How much time single?

[CarolinaDG]

Originally posted by alphaiota
yeah, i've been single since august. i've been trying to find a guy, but i just keep getting frustrated with the whole dating scene. i'm ready to just become a bonafied lesbian. lol, j/k

shelley j
sigma k

You could be a nun... That's my next step... converting to Catholicism!

[alphaiota]

no, i've just been getting d*cked around by some guys lately. i have been putting myself out there for them and get hurt. it's tough cuz that's my personality is to help and put myself out for people, but i'm thinking that needs to change a bit cuz all it's doing is getting me hurt.

shelley j
sigma k

[alphagambaby]

Since I got into my first long relationship at the age of 13 (a year and a half), I've gone from one long relationship to another... I haven't been single for more than a month or so... I can see now how this is becoming a problem for me, but that's a personal issue. This is just my input in the discussion.

[alphaiota]

at least you're recognizing that and if you choose to, you can change it.

shelley j
sigma k

[James]

bump

Well I am going on 4 years of being single and I am sick of being single. Here's my timeline:

Dated 3 years with same guy
Single for a year and a half
Dated 3 months with another guy and broke up because he was emotionally and physically abusive

I guess the 4 years of being single helped me heal from the 3 month abusive relationship because I really poured a lot of myself into that relationship. I was emotionally dependent on the guy because he made sure I was. He would actually keep up with me (i.e. make sure I wasn't hanging out with friends or drinking or dating other people). He would call people I knew and ask them what I was up to because he didn't trust what I told him. He didn't want me to hang out with MY friends because they were "evil" and he didn't choose them for me. The only people good enough for me to be around were his friends or those he thought I should be around. Of course, drinking alcohol was pure evilness. Apparently, I was corrupted when I met him and he was out to bring the demons out of me.

Now that I know what I want, I want a real man, dang it! No nerds. No geeks. Oh I know who I want! Joe Walsh!

[christiangirl]

I have been single my entire life minus 4 months. It's quite sad in a way, but at the same time, I've had much more time to think about me and what sort of person I want to be when I finally am with someone. So the next guy I'm involved with will be in for a treat b/c he'll be getting someone who is able to actually bring something to the table...I'll be bringing me. You can't give yourself to someone if you don't know where you are (in life). Nor can you give someone your heart if you don't what's in there. So I think the next guy I have a relationship with is in for a real treat. But it'll be awhile, I've still got some searching to do, I'm not entirely together yet.

[Lindz928]

Way to bump your own thread, James.

I'm not gonna include high school, cause that just doesn't count for me... It wasn't anything important.

This started October freshman year of college (I was 19).

Dated J1 for 2 1/2 years

Single for about 3 weeks

Rebound relationship with J2 for 4 months

Single for about a month and a half

Dated G for a year

Spent the next 6 months in a very painful and worthless on-again off-again with G

Finally said good-bye to G and have been single ever since..... 2 years since the first break-up with G... about a year and a half since FINALLY getting rid of him

2 or 3 mild heart aches since then.

Single, single, single!!!!!! (Wishing I could find more guys who are actually worth my time.) James, you have listened to enough of my relationship stories to know exactly what I mean!! Hahaha.

[ISUKappa]

Single for 18 years
dated for three months
dated for three months (yeeah, broke up with the hs bf because I met my 1st college bf)
single for seven months
dated for three months
single for two years (but had a lot of fun during that time)
dated then married for almost five years

My longest relationship was/is with my now husband. If the relationship wasn't going to go anywhere, I figured why waste my time on it?

[alphaiota]

i'm right there with you isukappa. i'mi n the longest relationship of my life right now and we've only been together about 5 months. i'm still with him b/c i actually love him and see a future with him. other guys i've dated were just for fun.

let's see:
freshman yr. college dated one guy very casually for about 4 months.
didn't date sophmore year or junior year (just got around a lot)
senior year i dated a guy for about 3 months.
the year after i graduated, i dated another guy for about three months again.
then until march of this year i hadn't dated anyone. so for nearly three years i didn't date.

shelley j
sigma k

[unfaltering]

I dated someone for the first time my first year of college. That was about, ummmmm, 4 years ago . I have been single since then. It's so hard to find someone of quality, especially after you have graduated. I would rather be alone then with a man who brings drama.

[recentASAalum]

I didn't start dating till I was 16... until the age of 21 I had never been single for more than 2 months but most of my relationships were only about 3 to 4 months... except one that was two years... I decided to take the summer off from dating and then that stretched until the next February...

I think that time off from dating helped me a lot to learn about myself and to really figure out what I wanted from a realtionship and from a male... I've been single now for about 3 months... and I think it's been for the best... I'm living on my own for the first time and I think this is something that I need to experience for myself before I bring someone else into it...

I also learned in that summer not to date everyone who was available to me... that I could pick and chose who to date and just cuz I liked them didn't mean I had to date them...

[texas*princess]

longest time i've been single was 6 months.. i had so much fun during that time though, so it was no big thing.

currently i'm single.. it's been approx. 2 months... once again having way more fun than I did when I was in a relationship

I've been kind of dating a couple of people, but nothing serious. i still consider myself single since there is no relationship going on. I'm not really looking to meet anyone for a relationship anytime soon, because I just want to enjoy my time to myself and when I feel like really dating again in the whole relationship thing then I'll try to find someone