Greek Families

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by kaylaxlove

And I'm just one person...if it was something that I truly felt was detrimental, I would be willing to step up and challenge our entire Greek community, but it's not. If it ever even begins to cause problems, I can assure everyone here that I will make moves to end it.

Here's what it might be helpful to understand. You're in college and your experience is with your campus. If you say it's working without drama, we have no reason to doubt you on that.

Many if not most of the people looking askance at this idea are alumni, some of whom have experience in some form or another with numerous campuses and who have seen things like this cause problems. Many of us also have some experience with how our HQs have reacted to similar things in the past and tend to look at this in more institutional terms.

You're coming at it from a local, "it's working fine" perspective, and that's understandable. Many of us are coming at it from a fraternity or sorority-wide, "we've seen what can happen" perspective.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by kaylaxlove

First of all, it's not a little brother-little sister type thing. How it works is this: (and I'll discuss Fiji, because that's what I know) when a Fiji is chosen as a pledge dad, he chooses someone to be his pledge sons' pledge mom.

Second of all, I don't want to argue anymore. lol

I wasn't arguing, I was asking a question (that didn't really get answered).

But to just to let you know, basically saying in one post that all you know is how one fraternity does this, and in the next post assuring us that it doesn't hurt the larger Greek community at all...it kind of doesn't go together.

[kaylaxlove]

As far as your question, 33girl, you're correct, I didn't answer it--I apologize.

It's an individual thing--it's not based on what chapter you are a member of. In my chapter, we have pledge moms from Fiji, Beta, Delt, Sig and I'm sure there are more. I know Fiji pledge moms span at least five out of seven houses.

What I'm saying is that I've never heard anyone say anything negative about it. It's not a huge deal on our campus--it happens but it's not something that you run around and tell everyone and brag about...it just is. It's not even a major tradition--if someone came in and put a stop to it--everyone would be like "oh...okay." It's just a minor thing that we do.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by kaylaxlove

What I'm saying is that I've never heard anyone say anything negative about it. It's not a huge deal on our campus--it happens but it's not something that you run around and tell everyone and brag about...it just is. It's not even a major tradition--if someone came in and put a stop to it--everyone would be like "oh...okay." It's just a minor thing that we do.

We did something similar on my campus...your big asked one of her male friends or boyfriend in a fraternity to be your "pledge dad". Almost every chapter did this. I had pledge "sons" in three different fraternities, so technically they had some sort of relation, but nobody really cared. It mainly meant that I bought them something with my letters, got them drunk on pledge mom night, and then they could call me if they needed a date to something.

That said, it's a risk management nightmare waiting to happen, and our HQ told us to stop.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Given how unglued sorority members seem to become over big/little relationships and issues in this day and age, I can't imagine anything like this happening without drama.

I don't know of any national or international NPC groups who would be down with this type of thing, including the OP's.