I knew it was over when.... - Page 3

mccoyred · #31 12-18-2000, 02:38 PM

I knew it was over when I, a starving and broke college student, asked my then boyfriend, who was a software engineer driving a new Mercedes, to bring me a Big Mac on his way over to my apartment...he had a nerve to show up without it AND expect some nooky!!

I put him out and never looked back!

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sphinxpoet · #32 12-18-2000, 06:18 PM

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Originally posted by sphinxpoet:
Convinced....Soror you have some hard hitting issues on this listserv! I knew one of my relationships was over when I was feeling sick and I could not go to sleep but decided I was still going to go to work. I lent my ex-girlfriend(girlfriend at the time) my car(who lives 45 minutes away). After that I went to work......My boss sent me home after about 3 hours. But she was out with my car and I had no way to contact her. So I sat on her stoop for 2 hours and felt worse and throwing up. She finally came and I asked her if I could rest at her house for about an hour before I went home. Her response was "I really don't have time for you right now" and walked right in.

WHOA (And she knew I was sick)! A Week later we broke up.

p.s.
I forgot to mention that she had no job at the time so I was supporting her for a little while and a week later, when she got the job that was when I knew it was over for real!

The Sphinxpoet
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Conskeeted19 · #33 12-18-2000, 07:26 PM

I knew it was over when I was told that he was seeing someone else and wasn't moved by it in the least bit.

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ifbeautywasasin · #34 12-18-2000, 09:54 PM

I knew it was ova when:
My boyfriend and I had been together for 3 yrs and my baby was 1. He had helped pay most of my bills during my maternity leave and mostly everything was all good. Then during my leave I was offered a job with NYPD long story short is that because I was new on the job I of course had the 4pm to 12am shift that no one with senority wanted. Anyway I'd reach home every night about 1 or 1:30 am. Since I past my house on the way to the babysitters I'd always just stop and throw my bag down. Ya know I didn't want to give a mugger any excuse to consider me a victim. Anyway on more than one occassion I'd come home to MY house and this fool would be up in my bed chillin'. I'd search the house and there'd be no baby. Huh? That's right after working all night coming home really late this fool still expected me to go back out into the darkness (did I mention this is nyc?) with the murderers and crackheads and get my baby alone. Mind you he'd been home since 6 or 7pm. After the last night of taking this crap ---God woke me up the next day. I realize this fool hadn't paid one friggin' bill since I'd started working and when I questioned him about the situation he had the nerve to tell me that since I made more money than he did I didn't need his part. Um, ur, rah, excuse me! That was the straw that broke the camel's back. After all the crap and other woman drama he had put me through. Needless to say he married one of those other women in less than 9 months and hasn't held a job since then. My girl is still paying for the wedding and bought her own engagement ring. And he has got to be the flyest unemployed man I know. Iceberg this, gucci that. Humph! betta her than me. Thank you Lord for awaking me!!!!

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AKA_Monet · #35 12-19-2000, 09:17 PM

Hmmmm, I knew it was over when...

The guy I had a humongus crush on and played in the NFL got this woman, from outta nowhere that used to be married to Vinny Testaverde, pregnant. I found out be seeing her about to drop that child. Fortunately, all my friends kept tellin' me that "Bart's" (as we called him--as in Bart Simpson) retarded. Do you know, I've been told that that child is truly mentally retarded...

After that fiasco, I promised myself to never put all my "eggs" into one basket until vows have been said and legal document signed... 'Til then, ain't gonna be no, "I knew it was over's"...

tickledpink · #36 12-22-2000, 06:20 AM

When one of my ex's told me "that was my cousin.." (can we say "stupid" -- he forgot he showed me a picture of his "ex") and I didn't care because I realized I had been looking for a reason to dump him.

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prettypoodle6 · #37 12-22-2000, 06:07 PM

well this was never my boyfriend, but a guy that I had been talking to back in high school....

I knew it was over when he and my homegirl got into an arguement on the phone (you know how we used to do 3 and 4 way on the phone with all the homies). Well anyway he got pissed and hung up. Then he called me back on my line talking about "bitch, you dont know who the f**k I am, dont nobody talk to me like that....."

Whoa! Obviously HE didnt know that no one talks to ME like that!

novella000 · #38 12-26-2000, 05:30 PM

whew!! Good Lord help us! I am REALLY shaking my head at some of these posts!! Well... pull up a chair, I feel the need to vent!!!

My ex (or as my friends and family call him "The Crazy One") and I had a VERY ROCKY 10 or 11 months together. Our families were extremely close and so EVERYONE was really happy when we got together... One of his parents passed and shortly thereafter, we got together. He was helping me out a lot, as I am a single mom (not his child), & wanted us to be married -- almost from the jump. I felt swept off my feet, he helped with bills, spent time with my child, & basically did everything he was 'supposed' to do.
I was so happy.

He loved to spend time with me, wanted me to be happy, sacrificed things of himself... He did not work, but had plenty of money from investments and insurance. Since he had a lot of free time & I am a full time EVERYTHING, mom, student, worker (volunteer, & your standard Mon. through Fri.9-to-5). I am already in my profession, so missing work is not an option for me (I don't work at McDonald's). I have serious responsibilities & it is BAAAD if I miss a day unscheduled. Well, he ALWAYS wanted me to call in, miss class, spend time with him AND my son on days I kinda needed time alone to bond with my not-yet-one-year-old. This became a problem for him - that I am such a BUSY woman.
The things he had once admired about me (my dedication, level of personal success, independence, etc.) became a HUGE problem; I couldn't do what he wanted WHEN he wanted. He began accusing me of all kinds of things (cheating, lying, stealing), waiting for me outside my job, calling me asking about background noises (dropped spoon, dishwasher, vacuum), asking me where I REALLY was when he'd called me at home. If I was at work, he wanted me to answer every time he called - meeting or no meeting. We would fight, he'd apologize, and we'd try to move on… This went on for about 8 months - he got increasingly possessive & demanding - before we started the break-up/get-back-together-cycle… He held things over my head (i.e. the shoes he gave my son for his B-day, the $10 he gave me to put in my gas tank, the $250 for my car note, etc.) I never asked him for anything, so I stopped taking. I figured he was troubled b/c losing one of your parents can cause major emotional issues… I didn't want to rock his boat even more. I thought I could stick it out and he would be okay after he got to a point where he could deal with it. Instead he said I was trying to shut him out and we fought even more, that I must be getting $$ from another man and I didn't love him.
I KNEW IT WAS OVER WHEN...
I was over his house and my company-furnished cell phone became the subject for an argument. He looked in my phone and started calling numbers (of co-workers) accusing me of cheating with these people.
He made me strip, stand in his garage naked

(it was cold as hell outside too) while he repeated obscenities to me. He held a gun in plain view, and doused the crotch of my pants with Listerine. He didn't give me my underwear back so when I did get my clothes back on (I only got my pants b/c he tore my shirt, glasses, and underwear up) things weren't so comfortable for me down there.

We fought over my car keys b/c he insisted on driving "the whore" (as I was called) home. He wanted to drive me home persoanlly so that I wouldn't go over my "other man's" house and tell him what had just happened to me...
It might've been nice if I'd had another man to call... so he could beat my ex's a%%!
Needless to say - I did not have any misty-fuzzy-sweet-candy-coated-memories of my ex this Christmas.

Ohhh drama. Never again.

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Conskeeted19 · #39 12-26-2000, 05:57 PM

OOOOOOgirl I cannot believe that. I would have left there running. I am glad that you are ok.

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novella000 · #40 12-26-2000, 06:28 PM

don't play!!! Girl, I wish I could setup a workshop..
-- HOW TO KNOW IF HE'S REALLY CRAZY, OR JUST HAVING PROBLEMS --
OR better...
-- HOW TO KNOW IF HE'S REALLY CRAZY, OR JUST HAVING PROBLEMS (and realizing that it's NOT YOUR PROBLEM) --

lol
sheesh

ManndingoNUPE · #41 12-26-2000, 06:37 PM

Standing nake in the garage? Damn. I can't mess with that one. Well I knew it was over months before we decided to call it off. But the last straw was the night she flipped on me when I asked her about something she did.
I came in earlier than her, and I cooked, not knowing she was coming over, she also cooked later on, and only washed her dishes. I was like sweety why not wash them all.

She flipped. I mean she did everthing but turn her head around 360 degrees and spit green pea soup. She definately could have given Linda Blair a run for her money. I was like, she has lost her mind. In my damn house. Now I love you and yes the sex is good, but I don't want to wake up in the morning with a knife in my back, or my "real Kane" cut off. So I had to let her go. Not too long after that, she had a nervous break down, and was hospitalized.

So she trully had some issues. I hope she is happy now.

MN

Inquisitive · #42 12-26-2000, 06:57 PM

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Originally posted by ManndingoNUPE:
Standing nake in the garage? Damn. I can't mess with that one. Well I knew it was over months before we decided to call it off. But the last straw was the night she flipped on me when I asked her about something she did.
I came in earlier than her, and I cooked, not knowing she was coming over, she also cooked later on, and only washed her dishes. I was like sweety why not wash them all.

She flipped. I mean she did everthing but turn her head around 360 degrees and spit green pea soup. She definately could have given Linda Blair a run for her money. I was like, she has lost her mind. In my damn house. Now I love you and yes the sex is good, but I don't want to wake up in the morning with a knife in my back, or my "real Kane" cut off. So I had to let her go. Not too long after that, she had a nervous break down, and was hospitalized.

So she trully had some issues. I hope she is happy now.

MN

ROTFLMAO@this post.

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Inquisitive · #43 12-26-2000, 07:05 PM

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Originally posted by novella000:
whew!! Good Lord help us! I am REALLY shaking my head at some of these posts!! Well... pull up a chair, I feel the need to vent!!!

My ex (or as my friends and family call him "The Crazy One") and I had a VERY ROCKY 10 or 11 months together. Our families were extremely close and so EVERYONE was really happy when we got together... One of his parents passed and shortly thereafter, we got together. He was helping me out a lot, as I am a single mom (not his child), & wanted us to be married -- almost from the jump. I felt swept off my feet, he helped with bills, spent time with my child, & basically did everything he was 'supposed' to do.
I was so happy.
He loved to spend time with me, wanted me to be happy, sacrificed things of himself... He did not work, but had plenty of money from investments and insurance. Since he had a lot of free time & I am a full time EVERYTHING, mom, student, worker (volunteer, & your standard Mon. through Fri.9-to-5). I am already in my profession, so missing work is not an option for me (I don't work at McDonald's). I have serious responsibilities & it is BAAAD if I miss a day unscheduled. Well, he ALWAYS wanted me to call in, miss class, spend time with him AND my son on days I kinda needed time alone to bond with my not-yet-one-year-old. This became a problem for him - that I am such a BUSY woman.
The things he had once admired about me (my dedication, level of personal success, independence, etc.) became a HUGE problem; I couldn't do what he wanted WHEN he wanted. He began accusing me of all kinds of things (cheating, lying, stealing), waiting for me outside my job, calling me asking about background noises (dropped spoon, dishwasher, vacuum), asking me where I REALLY was when he'd called me at home. If I was at work, he wanted me to answer every time he called - meeting or no meeting. We would fight, he'd apologize, and we'd try to move on… This went on for about 8 months - he got increasingly possessive & demanding - before we started the break-up/get-back-together-cycle… He held things over my head (i.e. the shoes he gave my son for his B-day, the $10 he gave me to put in my gas tank, the $250 for my car note, etc.) I never asked him for anything, so I stopped taking. I figured he was troubled b/c losing one of your parents can cause major emotional issues… I didn't want to rock his boat even more. I thought I could stick it out and he would be okay after he got to a point where he could deal with it. Instead he said I was trying to shut him out and we fought even more, that I must be getting $$ from another man and I didn't love him.
I KNEW IT WAS OVER WHEN...
I was over his house and my company-furnished cell phone became the subject for an argument. He looked in my phone and started calling numbers (of co-workers) accusing me of cheating with these people.
He made me strip, stand in his garage naked (it was cold as hell outside too) while he repeated obscenities to me. He held a gun in plain view, and doused the crotch of my pants with Listerine. He didn't give me my underwear back so when I did get my clothes back on (I only got my pants b/c he tore my shirt, glasses, and underwear up) things weren't so comfortable for me down there. We fought over my car keys b/c he insisted on driving "the whore" (as I was called) home. He wanted to drive me home persoanlly so that I wouldn't go over my "other man's" house and tell him what had just happened to me...
It might've been nice if I'd had another man to call... so he could beat my ex's a%%!
Needless to say - I did not have any misty-fuzzy-sweet-candy-coated-memories of my ex this Christmas.
Ohhh drama. Never again.

Huuuum, I understand that brotha man was financially set so to speak because of his investments and all so therefore he didn't really have to work. But Damn seems like he had a little bit too much time on his hands. Perhaps he should've gotton a lil side job just for the hell of it or maybe even gotton into some volunteering in his community. Something, anything to get his nose out of you you know what! Geees

NO MAN (WOMAN) IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WOULDN'T MAKE YOU CRY!

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Greek Cutie · #44 12-26-2000, 07:28 PM

Well, I knew it was over with the last four guys I dated when all they wanted was a piece of a@$. C'mon, it's not like they are going to get any after like 4 dates-Puhleezze!!! Now i am beginning to think that is what all guys want.

AKA2D '91 · #45 12-27-2000, 03:50 AM

ummmmmmmmm.

LOL