update on my recruitment week so far... - Page 3

Beryana · #1 09-19-2007, 09:08 AM

My suggestion would be to be yourself with the three sororities and be open to those you weren't as comfortable with. You will actually never know the exact reason you were cut from the other two groups - it may be your age and it may not.

Good luck to you and keep us posted on the rest of your recruitment experience!!

Go Titans!

APhi Sailorgirl · #2 09-19-2007, 09:44 AM

Just a positive note to the OP, I came into my chapter through COB in the fall of my soph year. The class was made up of more upperclassman. We did have a NM who was re-entering college to pursue a Bachelor's. She like you had an Associate's, but after working for a year, decided to change career paths and go to college.

Now she was only 21-22, if I remember, so the age gap was not as large, but she did fit in well with our pledge class. It was different, but it wasn't necessarily a bad thing.

I conclude by saying that was a few years ago and our campus culture has changed dramatically, so today it probably won't occur, but at the time she was just another welcomed addition to the sisterhood.

SthrnZeta · #3 09-19-2007, 09:47 AM

Whoa guys, calm down! Breathe! I don't know much about AI, it was just an innocent suggestion AND question. And I guess I need to go re-read the thread, I didn't realize she had an unsuccessful rush and was trying again, etc. I don't see it as a fall-back at all, just a way for a woman who missed out on her collegiate sorority experience for whatever reason but still wants to get involved, not that they got cut 3 times from their top choice so they tried a local alum group. I get it!

MysticCat · #4 09-19-2007, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

Whoa guys, calm down! Breathe! I don't know much about AI, it was just an innocent suggestion AND question.

Don't worry, I think every knows that. That's why I said, "You'll understand after a little more time here." When you have lots of time to kill, you can peruse some of the sorority recruitment threads and see the trainwrecks that can ensue at the mere mention of AI.

AlexMack · #5 09-19-2007, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

Whoa guys, calm down! Breathe! I don't know much about AI, it was just an innocent suggestion AND question. And I guess I need to go re-read the thread, I didn't realize she had an unsuccessful rush and was trying again, etc. I don't see it as a fall-back at all, just a way for a woman who missed out on her collegiate sorority experience for whatever reason but still wants to get involved, not that they got cut 3 times from their top choice so they tried a local alum group. I get it!

You may be a little too sensitive for GC. Nobody here has gotten upset with you at all compared to what can happen, same goes for your letters on bid day thread.
BTW, I will also be tactful. Go read the locked threads in the AI subforum. Seriously, it's a good time.

nittanyalum · #6 09-19-2007, 10:15 AM

So after all that, let's get back to the original situation -- UWO, wasn't Pref last night? Did you go to the houses you weren't feeling at first? How did it go? Did you rank or walk away? I'm assuming today's Bid Day -- update when you can!

(and p.s., the bottom line is, things usually work out for the best and the way they're supposed to in the long run, if for some reason you don't end up in a GLO, it's not the end of the world and there are plenty of other ways to get involved on campus -- but if you did and you're happy, all the better!!

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SthrnZeta · #7 09-19-2007, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by nittanyalum

the bottom line is, things usually work out for the best and the way they're supposed to in the long run, if for some reason you don't end up in a GLO, it's not the end of the world and there are plenty of other ways to get involved on campus -- but if you did and you're happy, all the better!!

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Yeah, what she said!

SthrnZeta · #8 09-19-2007, 10:26 AM

And the reason I don't know much about AI is because ZTA doesn't do it as much as other orgs so we just don't hear about it that often. But thanks for pointing out my lack of knowledge on the subject, I appreciate it. Some others had a little more tact and PMed me to explain why everyone's so upset about it and it made a lot more sense to me after they were kind enough to do so.

UWO_2007 · #9 09-19-2007, 10:39 AM

Tonight is Pref night. I got the max # of invites back for round3 (3), and the max invites back for tonight (2). I did go to them all. I didn't walk away. I went into this with an open mind knowing with my age being a disadvantage. Overall, I'm not having a bad recruitment. I've enjoyed every night. I wasn't upset that I didn't get invited back to my #2 & 3, just felt weird because conversation wise it went smoother there than #4 & 5. I had a good time with all of them... but just like everyone else, there was rooms I was more comfy in, but I didn't hate any of them.

aopirose · #10 09-19-2007, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by UWO_2007

Tonight is Pref night. I got the max # of invites back for round3 (3), and the max invites back for tonight (2). I did go to them all. I didn't walk away. I went into this with an open mind knowing with my age being a disadvantage. Overall, I'm not having a bad recruitment. I've enjoyed every night. I wasn't upset that I didn't get invited back to my #2 & 3, just felt weird because conversation wise it went smoother there than #4 & 5. I had a good time with all of them... but just like everyone else, there was rooms I was more comfy in, but I didn't hate any of them.

Good luck tonight.

nittanyalum · #11 09-19-2007, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by UWO_2007

Tonight is Pref night. I got the max # of invites back for round3 (3), and the max invites back for tonight (2). I did go to them all. I didn't walk away. I went into this with an open mind knowing with my age being a disadvantage. Overall, I'm not having a bad recruitment. I've enjoyed every night. I wasn't upset that I didn't get invited back to my #2 & 3, just felt weird because conversation wise it went smoother there than #4 & 5. I had a good time with all of them... but just like everyone else, there was rooms I was more comfy in, but I didn't hate any of them.

Good for you! Having a full slate of parties says it all, IMO. If your age was that big a stumbling block, I doubt you'd have 3 pref parties to go to tonight.

You're doing the exact right thing, minds change (frequently) throughout recruitment and where you felt good at first is not necessarily where you end up feeling the best at the end. It won't surprise me if you end up at one of the 2 chapters you felt "weird" at originally and are back here telling everyone how much you LOVE it and are so glad you made the decision you made in a week or so.

No matter what, have fun tonight and update tomorrow!

SthrnZeta · #12 09-19-2007, 10:52 AM

I felt a little attacked because withint 5 minutes of me asking a question, there were several posts. And like I said, I had some people PM me about it to help clear up my confusion. Believe me, I'm not too sensitive for intelligent discussions, but I am bothered sometimes by how quick some people jump on other GCers. I'm not the only who has felt this way I'm sure...

UWO_2007 · #13 09-19-2007, 10:54 AM

I had never heard of it before (I wouldn't do it personally) but it was something I learned that I didn't know about.

SthrnZeta · #14 09-19-2007, 10:57 AM

I knew what it was, but not that it was necessarily "taboo" subject matter. This thread isn't about AI though, it's about a PNM's experience, so... with that being said... Good luck tonight, girl!!!

LPIDelta · #15 09-19-2007, 11:01 AM

And how could you have known? I am sorry you felt jumped on--unfortunately, that seems to be a trend on GC lately.

Good luck UWO!!! I hope you find a home where you can be comfortable!