Selling Parents to Allow Sorority Membership - Page 3

Taualumna · #31 09-28-2005, 02:39 PM

*HUGS* for Amanda

AUDeltaGam · #32 09-28-2005, 02:41 PM

What a psycho woman! That was a great letter you wrote, and I will never understand why parents act that way! Her mother reminds me of the mother of my ex-boyfriend who would give her college age son a curfew and pretty much act like this woman is acting. Coincidently, my ex went to SPSU for a few semesters. Hmm...

aephi alum · #33 09-28-2005, 02:44 PM

I'm sorry to hear that your new member dropped out despite your efforts.

I guess she wasn't ready to cut the apron strings.

KSUViolet06 · #34 09-28-2005, 03:40 PM

I couldn't imagine any parent not being excited that their daughter is going Greek. I know my chapter has parent's letters that get sent home when a girl gets a bid. They just talk about Sigma in general.

Jill1228 · #35 09-28-2005, 05:06 PM

The book is by Dr. Susan Forward. Sorry she dropped out but hell you need to buy this book for her and GIVE it to her! I HIGHLY recommend this book.

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
Another book that might be helpful is Toxic Parents...I'm not exactly sure who the author is, but it's a pretty well-known book.

OleMissGlitter · #36 09-28-2005, 05:25 PM

I've had parents call me before to tell me how to advise. I'm always like, okay but that is not a policy, if your daugther breaks the rules then we have consequences. I try to have minimal contact with parents because I don't want them to come to me with every problem their daughter has. I had a parent like that last year and thank the Lord the daughter graduated. If the daugther got into a fight with her sisters or other friends the mother would call me to "help" or she would suggest what I could do to help the situation.

My mother never called my adviser or any officers for that matter. I can understand a parent calling if they haven't like seen their daugther for a while or heard from her in a while, but for every freaking little thing...sometimes you gotta cut the cord!

I even had a mother call to me that our rules about academics were too tough...I told her they are tough for a reason; to make your daugther the smartest and to help her graduate on time!

Anyway, I'm sorry this mother ran your NM off...

PsychTau2 · #37 09-28-2005, 06:05 PM

I would LOVE to see this girl married...can you imagine that train wreck?!?!?!?!

Seriously though, good effort Amanda. Sometimes you've just gotta give the best you can, and then back off and let people make their own mistakes (something you know, but the parents don't).

PsychTau

AGDLynn · #38 09-28-2005, 06:49 PM

When a new member pledges an Alpha Gam Chapter, a letter signed by the Chapter Advisor is mailed along with fraternity and financial info.

Unfortunately, the NM Coordinator forgot the inserts so I've already gotten emails from concerned parents...replied to let them know it was coming!

amanda6035 · #39 07-28-2009, 02:29 PM

Wow for the bump - this thread was referenced in another recent thread....

So said NM that quit - she dropped out of school after her freshman year, but she continued to hang around school for another year while said fraternity boy finished school, and then they got married - so she could escape her parents.

Gotta love those parents who put such tight restrictions on their daughters, that the only way out of the house is to get married. Unfortunately, it's alot more common than I realized. She isnt the only one I've known who have done this...

I will NEVER ever have those kind of restrictions on my kids....

Munchkin03 · #40 07-28-2009, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I couldn't imagine any parent not being excited that their daughter is going Greek. I know my chapter has parent's letters that get sent home when a girl gets a bid. They just talk about Sigma in general.

I know this is really old, but my parents were not excited at all when I went Greek. When my sister joined her sorority a year later, they were even less excited. They came from a time when sorority membership was a sign of extreme elitism and indicated rigid class distinctions in certain communities, and they were kind of activisty in college. They let us know, pretty early on, in very specific terms that we were on our own for dues and related costs. My sister and I have both been active alumnae--my sister was her chapter's president for two years--so their lack of approval never stopped us. I can see if we were less enterprising and more dependent on them, we could have chosen not to go Greek.

KSUViolet06 · #41 07-28-2009, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I know this is really old, but my parents were not excited at all when I went Greek. When my sister joined her sorority a year later, they were even less excited. They came from a time when sorority membership was a sign of extreme elitism and indicated rigid class distinctions in certain communities, and they were kind of activisty in college. They let us know, pretty early on, in very specific terms that we were on our own for dues and related costs. My sister and I have both been active alumnae--my sister was her chapter's president for two years--so their lack of approval never stopped us. I can see if we were less enterprising and more dependent on them, we could have chosen not to go Greek.

Whoa, holy old post Batman. Pretty sure when I made that post, I was a new member. My views have changed quite a bit (I was still in the "sorority is a cure for cancer" phase, lol).