Rush...superficial?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

"it's a normal common part of the human condition"

I didn't think you really wanted one.

Thanks for your opinion.

I wasn't making a "statement of poor regard."

[AnotherKD]

She's not 18 anyways. But, since the OP is coming from Russia, she may think that you have to be a certain way in order to be in a fraternity or sorority. OP, hopefully, since you've read these threads that have been posted in years past, you will see that everyone has a different personality. In one sorority on one college campus alone, you may have a few people who are focused on looks, a few focused on grades, a few focused on partying, and a few focused on Harry Potter or the color blue or playing with LEGOs. My point is, the simple answer to your question is no. Sororities are not completely superficial.

That being said, do not show up to rush wearing dirty jeans and an old t-shirt. Look nice, be positive, and start your day with a smile. Your personality will be more important than the way you look, anyways. Don't worry about not looking like a model. If you're confident and friendly, that will go much further than if you have this season's Gucci purse.

[Titchou]

Actaully, "looks" do matter - but not the kind you are talking about. If you are the most beautiful girl going thru but don't stand up straight, can't look someone in the eye while talking with them, can't form a complete sentence and are sloppily dressed, you aren't going to make it. However, if you are more on the plain side but stand erect, look confident, talk sincerely with the women you meet and have a pleasant demeaner, you'll go very far!

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Actaully, "looks" do matter - but not the kind you are talking about. If you are the most beautiful girl going thru but don't stand up straight, can't look someone in the eye while talking with them, can't form a complete sentence and are sloppily dressed, you aren't going to make it. However, if you are more on the plain side but stand erect, look confident, talk sincerely with the women you meet and have a pleasant demeaner, you'll go very far!

Nicely put.

[AnotherKD]

Exactly as I was saying. Could you imagine us saying that looks don't really matter, as long as you're confident and look nice and you're friendly, and then the PNM shows up in ripped jeans, Crocs, and a dingy "Frankie Says Relax" t-shirt? I'd certainly be amused.

[bear_down]

Oh, and don't do anything dumb beforehand. You don't want to be known as "that Russian chick who got so drunk at the fraternity party that she ____"