Have you ever heard another sorority be catty about yours? - Page 3

astroAPhi · #31 06-23-2003, 11:53 AM

We actually have a harder time with the guys instead of the girls. According to them:

Alpha Phi = fat
XYZ = b****ches
ABC (new local) = doesn't matter anyway, because they're not going to last.

One fraternity in particular got up and portrayed this and said these things in their Greek Week skit. And they wonder why we don't speak to them.

sueali · #32 06-23-2003, 11:53 AM

we generally have the highest GPA out of all the sororities and during rush we had other chapters telling the new members all we do is study, that we are the smart sorority, which isn't a bad reputation to have but it really turned some girls off. Plus chapters should be focusing on their own chapter not bad mouthing others during rush

CutiePie2000 · #33 06-23-2003, 12:21 PM

I won't be popular for saying this, but women talking trash about other women is the "not so nice" part of our human nature, I am afraid. I am not saying that it's "right", it just *is*.
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/...20020424.jhtml
They discussed this on Oprah a while ago, and was very interesting. "Odd Girl Out" by Rachel Simmons was the book that addressed this.

Sela Ward even spoke of her experiences:
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/...020515_b.jhtml

astroAPhi · #34 06-23-2003, 01:13 PM

No, I completely agree with you. Human nature isn't pretty. I think we'd have to be kidding ourselves to say that it doesn't happen on every campus and even within our own chapters.

I just think the difference is whether or not you can keep a stupid comment to yourself, or whether you perpetuate cruel stereotypes. If you think that one chapter is full of snotty girls, fine, that's your own perogative. But don't go telling everyone on campus how ABC is full of snobs, etc. It's called tact.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #35 06-23-2003, 01:55 PM

Oh man..we're not even a recognized sorority yet and we get trashed quite frequently!

Case in point...

I was sitting in class next to some girls from another sorority well, on my desk on of my girls and scribbled our letters on the top. I moved my book in such a way that it was visible to them by accident. Well, one of them was sitting behind me and said, "Oh my gawd, they are so stupid." and rolled her eyes. I giggled and told her I was apart of it and was actually the head of it, lol!! Once again, her expression was priceless!

justamom · #36 06-23-2003, 02:03 PM

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Originally posted by astroAPhi
No, I completely agree with you. Human nature isn't pretty. I think we'd have to be kidding ourselves to say that it doesn't happen on every campus and even within our own chapters.

Too true, too true! All you have to do is think about a cut session and see the uglier side of human nature...

I just think that there is a line that should not be crossed, (YES THERE IS A THREAD ON THIS!!!

) rush/recruitment is one of those times that stiff penalties should be leveled. Also-it's one thing to take a jab at your competition it's quite another to kick someone when they are down.

I wonder, AND I REALLY MEAN THIS, I wonder how many of the top tier sororities on any given campus DON'T hold the rep of being snotty AND in actuality ARE snotty? (stay with me here) Now if they ARE snots, why would they attract the All-American girl? Wouldn't they perpetuate the image by who the attract and keep? If there is any truth to the above statement, then one could think that people WANT to associate with snots and that is a desirable description. Or, do the masses call any group ranked "above" them- for lack of a better term- snots???

OUlioness01 · #37 06-23-2003, 02:08 PM

yes i have, my best friend was told by a member of another chapter that she and the rest of my chapter were all fat. i told the girl exactly what i thought about it, and all the guys at the party we were both at overheard backed me up, even though her little brother was a member of that particular chapter. i'm not saying that my chapter doesn't sometimes act catty, but as far as i know a member of my chapter has never directly said something about another chapter to a member of that chapter.

dzandiloo · #38 06-23-2003, 02:34 PM

You know what's almost as bad as hearing another group rip on your sorority? Being the president of your sorority & receiving a call from the pledge trainer of the other sorority on campus, telling you that several of her pledges heard some of your pledges singing a song in the Greek store near campus that was very disparaging of them (and they had ended up calling their pledge trainer in tears). She wouldn't give me any names (although I know she knew all of our pledges b/c she would have known them from rush), but still, I have never been so angry at my sisters for (a) being stupid enough to teach those songs to new members (btw, I hate those songs, no matter who is singing them) and (b) for being so classless as to actually sing them in a public place where they would absolutely be heard by members of other organizations!

The funny thing is, that we were usually the butt of their rude/unflattering comments, so it was very hard for me to not say "see how it feels?" The actives who taught the song to the pledges were disciplined, and the entire pledge class was counseled to watch the way they portray the group/treat others as you would like to be treated...all of them responded that they had heard similar things from the other group & thought it was fair game.made me feel horrible. Of course, of all the times I had heard such things from the other group's members, it had never occurred to me to call their president...after that incident, I wondered why they should expect us to treat them any differently than they treated us? Fortunately, we didn't have any more incidents like that while I was there (although the other group still made publicly disparaging comments about us).

Women can definitely be beeyatchs.

sugar and spice · #39 06-23-2003, 02:43 PM

If you're going to make catty comments about other sororities, to me the ONLY even remotely acceptable place to do it is to your sisters where there is NO chance of being overheard by anyone else. I'd prefer not to hear it at all, but if you're going to do it anyway, some places are better than others. It's just tacky to make comments like that in a place where you could be overheard by a member of the sorority in question, or by a non-Greek (in which case, congratulations! you've just perpetuated the stereotype that sorority girls are b*tchy!). And I can't even imagine these sororities talking trash during rush! Even in my overly catty Greek system, that wouldn't be acceptable.