would dating a non-virgin bother you?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Amen to this. Though I will say I've pushed for an STD screen before with a bf that had slept with triple digits (which I highly suspect was an inflated number, but based on the # of girls at our school alone, it was worth the check).

Then again, I'm careful about that sort of thing, period. I refuse to catch something just because the other person doesn't take their health seriously, cause I'm serious about mine. But as far as I'm concerned, that's the only way in which their prior sex life effects me and the relationship. And the same applies the other way around. My business is my business.

Prior to Live-in and before we moved in together, I was screened regularly. He was, too. Didn't matter the number at all. This reminds me that when I set up my next appointment I should get screened again just in case.

[cheerfulgreek]

Honestly, I don't ask. I just wait for it to eventually come out. Personally, when it comes to dating, I'm very transparent and I expect the same from the man I am dating. I also don't think anything is wrong with a guy who may have slept with a lot of women, it's just that he wouldn't be the guy for me. I have a standard, and I've never apologized to guys I've dated for keeping a standard, instead, I let it be my guidepost. I just think it's important to separate my options and decide (when dating) if the man standing before me is conducive to how I see my life moving forward. If he's more of a distraction than an asset and is causing me to stray from my course, then I'll end it and move on. A guy with a high number of sexual partners is a distraction and not an asset for me. On the flip side of that, just because he is not the one for me does not make him a bad person, nor does it mean he will not be perfect for someone else. I just think that sex was designed to be a response to love, not a foundation for it. Pretty much the cement and seal of an already established relationship.

It also aggravates me when couples try to compare what they accept in the opposite sex to what other couples accept and do not accept. Be happy with you and yours. Not everyone has the same personal preferences. IMO, I just think that it helps when people have similar backgrounds and share complimentary goals and values. Two becoming one is a lot easier to achieve when both parties are walking in the same direction. So, what might work really well with one couple may not work well with another.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by foonette

Just wondering, if you dated a girl you knew had hooked up with a bunch of guys before would you still date her? i find it really disgusting TBH, but everyone tells me to get over it...sigh

http://youtu.be/WEeKcG1p2GI

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

http://youtu.be/WEeKcG1p2GI

[AGDee]

If I met a man who was in my dating age range who was a virgin, I'd run as fast I could in the other direction. Scary, scary thought.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

If I met a man who was in my dating age range who was a virgin, I'd run as fast I could in the other direction. Scary, scary thought.

[FHwku]

Originally Posted by foonette

Just wondering, if you dated a girl you knew had hooked up with a bunch of guys before would you still date her? i find it really disgusting TBH, but everyone tells me to get over it...sigh

i don't know any virgins. it'd probably be easier to find a unicorn.

and hump it.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FHwku

i don't know any virgins. it'd probably be easier to find a unicorn.

and hump it.

I assume (hope) you mean the back of the unicorn and not the front. Hell of a Freudian slip there, dude.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by FHwku

i don't know any virgins. it'd probably be easier to find a unicorn.

and hump it.

lol

[DrPhil]

Everyone has dealbreakers. This is why women and men should keep their number of sexual partners to themselves and instead focus on being mentally and physically "clean." Wrap it up, get STD checks, make sure you are not having sex because you feel emotionally deficient without sex. Handle all of that and you won't have to wear your sexual partners on your sleeve. How I feel about that doesn't change whether you have 1 sexual partner or 2,000 sexual partners.

That's why I think it's dumb when couples ask about each other's sexual partners. Men are more likely to ask this of women than the other way around.

Once you release personal information like number of sexual partners to others you are giving others the ability to judge and treat you accordingly. Don't want to be judged and treated a certain way? Give people no choice but to mind their own business. The fictional Samantha Jones gets the same response from me whether it's a woman or a man. That response is "shut up about it already, you're beginning to sound insecure rather than sexually liberated. Don't want people to frown, stop telling us about your sex."

[BluPhire]

Okay since this thread hasn't died I will share.

I had a girl who was feeling me and we were cool, overhear me say something similar to what PB said (I was young then.) She made the confession once that in her youth she participated in a three-some.

So I ask, what would you have done after hearing that information?

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Okay since this thread hasn't died I will share.

I had a girl who was feeling me and we were cool, overhear me say something similar to what PB said (I was young then.) She made the confession once that in her youth she participated in a three-some.

So I ask, what would you have done after hearing that information?

Me personally, that wouldn't be any different than having multiple partners...provided they're clean and healthy and responsible (no patience for people that don't even have the sense to go buy a condom at the drug store). However I'm a girl (so it's a flipped scenario)...and while threesomes aren't my scene, I've dated a couple of people that had had one. As long as they don't expect me to do the same, whatever.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Okay since this thread hasn't died I will share.

I had a girl who was feeling me and we were cool, overhear me say something similar to what PB said (I was young then.) She made the confession once that in her youth she participated in a three-some.

So I ask, what would you have done after hearing that information?

I would have filed it for later, used it against her to leverage a 3-way for ourselves, then secretly held it against her for years (because my own insecurity proved unassuaged by putting myself into the position I disliked). After years, it would bubble up, mostly in passive-aggressive bullshit. Eventually, it would boil over and cause a messy divorce, needlessly affecting the lives of our young children.

Or did you mean, what would I do right that second?

[saxywalrus]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I would have filed it for later, used it against her to leverage a 3-way for ourselves, then secretly held it against her for years (because my own insecurity proved unassuaged by putting myself into the position I disliked). After years, it would bubble up, mostly in passive-aggressive bullshit. Eventually, it would boil over and cause a messy divorce, needlessly affecting the lives of our young children.

Or did you mean, what would I do right that second?

I just spat water all over my computer.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Okay since this thread hasn't died I will share.

I had a girl who was feeling me and we were cool, overhear me say something similar to what PB said (I was young then.) She made the confession once that in her youth she participated in a three-some.

So I ask, what would you have done after hearing that information?

lol
what happened with the girl? Did you two get together?