bring it up. It really shouldn't come up (unless someone happens to know that you joined a local last year). On the off chance that someone should ask about it, try to answer without bashing or putting down the local group.

[tigers01]

thanks so much for the advice!! =) i will definitely ask my cousin if she could write me a rec, although since shes still in school can she do that yet? i thought only alumnae could write a rec but i dont know about any of this stuff so i could be totally wrong lol ya i will start asking around for recommendations, im glad i found out this stuff now and not at the end of the summer! thanks again for the help!

[GammaPhi88]

It depends on the sorority and their policy. Even if she can't write you a rec, she can possibly put you in contact with people who can.

[jessabelle]

Going through rush this year..I'm confident about my personality and know 11 chapters can't all possibly hate me, but I'm not miss hottie. I've looked at the pictures online and all the girls are soo pretty and little, I'm not. I've watched Greek on ABC Family and looks seem important =/ do they really look for pretty girls?

nervous rushee!!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jessabelle

Going through rush this year..I'm confident about my personality and know 11 chapters can't all possibly hate me, but I'm not miss hottie. I've looked at the pictures online and all the girls are soo pretty and little, I'm not. I've watched Greek on ABC Family and looks seem important =/ do they really look for pretty girls?

nervous rushee!!

First of all: Greek is a TV show, not an accurate portrayal of sorority life. Please understand that.

Second: this thread talks about appearance and recruitment:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ght=appearance

[jessabelle]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

First of all: Greek is a TV show, not an accurate portrayal of sorority life. Please understand that.

Second: this thread talks about appearance and recruitment:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ght=appearance

thank you for telling me about that thread, i didnt see it before and it is helpful : ] and i know Greek is purely fictional and the ladies ive met at the chapters never seemed overly concerned with appearance like that. im very nervous which makes it much easier to be intimidated by even TV shows. Greek isnt my reason for rushing..at all.

[Penguin08]

Originally Posted by jessabelle

thank you for telling me about that thread, i didnt see it before and it is helpful : ] and i know Greek is purely fictional and the ladies ive met at the chapters never seemed overly concerned with appearance like that. im very nervous which makes it much easier to be intimidated by even TV shows. Greek isnt my reason for rushing..at all.

When it comes to appearance and recruitment there's really only one thing you can ask yourself. "Do I see myself coming in this house at my worst and being totally accepted?" Because even the prettiest girl on the planet can look a little scruffy during finals week, haha. Just about everyone I've talked to knew their sorority was for them because they felt at home.

[lilb]

I am wondering if it will be horribly held against me what I said during the fall informal recruitment period when I go through in the spring formal recruitment period? I did not receive any bids so I decided to try again this spring and see what happens, but I am nervous that what I said in the fall has already made it impossible for me to get a bid. Any thoughts?

[greekmomjo]

Originally Posted by jessabelle

Going through rush this year..I'm confident about my personality and know 11 chapters can't all possibly hate me, but I'm not miss hottie. I've looked at the pictures online and all the girls are soo pretty and little, I'm not. I've watched Greek on ABC Family and looks seem important =/ do they really look for pretty girls?

nervous rushee!!

Houses choose to post the pics in which the girls look the best! Wouldn't you?

[Loyally Kappa]

DON'T ... win a pole dancing contest while drunk at the beach during spring break of your senior year in high school. THAT news (and any accompanying pictures) will certainly have made the rounds by fall!

And if you're really unlucky, that news will also be known to the alum moms and grandmoms before their summer luncheons when they decide who to rec for the fall.

And if, despite this clear warning, you win the pole dancing contest anyway (or any other "insert your favorite dumb boner activity here") ...

DON'T ... either you or your mother show up on Greekchat the following fall bemoaning that you got cut from your first choice sororities and you "can't imagine why" ... we are all a product of yesterday's man (or woman).

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Loyally Kappa

DON'T ... win a pole dancing contest while drunk at the beach during spring break of your senior year in high school. THAT news (and any accompanying pictures) will certainly have made the rounds by fall!

And if you're really unlucky, that news will also be known to the alum moms and grandmoms before their summer luncheons when they decide who to rec for the fall.

And, if despite this clear warning, you win the pole dancing contest anyway (or any other "insert your favorite dumb boner activity here") ...

DON'T ... either you or your mother show up on Greekchat the following fall bemoaning that you got cut from your first choice sororities and you "can't imagine why" ... we are all a product of yesterday's man (or woman).

But what if a sorority is looking for someone to win the dance or gymnastics competition during Greek Week? LMAO

[MaggieXi]

Originally Posted by Loyally Kappa

DON'T ... win a pole dancing contest while drunk at the beach during spring break of your senior year in high school. THAT news (and any accompanying pictures) will certainly have made the rounds by fall!

And if you're really unlucky, that news will also be known to the alum moms and grandmoms before their summer luncheons when they decide who to rec for the fall.

And, if despite this clear warning, you win the pole dancing contest anyway (or any other "insert your favorite dumb boner activity here") ...

DON'T ... either you or your mother show up on Greekchat the following fall bemoaning that you got cut from your first choice sororities and you "can't imagine why" ... we are all a product of yesterday's man (or woman).

I totally want to know the story behind this post!

[Loyally Kappa]

Except for the part about Greekchat, doncha think it's pretty obvious? ... heheh! As much as I hate to say it, this is a TRUE story.

And for the benefit of 33girl, the young "lady" involved pledged a sorority the same year as my older daughter. Not sure if she won any Greek Week competitions.

And don't ask me which sorority. I am too much of a lady to reveal her letters.