online dating

[Senusret I]

I joined match.com and my best matches are all white guys in their 50s.

Not that I wouldn't date white people or even someone outside of my age range, but on the internet, it's very hard to determine if a white guy or old guy is only sending me a message because I'm his fetish.

Ya know?

That's why I generally stick to my own age range (or slightly above) and race, when it comes to internet dating.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

I joined match.com and my best matches are all white guys in their 50s.

Not that I wouldn't date white people or even someone outside of my age range, but on the internet, it's very hard to determine if a white guy or old guy is only sending me a message because I'm his fetish.

Ya know?

That's why I generally stick to my own age range (or slightly above) and race, when it comes to internet dating.

i hear you. i had a similar experience with match.com - my matches were, for the most part, older, divorced, white men who may or may not have fetishes.

but from my understanding of match.com and your profile options, were you selecting your (racial and age) preferences to match potential mates? in other words, if you left the race and age categories very broad, did you select potential matches' profiles to reflect the same, or specifically men who are into black men?

if anything, that's one way to judge if its a fetish thing or not. but you probably knew that, youre a smart guy.

[tld221]

as to MY feelings about internet dating?

ive tried different sites and come up with dismal results. i dont find anything wrong with finding dates online and wouldnt judge anyone for it. for clarification, are we including social networking sites under "internet dating?"

if anything i feel like dating sites don't attract a certain "type" of person. most Americans date, right? it has wide appeal and i would expect the populations of these sites to be microcosms of who's "out there" in the dating world. so finding "the one," IMO, will be more or less the same online as it would be IRL.

[Senusret I]

Was the pun between "Plenty of Fish" and "bottom-feeder" intended?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Was the pun between "Plenty of Fish" and "bottom-feeder" intended?

Yep!

[Zephyrus]

Originally Posted by maggieaxid

everyone in my office raves about eharmony and match.com. what are yalls felling on online dating?
I have my own opinion, but i don't want to share it yet.

I think online dating is just as difficult as meeting someone offline. Earlier, I mentioned one of the problems I had on eharmony. Now, I think it just boils down to being in the right place at the right time.