Greek Marriages

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by Amaterasu
Tangentially related, do you sisterfriends know many of your fellow Greeks who are married (or seriously dating) to non-Greeks?

Yes.

Greekdom tends to only be important because it is how members meet in the first place (i.e. Greek functions or through Greek networks) or just a point of reference when we talk about certain things.

I certainly hope losers aren't going out to specifically find a mate who is Greek or in a specific organization. Coleman Love, for example, is wonderul but I would never try to marry a Bruh just because of it. Now, if I do marry a Bruh we'd have a blast.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Another thing:

My husband's parents are Sigma-Zeta love...

His brother I think wanted to be a Kappa...

I think my husband wanted to be something... But now he says he has no use for it. And the Sigma Pi Phi Boule was inviting him to events they were having, but he failed to understand that concept...

If my husband rethinks his position and decides to join a BGLO, I would be happy for him and then I'd probably have to deal with too much neophyte feva and nalia all over the place--even the drawers...

So, he doesn't hate Greeks like you said before. He's just a bit confused and perhaps envious. That's common among nonGreeks who have been exposed to Greekdom.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally posted by DSTCHAOS
I certainly hope losers aren't going out to specifically find a mate who is Greek or in a specific organization.

LMAO! I don't know why but this just made me laugh.

[djjukebox]

We all know our Greek Affiliations have no correlation to who we should mate.

Last June 26th, 2005 I married my wife who happens to be a Sigma Gamma Rho.. But I didn't marry her because of that, nor was I looking for a Woman of that partiQUElar Sorority.

To limit your scope of College educated Men and Women by eliminating a group by Fraternal/Sorority affiliation is kinda crazy.

[PerroLoco]

This is a light-hearted topic. Nothing serious

I asked for some thoughts on Greek combinations for those of us who know Greeks that are married to Greeks. Its not a big deal whom anyone marries. I just happened to be at an event where there were alot of Greek couples. Where I'm from, I only saw Que/Delta or Que/AKA marriages. In my geographical area, there were ver yfew Zetas and even fewer SGRhos. If I were at an event with older Omegas, invariably, if they were married to a Greek, it was not any of the combinations that I see more of now.

I have been to at least 30 Delta weddings and have never seen a Delta/Sigma combo. Never even seen them date. Must be a northeast thing.

I don't think anyone purposely marries someone from a specific org. Love is where one finds it.

DJJukebox. Do you know of any Bruhs over 40 that are married to an SGRho as you happen to be?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by DSTCHAOS
So, he doesn't hate Greeks like you said before. He's just a bit confused and perhaps envious. That's common among nonGreeks who have been exposed to Greekdom.

I wouldn't necessarily call his thang envy... I would call it confused. He saw something as a freshman that no one should have ever seen and took it rather personally. And even though several others were there to witness it, too, he took it to a whole 'nother level where it does not need to be...

Let's put it like this. You know those "afrocentric folks" that love to bash BGLO's and question their existence??? He is close to being one of those, but since he attended Morehouse, they REALLY didn't have that kinna thang--it really was a west coast thang... So, when the "chit" went down at Morehouse in fall, 1989, to say the least, it was shocking to a lot of kids...

But when he sees what I do for my Sorority--i.e. going to sorority meeting, attending community service functions, attending other BGLO functions, etc. and the real top down corporate organization that we impose, then he's seeing an inside scoop that he would have never seen if he married a non-member...

But I cain't get him to go to a step show for the life of me... I could go, but he doesn't like "those kinds of things"...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by djjukebox
To limit your scope of College educated Men and Women by eliminating a group by Fraternal/Sorority affiliation is kinda crazy.

That's the thing though... We know that most people who are members of greek organizations must have attended college in order to have joined. So especially for women, particularly African American women, is it extremely difficult to meet a positively minded, African American man. And our first screen, albeit subconsciously, is to seek out men who are a part of the D5 fraternities. It makes it easier for the screen... Maybe that's lame, but hey, some women do what they gotta do...

[Tickled Pink 2]

I'm married to a Kappa. Other greek marriages in my family (in laws) are:

Another AKA - Kappa
Delta - Alpha

[jojapeach]

Originally posted by PerroLoco
Do you know of any Bruhs over 40 that are married to an SGRho as you happen to be?

I know I'm not your Bruh , but I know a Soror who has been married to an Omega for approximately 25 years. They are very obviously in love.

I don't keep up with the Greek marriages among sorors all that well, but in my chapter, sorors are married to one Omega, two Alphas, a Sigma, and two Kappas. Another Soror in a different chapter is married to an Iota.

To keep it brief, it's really lame and superficial to limit your love to XYZ Fraternity only. I couldn't imagine the possiblity of purposely missing out on the love of my life over letters.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
So especially for women, particularly African American women, is it extremely difficult to meet a positively minded, African American man. And our first screen, albeit subconsciously, is to seek out men who are a part of the D5 fraternities.

I disagree with these two sentences as a generalization.

Maybe SOME African American women have a difficult time finding a positively minded African American man and SOME of these women subconsciously use the D5 as an initial screeing process.

When women truly believe it's extremely difficult to find a positive brutha, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[djjukebox]

Originally posted by PerroLoco
This is a light-hearted topic. Nothing serious

I asked for some thoughts on Greek combinations for those of us who know Greeks that are married to Greeks. Its not a big deal whom anyone marries. I just happened to be at an event where there were alot of Greek couples. Where I'm from, I only saw Que/Delta or Que/AKA marriages. In my geographical area, there were ver yfew Zetas and even fewer SGRhos. If I were at an event with older Omegas, invariably, if they were married to a Greek, it was not any of the combinations that I see more of now.

I have been to at least 30 Delta weddings and have never seen a Delta/Sigma combo. Never even seen them date. Must be a northeast thing.

I don't think anyone purposely marries someone from a specific org. Love is where one finds it.

DJJukebox. Do you know of any Bruhs over 40 that are married to an SGRho as you happen to be?

I can safely say, NOT IN BIRMINGHAM ALABAMA !!!

Sigma Gamma Rho went through a period here from the early 80's to 1994 where there were almost no active chapters in the state. The Bessemer Grad Chapter was defunct.

I'm one of the 1st Bruhs in the city to be married to an SGRho. But amongst my peers and younger Bruhs, it's a lot more relationships (with the rise of SGRho in the state). My wife's best friend is currently dating a 1990 Gamma Sig (Alabama State) Bruh that I know very well (who's 38).

So, naturally.... with the rise in population of SGRho in Birmingham, we have a rise in SGRho relationships amongst all Male NPHC Greeks across the board in the city.

But NON of the older Bruhs here (older than me) are married to SGRhos.

[nonchalant]

I just wanted to put my comments out on this thread as a non-greek. I live in Atlanta, GA. The most common tags/plates I've seen are AKA/APA, AKA/KAP, DST/OPP, DST/APA, ZPB/PBS. I just saw on Friday a PBS/AKA tag, and I had to do a double take cuz it was out of the ordinary.

I feel that you can't help who you fall in love with. I feel that those looking for a Greek connection may miss out on true love. I've dated a few Kappas, and they all were on that same level of being young minded and not serious. I've dated an Alpha, but the distance was too much. I'm currently dating a Sigma who is very much what could be my ideal man if he stays consistent. My sister has been seriously dating an Alpha man for 5 years, and she is non-greek. My Delta friend has been dating her baby's father for years, and he is not greek. Actually, all my greek friends have/are seriously dated/dating non-greeks.

When I told my Zeta friend about me dating a Sigma, she said leave her men alone. He told me he would never date his soror cuz that's incest. I thought that was real funny/cute. My Delta and AKA friends told me I'm at an all time low. I am used to dating Alphas and Kappas. More so Kappas than Alphas. About 70/30.

Originally posted by Amaterasu
This was what I was wondering. Tangentially related, do you sisterfriends know many of your fellow Greeks who are married (or seriously dating) to non-Greeks? Truthfully, I haven't seen it happen that often where I'm from.

[DC_Zeta1920]

Interesting topic. Not too long ago when one of my classes adjourned, one of my classmates and I were talking and I didn't realize he was a Kappa and out of no where he asked if my fiance was greek (he saw my bag). Honestly, I was slightly offended. I was offended because this isn't the first time its happen and it seems alot of people think all Greeks marry Greeks.

My fiance is a non-greek who dislikes greeks (mind you he went to Howard), but supported me above and beyond when I wanted to go Greek. Honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way. I prefer him to be a non-greek. He's partially how I learned to balance both Greek life and Life outside of greekdom.

After I crossed I brought him to two events with me and he was extremely uncomfortable (after one member of an org basically looked down on him because he was a non-greek) so he pretty much stays away now.

[Live_Wire17]

A few of my ships are married to non-greeks and it constantly creates a problem because their spouse don't want to come to events. We have a plethora of functions and most have to come without their husbands. My husband is a kappa but that is not why we are married (he was my bestfriend before he was a NUPE). It does make spending time together at functions easier.

[MightyQuinn]

Originally posted by Live_Wire17
A few of my ships are married to non-greeks and it constantly creates a problem because their spouse don't want to come to events. We have a plethora of functions and most have to come without their husbands. My husband is a kappa but that is not why we are married (he was my bestfriend before he was a NUPE). It does make spending time together at functions easier.

When I was stationed in Texas the Delta and Omega chapters in my area were extremely close so we used to have all kinds of events together. Fortunately for me my husband is just as much a social butterfly as I am so he loves being involved in anything I do. The Sorors and the Bruhs would always have cookouts and dinners together so I made sure I brought my husband with me so he could see exactly who I was hanging with and what goes on. Needless to say it didn't take long for him to feel extremely comfortable with my social settings and he always looks forward to our next Delta event! I've adopted the attitude that if I couldn't take my husband with me to a function I probably shouldn't be there either if you know what I'm saying. Although he does say he's gonna have to start charging Sorors rent because they are at our house more than him! .