How protective are you of your letters?

[tunatartare]

I sleep in my boyfriend's letters every night. Clearly he has no problem with that. And I'm sure anyone who saw me would understand that I'm not exactly a Lambda Chi Alpha (especially considering that the shirt is an XL and I'm a small).

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
And that's one reason why I'm not in a BGLO/MGLO/LGLO. Granted, opinions like mine are not the norm among NPC/NIC Greeks either, but they are more common. NPC and NIC Greeks often create party shirts with both groups' letters on them. NIC fraternity members sometimes allow their girlfriends to wear their letters. Although it's not usually kosher with the sorority HQs, many girls pass sorority shirts on to their guy friends too. And all but a handful of NPC sororities allow pledges to wear letters.

You say that it's not about the tee shirt, it's about the letters on the shirt, which I totally agree with. But my letters don't lose any of their "power" by being associated with non-members.

Sure.

[valkyrie]

Honestly, I just can't convince myself that I should give a rat's ass if anybody else wears my letters. In an ideal world, nobody but members would, but frankly I have bigger issues in life that concern me.

[WCUgirl]

I think that my answer would be different were I still in college. When I was, it was a big deal that ONLY initiated members wear our letters (or printed shirts for the new members) or printed shirts. I remember one older sister flipping out when she saw a girl on campus wearing a bid day shirt from her bid day (like in '96 or something), and when she ran up to approach the girl, it turned out it was one of her pledge sisters who had left school but had come back.

Now that I'm not immersed in the drama of it all, I have more important things to worry about, such as packing for our move next month, looking for a new job, law school applications, etc.

[Diva06Sweet]

me personally
if you are not a member you will not wear the letters
no if ands or buts about it....

emergencys are on a case by case

[Jhawkalum]

I'd say I'm on the same page as Sugar and Spice. I'm not about to go loaning my badge out to strangers, but I'm am secure enough in my own sisterhood to know that a shirt with my letters doesn't make them a sorority member.

Besides, when my chapter did party favors, we always put our letters on them. Most of our members ordered two favors, one for us, and one for our dates. A lot of times if I didn't want to babysit some guy at a date party, I'd bring a non-greek friend or a girlfriend from another sorority to a party. This was pretty commonplace on my campus.

Therefore, there were plenty of men and women with party-favor t-shirts or gifts on campus who weren't members. It never bothered me, I was just smart enough to know who was part of what chapter. And if someone made a total ass of themself at that party, I certainly wasn't going to give them a t-shirt.

This is just the way things were on my campus, I'm not saying this is right or wrong -- it's just the way it is. Different strokes for different folks

Don't judge others because they may or may not be more protective of their letters -- every GLO is different, and every campus is different. Just because you are more or less protective, doesn't make you a better member than someone else on this board.

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by AXiD670
I think that my answer would be different were I still in college. When I was, it was a big deal that ONLY initiated members wear our letters (or printed shirts for the new members) or printed shirts. I remember one older sister flipping out when she saw a girl on campus wearing a bid day shirt from her bid day (like in '96 or something), and when she ran up to approach the girl, it turned out it was one of her pledge sisters who had left school but had come back.

Now that I'm not immersed in the drama of it all, I have more important things to worry about, such as packing for our move next month, looking for a new job, law school applications, etc.

Personally, I don't hold it as a bigger issue in my life than any of those things. It's not as if I'd curl up in a ball in my bedroom sucking my thumb for months if I saw a non-member in my letters. It wouldn't exactly ruin my life or anything.

I'm just saying personally I would rather not have non-members wearing my letters. I wouldn't give up on life if they did, though.

[WCUgirl]

Originally posted by KSigkid
Personally, I don't hold it as a bigger issue in my life than any of those things. It's not as if I'd curl up in a ball in my bedroom sucking my thumb for months if I saw a non-member in my letters. It wouldn't exactly ruin my life or anything.

I'm just saying personally I would rather not have non-members wearing my letters. I wouldn't give up on life if they did, though.

I imagine there are some people who might do just that.

I'm not saying it wouldn't bother me if I saw a non-member wearing my letters -- I've just come to realize that the further I am from college, even though I'm still active as an alumna and volunteer with the collegiates, it's not nearly as much of an issue now as it was then. Especially since I would have no way of knowing if the person in question wasn't a member. Unless it's a boy, of course.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by AXiD670
Now that I'm not immersed in the drama of it all, I have more important things to worry about, such as packing for our move next month, looking for a new job, law school applications, etc.

A lot of us have more important things to worry about and haven't been in undergraduate in years.

However, Delta's protocol regarding our symbols doesn't change. A large percentage of our members are alumnae, so it is more about the different cultures of our organizations and not about how far removed you are from college or if you have other life concerns.

I also do not see what any of this has to do with "drama."

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by AXiD670
Especially since I would have no way of knowing if the person in question wasn't a member.

Really? That's unfortunate.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by KSigkid
Personally, I don't hold it as a bigger issue in my life than any of those things. It's not as if I'd curl up in a ball in my bedroom sucking my thumb for months if I saw a non-member in my letters. It wouldn't exactly ruin my life or anything.

I'm just saying personally I would rather not have non-members wearing my letters. I wouldn't give up on life if they did, though.

That's how most of us view it. I don't recall anyone saying they were staging a sit-in or giving up their life's possessions over this.

[Kevin]

It bothers me when a male non-member is wearing anything Sigma Nu related, such as a party t-shirt, etc.

It's not something I would really care enough to confront someone over. They probably got it at a thrift shop, garage sale, etc.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by Jhawkalum
I'd say I'm on the same page as Sugar and Spice. I'm not about to go loaning my badge out to strangers, but I'm am secure enough in my own sisterhood to know that a shirt with my letters doesn't make them a sorority member.

Besides, when my chapter did party favors, we always put our letters on them. Most of our members ordered two favors, one for us, and one for our dates. A lot of times if I didn't want to babysit some guy at a date party, I'd bring a non-greek friend or a girlfriend from another sorority to a party. This was pretty commonplace on my campus.

Therefore, there were plenty of men and women with party-favor t-shirts or gifts on campus who weren't members. It never bothered me, I was just smart enough to know who was part of what chapter. And if someone made a total ass of themself at that party, I certainly wasn't going to give them a t-shirt.

This is just the way things were on my campus, I'm not saying this is right or wrong -- it's just the way it is. Different strokes for different folks

Don't judge others because they may or may not be more protective of their letters -- every GLO is different, and every campus is different. Just because you are more or less protective, doesn't make you a better member than someone else on this board.

This thread is a spin off. In the other thread, the GCers who aren't protective over their letters were being extremely judgmental and tried to make it seem as though the rest of us were silly and petty.

In the end this is just highlighting differences across GLOs and types of GLOs, as you have stated.

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by AXiD670
I imagine there are some people who might do just that.

I'm not saying it wouldn't bother me if I saw a non-member wearing my letters -- I've just come to realize that the further I am from college, even though I'm still active as an alumna and volunteer with the collegiates, it's not nearly as much of an issue now as it was then. Especially since I would have no way of knowing if the person in question wasn't a member. Unless it's a boy, of course.

True, although I could figure out pretty quickly if someone was or wasn't a member of my org.

I was just saying that while there are obviously bigger issues that concern all of us, that doesn't mean I'm going to like it if a non-member is wearing my letters.

[Jhawkalum]

Originally posted by DSTCHAOS
This thread is a spin off. In the other thread, the GCers who aren't protective over their letters were being extremely judgmental and tried to make it seem as though the rest of us were silly and petty.

In the end this is just highlighting differences across GLOs and types of GLOs, as you have stated.

That's why some people wrote: Different strokes for different folks. I don't think that this was neither judgmental nor meant to tag you as silly or petty.