Phi Mu resigned membership over 'nipple' swimsuit top

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by APhiLife

My personal take is that the top is in bad taste- but I don't think that posting a picture of it on a personal site should have affected her membership status.

Originally Posted by AZTheta

It was a PRIVATE Instagram account. She wasn't throwing a Phi Mu sign, or doing anything else that would reflect on Phi Mu. None of us are on "Theta/ChiO/Kappa/DG etc" time 24/7/365. Don't even go there. Please.

FWIW, 33girl, I'm of the same opinion as you on the solo cups. Ridiculous. And we all have "those sisters" who do stuff that make us groan. Whatever.

Bottom line: unless Phi Mu wants to enforce its policy on every.single.member, this was a hollow, hypocritical statement.

Personal opinion: ugly, tacky top, but she has the right to waste her $ however she chooses.

Let he who is without sin...

Don't need to add much more. I also find the top (and pretty much everything supported by Miley Cyrus) tacky to the extreme, but I would have preferred that she had seen which disciplinary actions would have resulted, rather than just throwing away a lifetime of sorority membership.

[jolene]

Agree, HC. Of course no one truly knows the deets, but I can't imagine throwing away a lifetime of sisterhood for a tacky swimsuit top.

PS: yay! I have my old username back. My banning was a woops.

[zbxo]

So I have to put my advisor hat on for this on. Just because it is a private page doesn't necessarily matter. We hold our active members to standards and rules and many chapters (mine included) monitor members pages. Nude pictures or a sex video could be on a private page or account but a member involved in that situation would be called in for a meeting. I am not saying that the tacky top is the same but private is not the same as when I went to school when it comes to kids that now have to worry about technology. And the fact that it is a conservative school could make some difference. We also know nothing about the member and her relationship to the chapter. Perhaps she is constantly called in for questionable behavior and actions? Revocation of membership is a big deal. It won't happen over one incident with a tacky bikini top. Those of us who are or have been standards and personnel advisors know that there is most likely much more to this story...

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by zbxo

We also know nothing about the member and her relationship to the chapter. Perhaps she is constantly called in for questionable behavior and actions? Revocation of membership is a big deal. It won't happen over one incident with a tacky bikini top. Those of us who are or have been standards and personnel advisors know that there is most likely much more to this story...

It's pure speculation, but the same thought did occur to me.

[amIblue?]

I got a slight sniff of fame whore after reading this article again. It's not like Phi Mu ran to People. It says she voluntarily resigned. What I surmise from that is that rather than go to a standards conference when school is back in session, she resigned. I don't know, but I'm sure that Phi Mu operates similarly to my org in that getting called into standards doesn't always equal consequences.

Yes, it was set to private, but most of my collegiate girls have friends/followers in the hundreds if not thousands. Questionable pics get shared around campus like the bird flu.

I think this whole stupid thing (and it is stupid and tacky) could have been handled differently, but I would have advised my VPS to call her in to have a chat about it if women in the chapter were concerned about it.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

I got a slight sniff of fame whore after reading this article again.

Personally, I needed a gas mask, but YMMV.

[zmv]

Tbh: there has to be more to this story than "wear a bathing suit -> told to go to standards board -> resign" people just don't resign over things like that. Although then again I'm surprised when people threaten to resign for any sort of things that aren't epic levels of sisterhood betrayal or a serious conflict in beliefs/values.