Disclaimer: This process ONLY works if you WANT TO BE MARRIED UNDER CHRISTIAN IDEALS or SPIRITUALLY INCLINED!!! If you are not that way and have different concepts about relationships than what is described on this topic, then this will not work for you!!!
Second disclaimer: The "3 month waiting period" is ONLY to be used if you KNOW EXACTLY that is the person you want be with for the REST of your life--in a Christian way...
Another way of putting it: You only do the "3 month" thang if you are "playing for keeps"...
If you cannot manage your own life within 3 months, then you ought not be applying the "3 month waiting period" on just any old body...
The 3 month commitment is also on your part... 3 months means you don't rush into brothaman... You don't date him whenever he "snaps" of his fingers... If he can get you at the last minute--he'll treat you like the last minute... The idea is you want to be the first thing on his mind--second only to God and Christ when he wakes up in the morning... You don't run up under a brutha... He can chase you all he wants... Men chase after football teams as fans--when a man knows what he wants, folks can tell... There is no reason why you have to push yourself upon a brotha... You yourself must be disciplined, too!!!
It takes approxiamately 3 months of daily exercise to start to see 1 lb. of weight loss occur--surely, one should be able to know whether the one he or she is COURTING is the one he or she wants to be with for a long term relationship...
What's 3 months of your salary if you saved $100 per month??? Or are you all living from paycheck to paycheck???
What's 3 months of improving your health by eating right and getting the appropriate amount of sleep???
Really, how hard is it to wait 3 months, then call the relationship like you see it...
The catch is, if the other person ain't all that serious, you can tell within 3 weeks or less... Then it is on to the next one... If you hang on more than 3 months, then you will be left hanging, on and on--with little to show or nothing or worse... And, all the while, you could have been with somebody who probably would be better for you to begin with before you chased and kept it down with knucklehead!!!
And if you play it by seasons, which works okay for some folks, then the season that you need the person the most--will he or she BE there with you??? Like Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day or your birthday??? Because these holidays bunch up quickly and there will be an ENTIRE season that will be left out if you wait for it to come around...
3 months is a "safety precaution" for that seasons... And really, you outta have a SPOUSE for a "LIFETIME"--not reasons or seasons...
A fling on the otherhand is normally 4-6 months... Been there, done that...
A tryst, booty call or affair last years... Been there, done that, too...
And what do you really end up with? Broken hearts and tears... Been done been there, done been done that!!!
If you want to be married and you like what you see within 2 weeks, then the 3 month waiting period works wonders with the RIGHT PERSON!!!
Then after the time is up and brothaman has not said what you wanted to hear, then you ask him, "hey, we've known each other for _____ long, what is up with all of this--what are trying to accomplish here???" Then if he bullishts you and says something trite, HASTA LA VISTA BABY!!! But if he says what you want to hear... Hmmmm.... Well.... Did you get what you wanted??? Did you accomplish what you were set out to do???
Okay...
say wut?
3 months.... 
Hybrid Mode
