Will the interests please calm down

[DirectorDST99]

Originally posted by Diva_56:
Anybody who has done it knows how hard it is to approach a member of the org you want to join for the first time. Greeks are people too

It depends on WHO the person is...which is why people should see the person for who he/she is first and not the letters that he/she wears. Why just this evening in class (graduate school) as I was sitting with 2 other sorors, a young lady leaned over and said "Now, you need to give me some information on Deltas."

I interpreted that as she was interested in membership. I could have easily given her the cold shoulder or made a sarcastic comment like "I don't NEED to do anything." Instead, I ask the # 1 question that I ask ALL of those who are interested in Delta and that is "What type of public service are you currently doing?" I simply extended an invitation to some of our upcoming functions. It's out of my hands now.

Ok, perhaps I digressed a bit, but I hope you see my point.


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[Positive Kay]

There are a few a$$ kissers and some people may think that I am. But personally I don't think that I am. But guess what?....... I don't care what others think about me if it is something this negative. Like it was said before if the shoe fits wear it anf if you are offended by the original post then you must fit that descrpition. (NOT you Mocha and a few others) you clearly stated that you didn't like the rudeness. Some people just like to talk about things that they are interested in. Just like if you like basketball, you're going to talk about all the time, especially with others that like it to. BUT......there still are a few that try too hard. And there's no need to do this on the internet because no one knows you so how can it help you. Quoting another thing that was said before....."be yourself"!! Chill, mingle (did I spell that right), and have fun! Most of all.....worry about how YOU conduct YOURSELF don't worry others. If you are trying to become a member of a greek org...you need to focus on yourself and getting YOUR stuff together.!

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Positive Kay

I can say that I do recall a message that was written in a particular forum (I won't say which one) but the young woman wrote a particularly LONG post about how she was sitting at her school's libraray/study lounge (if I recall correctly). She went on to say how she couldn't believe that she was hearing two women talk about the stereotyped personalities/looks of a particular organization and how the other said she was going to rush but she didn't know.

Besides the fact that the e-mail system "seems" anonymous, I would have to say that was a form of a$$ kissing. Although posting such really wouldn't benefit the woman either way (because she may not attend school where any of the sorority members on the board attended) it was a$$ kissing.

I've seen it a million times. Like "These women don't know that they shouldn't do XYZ?" "I would never do that because blah,blah, blah." Okay so you may be a more seasoned a$$ kisser than the next prospective but still an a$$ kisser nonetheless.

It's a$$ kissing any was you slice it.

What's the purpose of letting the women on an e-mail page know that women in your library were discussing them or not discussing them besides a$$ kissing?

I will say that the women in the forum didn't seem to mind so what the hell.

I did expect one of them to say something like "Although it is all well and good for you to inform us that XYZ is going down at your school, I would suggest that you take more time tending to whatever it is you were tending to prior to your overhearing this discussion and not what people are saying about my organization."

But...no one said that so it must be cool with them. I KNOW that in my particular organization's forum, someone would have broken it down like that. But to each his/her own.

OUT!!!

[AKAtude]

Obviously we didn't have a problem with the post.

[ManndingoNUPE]

"Cant we all just get along please?"

MN

[Discogoddess]

Oh Lawd, Anonymous! Why do you care what other people are doing in other org's. discussion areas? Apparently, we didn't give a flying....care, so if you really meant "to each his/her own," then you wouldn't have needed to state the obvious.

I recall stating that in my post...didn't I? Yeah...I did state that the members of your organization obviously didn't have a problem with what the young woman was saying. That's all good. I was making a point that sometimes what others deem as kissing up may or may not be perceived that way by the perpetrator(s) or the recipients of the puckered lips.

We all venture into one another's forums DG so, your point was...?

That is the reason I didn't comment when I originally read the posts in the topic because it wasn't my place to comment on that issue. You personalized it, I didn't.

OUT!!!

[AKAtude]

So why comment now, except for the fact that you were trying to find a way to tell/show Sexy Mocha that you felt she was "kissing up" to my sorors. If you read through that thread only one or maybe two (at the most) of my sorors even responded, and when they did respond it was in a general sense. Most of the responses were from sisterfriends.

What I find interesting about your response is that if someone were to call Sexy Mocha out if they believed she were "kissing up", then someone would be offended and say we were being mean or rude. So, sometimes we as greeks are all damned if we do, and damned if we don't.


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[Discogoddess]

Ummm, didn't personalize it, Anonymous, just wondered aloud why, if you don't care, and to each their own, would you go on a board and state that you don't care and to each their own. I mean, if you didn't care, why would you say something? Unless your intention was to get a dig in...then score! for Anonymous...you made your point, do you feel good?

It's pretty disengenuous for you to state that in YOUR organization's forum, butt kissing wouldn't be allowed, but in SOME OTHER organization's forum, they didn't have a problem with it, but of course, to each his/her own? Aren't you doing the same type of thing your original post pointed out as ass kissing?

Let's continue this via email, if you wish. This topic doesn't need any more back and forth.

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[ZetaAce]

Ok, Ok, I'll bite:

Anonymous till asked: I'm asking! What org are you a member of? What is your normal handle on here?

MaMaBuddha- I'm glad I'm not the only one!

ZetaAce

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[Discogoddess]

I just thought of something mind-blowing: if you don't like interests' puckering, if you don't like what your frat/soror said in their post, if you don't like the comment made by a member of another organization, IGNORE THEM! You really DON'T have to comment, I promise.

Not directed to anyone in particular, just a general comment.

I commented on that issue because it was brought up by someone else. Why do we comment on any topic in these chatrooms if that is the main question DG?

Because we have personal accounts that we feel will shed light on a particular issue. I brought up that issue because I thought it was representative of the discussion which was brought up on this post. That's it.

If I were trying to put people on blast I would've said names and org.'s...that wasn't the point. The point was that sometimes people don't really think they are kissing up nor do the recipients of such acts, but some do. I didn't feel it necessary to go into accounts as to whose boards and names, etc. Many people probably knew not of what I spoke and took the message for what it was supposed to be.

That's it.

AKAtude: I do know that people feel like people are rude when they address issues in manners like the one I gave in my example.

Perhaps my comments on what I think would have been done were unnecessary and unwarranted. I take responsibility for that.

For bringing up the issue, I still think it serves its purpose as an example of what was being discussed on this board.

[MaMaBuddha]

this seems to be getting a bit serious.

where was the humor a few posts ago?

[ZetaAce]

Originally posted by MaMaBuddha:
this seems to be getting a bit serious.

where was the humor a few posts ago?

Girl, only a few of us thought it was funny.

Others seemed a little bit ticked off about it.

ZetaAce

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[Positive Kay]

Let's just all get along
None of us should worry about others and how much butt kissing people are doing to others. If someone kisses YOUR butt and you don't like it, let it be known THEN to the "butt kisser". That will nip it all in the bud. That way it won't be done to those who care and the one's that don't care can continue to not care about the simplicity of it.

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Set your goal!! Strive!! Bask in your reward!!

Positive Kay

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