Speakin' of tips...

[HeartbrAKA]

I have decided to never give my number out again because I always get the weirdos. The last guy I gave my number to just didn't have it all.
The phone conversation went like this, now mind you I just met him earlier that day.....

him: how you doin
me: fine
him: i didn't ask you whut you look like, i ax you how you doin
me: um nice try....
him: so whut you got on...
me: ??(click)

What you mean what I got on? WTF? Brothaman kept calling me for a minute asking why I aint neva called him back...so the last time he called I let my brother answer the phone and he pretended to be my angry husband..lol...needless to say ole boy hasn't called back since.

I think I have a "I Accept Rejects" sign across my forehead. Here's what happened to me.
I'm at the gas station minding my own business after work. A turquoise car pulls up to the pump next to me....WTF was he thinking buying a turquoise car...who in the hell makes turquoise cars...and to top it off he had gold teeth....anyway...

Him: How you doing?
Me: Fine
Him: You dressed nice
Me: Just left work
Him: You must got an office job dressed like that.
Me: (thinking) why is this dumb a$$ still here?
Him: You need me to pump your gas
Me: No but you can pay some car notes, damn pumping gas...that's the least of my worries.
Him: You must got a lot of money. You filling your tank all the way up.

I proceeded to get in my car and drive away. I know there are intelligent men out there....I know there are Lord.



[This message has been edited by Total Elegance (edited June 26, 2001).]

[Sugar_N_Spice]

Originally posted by Total Elegance:
I think I have a "I Accept Rejects" sign across my forehead. Here's what happened to me.
I'm at the gas station minding my own business after work. A turquoise car pulls up to the pump next to me....WTF was he thinking buying a turquoise car...who in the hell makes turquoise cars...and to top it off he had gold teeth....anyway...

Him: How you doing?
Me: Fine
Him: You dressed nice
Me: Just left work
Him: You must got an office job dressed like that.
Me: (thinking) why is this dumb a$$ still here?
Him: You need me to pump your gas
Me: No but you can pay some car notes, damn pumping gas...that's the least of my worries.
Him: You must got a lot of money. You filling your tank all the way up.

I proceeded to get in my car and drive away. I know there are intelligent men out there....I know there are Lord.

[This message has been edited by Total Elegance (edited June 26, 2001).]

ROTFLMAO at: the turquoise car, you thinking "Why is his dumba$$ still here?", at the fact that he said you must be rich b/c you filled up your tank (HELLO?!--he was dumb)and lastly at you saying there must be some intelligent men in the world...tell me where they are when you find out so I an move to that city b/c there aren't many of them here--and I live in one of the biggest cities in the country!!


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[Steeltrap]

But I'm getting a good giggle out of this because of my "like-bug." I will say he approached me in a gentlemanly fashion.

[bellebeaua]

Being that women come with various forms of interest, my best advice would be to think BEFORE speaking. Observe the lady of interest for a moment and get a feel for her. Don't just have the physiological reaction and not let the mind send a message to deliver.
One can tell a lot by nonverbal communication i.e. the confidence in a woman's walk, the expression on her face, the disposition that her body is in etc. All of this is a direct indication as to the best way to apporach a woman, even attire can be taken into consideration.

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[Sahara]

Originally Posted by bellebeaua

Being that women come with various forms of interest, my best advice would be to think BEFORE speaking. Observe the lady of interest for a moment and get a feel for her....One can tell a lot by nonverbal communication...

This is so true! I try hard to let a guy know that I am not the slightest bit interested before he approaches me and makes a fool of himself. Some guys just ignore or refuse to see the obvious.

If a girl is rolling her eyes, looks disgusted at the sight of you, or tries to hide her face or cleavage (or ANYTHING that would be appealing), then SHE'S NOT INTERESTED! KEEP IT MOVING!

[pointNclick]

Originally posted by dog dog bang bang:
What if a man approaches you one evening and say "Excuse me I hate to impose on your evening, but how would you like something hard and sweet, something that I'm sure would satisfy your evening." And then offer you a peppermint and tell you to have a good night. How would you react before he offer you the peppermint.

Before the peppermint, I would probably have a coy look and a chuckle. A man coming up to me saying something like that would surely make me laugh, with or without the peppermint.

Originally posted by Total Elegance
The introduction I love:

Hello how are you? My name is ____. I noticed you and wanted to introduce myself to you. Short convo blah blah...I would like to exchange numbers but if you don't feel comfortable with that I'll give you my number. Maybe we can have dinner or a drink sometime. It was nice meeting you.

I've only been approached like that once.

This is for any woman on GC.

So when a brother introduces himself like this and gives you his number, because you feel uncomfortable, do you make it a point to try and reach him?

There is a difference between call and reach.

Call is when you get the answering machine.

Reach is when you leave a message and may call again.

Another question

And just how much convo does a brother get with this introduction if you don't think he is super fine?

[preciousjeni]

I'm definitely more casual than some of the posters here. I don't know that I've ever "dated" per se. I prefer to meet people and bring them around my friends to see how they interact. When you're in a group of people, it's sometimes easier to talk than when the pressure's on - one-on-one.

I also am the type of person who will just decline a number if I'm really not interested. If I am interested and you give me your number, I'll have the courtesy to call and, yes, leave a message. But, that's about all you get until you come correct and show me how you really treat a lady.

Now, I have to tell my issue. I tend to "meet" men/thugs/morons at liquor stores and gas stations. These undesirables like to follow me around asking things like, "Are you married?" "Do you have a man?" and like the rest of you, I've gotten
"Do you have a man?"
"Yes" (lying sometimes)
"Can I come see you sometime?
"No"
"What, your man don't let you have freeeiiinnz?"

My personal favorite was someone who amused me enough for me to STUPIDLY talk to him. I was much younger so please excuse me. Conversation:

Foo: "Aaaaay white girl"
(PJ ignores)
Foo: "SHAWTY!"
(PJ continues to ignore)
(PJ is followed into the store)
Foo: "Shawty, where you goin?"
PJ: "Go on, I don't want to talk to you"
Foo: "Hold up hold up Listen to me for a minute"
PJ: "What"
Foo: "My name Casino, it's nice to meet you" (followed by a fake and condescending handshake)
PJ: "What's your real name?"
Foo: "PYT"
(PJ remains silent)
Foo: "Ok, it's Jermaine."

Well, I found out later that his name wasn't even Jermaine. Lawd help these foos!!! Bless their hearts, they don't get it do they?

[SummerChild]

I say just be nice and sincere. Giver her a nice compliment and ask if you can get to know her better. Offer your tel number and perhaps your email address (if you have one). Ask if she doesn't mind you taking her information and don't be upset if she says that she will take yours but not give you hers. It doesn't mean that she's not interested necessarily. She could just be cautious, esp. since some tel numbers give you addresses when you Google them and she may not want you to know where she lives.

It's really not that big of a deal. If a woman has to have a man approach her like x, y and z and she is way extra then you probably don't want to be bothered with her anyway, unless you like drama.

Originally Posted by The Original Ape

How would you intelligent sistas like to be approached by a brotha? Give Yall's bruhs some tips on how to use our mouthpieces!

[So blessed!]

A sincere and non-sexual compliment is very appropriate, such "You're a very beautiful woman"... who doesn't want to hear that? If you want to mention the part of the woman's anatomy that interested you, please let it be her eyes, her smile, her beautiful brown skin. Mentioning gluteal, breast, or other below-the-neck parts of her anatomy will get you nowhere with a true lady.

Also keep in mind that this woman does not know you. I would prefer to have your email address and then I'll email you when it's convenient and if I'm interested. Guys have been put-off when I've told them I don't feel comfortable calling them and would rather have their email address. For me, calling can be a bit more intimate than desired when trying to feel somebody out and assess their intentions.

[whiteandblack]

gauge (sp?) a woman's interest by studying her body language and eye contact before you ask for her number.

[black_princess]

Hey all,
I'm back from hiatus again

Anyway, I just had to comment here. Yes, I am a young girl (21), but I still want respect. Im not saying that u have to approach me like ur about to give a speach in front of the nation, but still I don't think that it's much to as for a "Excuse me miss do you mind if I talk with you for a minute?" It's that simple.

Instead, since a lot of the guys in my peer group can be a little immature (not all . . but many 21 year old guys are) I tend to get "Psssssst . . Aye Ma, come ova here" Many times I tell them "Havent you heard that real ladies really hate that??" Some are totally confused as to y "Aye Ma" didn't work, while others seem to have a light bulb go off and get it .

So guys young and old take note . . . women love to be approached as a lady. Even if u have a little rough-ness about u . . you'll go miles further with no bs,no lines, and stick to respect and honesty. If she says no, most-likely she'll try to equally respectfull about it. But if you approach like an azz, expect to get ignored like one

[black_princess]

Have you ever ignored some ignorant comments and come on lines from a guy and still gave the guy some play because he was particularly good looking?

[Exquisite5]

[QUOTE=So blessed!]A sincere and non-sexual compliment is very appropriate, such "You're a very beautiful woman"... who doesn't want to hear that? If you want to mention the part of the woman's anatomy that interested you, please let it be her eyes, her smile, her beautiful brown skin. Mentioning gluteal, breast, or other below-the-neck parts of her anatomy will get you nowhere with a true lady.

QUOTE]

This is true, but even a sincere comment can be ruined when the delivery is CHEESY...men, lay off the cheese! I.e. don't pretend to be Mr. Debonaire, Billy D., Don Juan- just do you (and if that is you...change )