Missing recruitment - Page 3

MSKKG · #31 08-14-2003, 07:12 AM

I agree with everyone who says to go to the parties. When you pledge, if you have a niece, then she'll have a GLO connection (not quite a legacy, but pretty darned close)!

mmcat · #32 08-14-2003, 07:12 AM

i agree....based on what others have said, have a talk with your sister now, before her fun starts, keep her in the loop and then plan some time with her later on.

justamom · #33 08-14-2003, 07:41 AM

CHB-I think NOT!
Sweetie, lets look at the facts. First and most important, this is one of those "passages" all go through in life. Your sister is experiencing one and SO ARE YOU! This is YOUR time as well as hers and I would think she would understand that. Are you getting any pressure from the homefront?

Yes, there will be opportunities if you do not attend rush, but they will be sorely limited. It just wouldn't be in YOUR best interest to skip one single minute. You've heard from the "moms", you've heard from the actives, and as many have said, it boils down to what you want to do. I did not say THINK you SHOULD do...two different things. We get so caught up in trying to do what others expect us to do, or what we THINK we are expected to do that we put unfair demands on ourselves.

Moxie, if you weren't a sweetheart, this wouldn't even be a question in your mind. I honestly don't think your being there or not says ANYthing about the kind of "sister" you would be in a sorority. It's just one of those nagging questions that pull us away from confidence in our decisions. There will be so many firsts in OTHER people's lives that if we felt responsible to hail them all in, we may miss out on our OWN firsts. Go through rush. Be at peace with your decision. Part of growing IS making choices and this is just the first of many. ( The really TOUGH one will be the FIRST Christmas you spend away from home.

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33girl · #34 08-14-2003, 10:44 AM

Thank you DGMarie for giving us the info straight from the horse's mouth! (as it were)

Moxie, I will join the CHB club (duh, like I'm not the prez already) and say GO TO RUSH. If down the line you realize you missed the chance to do something you really wanted to do, it might just make you feel resentful, which of course is the complete opposite of what you want. I agree that when your sister is laying in the hospital recovering from her owwwwwww stitches, hearing about what everyone wore to rush will be a nice distraction from the pain and tiredness.

And FWIW, when my mom was in labor w/ me, my dad went back into his office (this was before the days of hubbies in the birthing room). Neither of us ever thought he was a bad dad because of it!!

pinkyphimu · #35 08-14-2003, 01:25 PM

i think that everyone has already given good advise. i will chime in with my own little story. three years ago, my nephew was born. orgionally his due date was in may...but i kept saying that he was going to be born on my birthday (end of june). it just so happens that i REFUSE to work on my bday, so i had taken that week as my vacation. tyler was born 2 days after my bday.

lisa went into labor in the morning and the family started showing up at the hospital after work. lisa literally, looked at everyone and said, "i am going in the bathroom and when i get back, you better be gone." lol. she was DRUGGED and does not remember kicking us all out! so now we were all stuck in a waiting room. at 9 o clock, they kicked everyone out but the grandparents. lisa ended up having an emergency c-section so the next few days were pretty painful for her. we basically went to the hospital and stayed with her for 20 mins or so and then left. there are tons of people to take care of her and the baby while she is in the hospital. i feel badly that i wasn't around to help when she got home. i know that my family and her family were there for her and that i was there in spirit.

oh, and my college roommate called me from the hospital on the day she had her baby. it was hilarious. she was soooooo still feeling the effects of drugs! she said, "i am just calling to say i had a baby." i said congrats and asked if everyone was ok. she said, "what was i talking about? oh, yeah, i had a girl." we only talked for maybe 5 minutes, but i knew that everyone was healthy and happy.

Buttonz · #36 08-14-2003, 01:37 PM

Add me to the CHB club

! Go to rush and then go home for a few days and help out....I think that it would mean more to your sister havign the help after...and keep her up to date with rush as a distraction to the pain. But talk to her beforehand. Let us know what you decide.

dzsaigirl · #37 08-14-2003, 01:50 PM

My mom is a labor and delivery nurse and from the stories she tells, everyone is right...You won't be able to do anything to really help her out until AFTER she comes home from the hospital. Plus, the nurses and doctors really don't like for the whole family to have a reunion in the room! They get in the way!

Don't get me wrong, I love my sister so much I could cry, but if I were you, I would go through rush, send her flowers, and promise to visit her when she gets home and do some lifting and other things that she can't do after a c-section. Or you could call Merry Maids and get her house cleaned for her or something...that would rock!

Go through rush. Find your home...and then visit your sister. Call her every day if she can take the calls! She will not hold it against you!

PsychTau · #38 08-14-2003, 03:13 PM

Well I feel like I'm qualified to jump in here now.....
I just woke up (at 1pm) after spending ALLLLLLLL NIGHT sitting in the hospital waiting for my nephew to be born. He's here!!! Everyone is doing great!!!! I saw my sister a few minutes when I first got there (that was BEFORE she got the epidural....lovely sight

) and then I sat in the waiting room the whole time. He was born at 6:17am and about an hour later we got to go in and see them for a few minutes. We couldn't hold him, just look at him, and was run out of there after 10-15 minutes. (My sister was induced because her BP was too high....wasn't completely planned.....and they wouldn't let us stay because they didn't want her to have any excitement so her BP would come down). I stayed because I wanted to visit with my mom, who lives 6 hours away. Otherwise, I wasn't really needed there. There were about 15 other family members there.
I'm apparently rambling......

I say have a good talk with your sister. Most likely you will be sitting in the waiting room all day and I'm afraid you will be upset/thinking about/kicking yourself about missing rush. She will be on the goofy meds (my sis was, and it was a normal delivery). I would say the best time to visit would be the next day or two when everyone is more awake and alert....and the weeks afterwards when the baby is REALLY awake all the time. Also, (don't flame me for saying this....it's my opinion, not fact) the aunt isn't the highest person on the visitor priority list. You've got the grandparents and great grandparents who get first priority on holding him/her, etc.

JAM has good advice also....do what YOU WANT, not what you think you should do. I've fallen into that trap many times with my family, it's a hard one to avoid. Talk with your sister, think of some really thoughtful things to do for her after the delivery (my mom brought my sister Krispy Kreme donuts from OKC because we don't have them here...), and do what's right for you.

Good Luck!!!
(dang I type alot when I haven't had any sleep!!!)
PsychTau

AOII_LB93 · #39 08-15-2003, 04:02 PM

So what is the verdict? Are you going through or going to be with your sister?

BTW add me to the now long list of CHBs.

CutiePie2000 · #40 08-15-2003, 04:13 PM

I don't mean to be harsh, but I'd skip the C-Section and see your sister after the baby is born. I have 9 nieces and nephews...Mom is usually resting for a few days after the birth.

I say this because you are rushing at LSU, yes? I know of women who did not rush in their freshman year at competitive schools and wish that they did. Generally, you have your best shot at rush as a freshman, particularly at competitive schools.

Put it this way, if you can learn from an oldster, I love being a DG alumna initiate, but I will always regret that I did not have the collegiate experience. Please learn from this!

GO TO RUSH.... I MEAN IT!

Thanks....

justamom · #41 08-15-2003, 04:22 PM

Well, I guess this proves it!
GC is nothing but a bunch of CHBs!

I'm with AOII_LB93, WHAT'S THE VERDICT?????

#42 08-15-2003, 04:24 PM

add me tot he CHB club! Your sister and your family should understand how hard you have beenpreparing for this one moment in time and from another GC sister who had a C Section you wont be in their much at all to do anything for your sister because it is only the husband father of.... that is in their.

Jill1228 · #43 08-15-2003, 06:51 PM

Y'all think we are gonna have to roll up there and drag her ass to recruitment????

DON'T MAKE US COME GET YOU!

Honorary Diva of the Chi Eta Beta sorority (CHB)

Moxie · #44 08-15-2003, 07:06 PM

sorry, i've been out of town for a couple of days. ok, ok, I'm going to the parties!!! thank you all for the lovely opinions and for caring! i guess i'll have a rush thread soon - whee =)

SmartBlondeGPhB · #45 08-15-2003, 07:30 PM

YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was just about to add myself to the CHB club and you already decided.

But, I second what everyone else has said. I was in the hospital for something similar to a C-section and have VERY little memory of the day of surgery due to the drugs. I could have cared less who was there, and I was pissed when they kept waking me up.