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DeltaBetaBaby · #31 09-30-2001, 08:04 PM

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Originally posted by lifesaver

I was helping our new members carry the letters back up to campus today (they had been in my truck since last night after our intramural football game) and I am carrying the Lambda. Some jack ass actually thinks hes funny and tells me, "You got that letter upside down." as he's laughing with his looser quad freak buddies. I had this urge to beat the hell outta him. I dunno why but I wanted to. (It also helped that our two biggest toughest new members were the ones helping me.) So I walk over there (the guy was bigger than me) and get in his face and tell him, "That might have been funny if I hadnt heard it before."

Pardon me, but I don't get it? Wouldn't an upside-down lambda be a V? What does that mean? Could someone please fill me in?

lifesaver · #32 09-30-2001, 10:41 PM

Yes it would be. I was carrying it like it was the lambda, but the fool thought he'd make a funny that wasnt very. Idiots who dont know the greek alphabet often make that joke.

lifesaver · #33 10-19-2001, 06:45 PM

So it had to happen again, but this time I put my foot down. All ya'll were right. She is using me as her surrogate boyfriend. I love her, but I need to establish some boundaries.

So Beth has been flirting with one of my closest brothers, Nathan. they kissed a few times, but nothing sreious. Last Tuesday I ask Beth whats up with her and Nate. She tells me "nothing, I dont see anything coming of it. I've already moved on." So I leave it at that. Well, last friday, Amy (a good friend of mine and the chapter presidents real life little sister, age 20) is hanging out with all of us and asks me if Nate is involved with Beth. I tell her no, which is what Beth told me. So they kiss later that evening. Nothing more, then Saturday night we all go out and Beth asks me if they had kissed. I never lie to Beth, but I should have. i told her, I dont know but probably. She hit the roof. Her whole domeanor changed. She turned into a complete bitch, and startch bitching and expecting me to be her emotional rescurer. She tells me, "thats wrong of Amy to do that." and "So what if I wasnt interested, thats besides the point." And "You had no rite to tell Amy my business." I finally put my foot down and told her "listen, be mad at yourself, not me. If you couldnt deal with your emotions properly, and admitt that you liked him, you are the one that created this situation. DONT turn into a complete chick on me now. If you are gonna be bitchy all night and pout, you can go home now. I am out to have fun and am not gonna spend my night carressing your ego and solving your problems."

So she pouts the rest of the night, I ignore her till we get back to my place at 3am and I hear her in the shower crying. I dont need her drama. She had since lost her keys so she had to have a friend pick her up. I also find out she confronted Amy with, "Amy, Dont be that girl. You know the one who kisses other girls' guys." Amy was like, "Are ya'll together?" and Beth said "Thats not the point." they went through this drill 5 times. I think it was really messed up foir Beth to have confronted her at the party like that. I know Beth is going through a rough time, but there is a point where I have to fish or cut bait, and i have chosen to cut bait. I am tired of her drama. I love her and always will, but hanging out with Amy in the recent I have been a lot happier, and had a lot of fun. I think beth feels her terretory has been usurped. But she drove me away. Maybe we just need some time apart. I did get the following email from her the next day (its long and boring and has Estrogen written all over it):

"I hated hated hated Saturday night! I know that I said that the Nate thing with h-i-s-t-o-r-y that was and is how I feel-- I did not like the kid at some higher obscure level do not get me wrong, So apparently I was born with or aquired some kind of curse as to do with men... but what the f**k he hooks up with this girl who I thought was cool on my freakin turf (your apartment).... no, mamma is not even close to down with that... hook up with who you please.... I do not give a f**k but not on my turf, ever... I just need to get a new scene and stop hanging out with the party crowd!"

Ya'll wanna know what part I heard? "I hated saturday night." After that it was Charlie Browns teacher. "Wah, wah wah wah wah." Point is I am moving on to healthier relationships. Just thought I'd share.

DeltaBetaBaby · #34 10-19-2001, 08:06 PM

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Originally posted by lifesaver
So it had to happen again, but this time I put my foot down. All ya'll were right. She is using me as her surrogate boyfriend. I love her, but I need to establish some boundaries.

Point is I am moving on to healthier relationships. Just thought I'd share.

Good for you! Women are nothing but trouble!

TigerGirl52 · #35 10-19-2001, 08:29 PM

Good for you lifesaver. I'm glad you put your foot down. Hopefully before it is too late she will change her outlook and attitude. She obviously isn't aware that she's going to lose a really good friend. I have to agree with deltabeta and say...we're nothing but trouble!!!!!!! LOL.

Allison

AlphaChiS2K · #36 10-19-2001, 11:39 PM

Lifesaver-
Good NESS, this girl needs a swift kick in the butt! Does she know that she is 23 years old? Is she aware that she is behaving like a three-year-old ("That's MINE!")? Even if she's not playing with it, she doesn't want anyone else to have it...

So glad you are extracting yourself from this unhealthy situation... I'm also from the South (SC) so I understand the chivalry that is so ingrained in so many of you young men

. But you're right, being a supportive friend to her (or what she defines as a supportive friend) is coming at the cost of your well-being and happiness.

As a psych major, I see serious codependency issues... get out while you can

James · #37 10-20-2001, 12:27 AM

Seriously man, Call block the girl and don't Call her. Wow.

Like Alphachi said above, co dependency issues, so many issues she needs a magazine rack to hold them all . . . and she's not even sleeping with you to abuse you like that . . .

Sigh

justamom · #38 10-20-2001, 10:31 AM

lifesaver-I'm shaking my head in disbelief that you would even associate with a girl like that. Honey, she is pure trash. (Gawd I hope you don't end up with her after I said that or you will hate me for expressing it)
Just a few thoughts-
You SOUND like you are ready for a relationship, want to have closeness to someone special. Often, it turns out you KNOW in your heart you haven't found the right one so you focus on something unattainable or out of sync with your real desires so you are safe FROM commitment till the real thing comes along.

Where does Nate stand in all this? Is he a skunk and using both these girls? That can lead to a circle of unrequited love.

James is right BLOCK HER. It sounds like you are stuck in a pattern and that's hard to break unless you take active measures.
(Does she REALLY talk that way? Is that the kind of women you would be proud to accompany you throughout your LIFE?)

I have known many women who could get a man to do ANYTHING for her. I never had that "gift" and never understood how or why-it just was. In all cases I can recall, it ended badly. The girl was never satisfied and after using her "friends" up, moved on.

Stay firm in your resolve. PLEASE don't let her "charms" (!?!) lure you back. Your level of intelligence, polish and may I assume aspirations begs for a woman who you can trust and share a FUTURE with, not just a few "magic moments" that are followed by pain. You are better than that.

James · #39 10-20-2001, 03:20 PM

Seriously, hold out for sex. No sex, no more emotional coddling.

A lot of women who are emotionally unavailable will use the old "friend" routine. There is no risk for them. So they use the sublimated sexual tension to get a lot of the emotional nurturing that a standard relationship is supposed to provide from a male that is either dysfunctional enough, inexperienced enough, or has low enough self esteem to fall prey.

Its a tired and boring pattern of human beahvior . . . but oh so predictable. I will say one thing. Nothing is more tedious and boring than meeting people like that. And I despise people that are boring in self destructive ways. *Yawn*

Miami1839 · #40 10-20-2001, 03:49 PM

Ditto James. Girls who use men suck.

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Originally posted by James
Seriously, hold out for sex. No sex, no more emotional coddling.

A lot of women who are emotionally unavailable will use the old "friend" routine. There is no risk for them. So they use the sublimated sexual tension to get a lot of the emotional nurturing that a standard relationship is supposed to provide from a male that is either dysfunctional enough, inexperienced enough, or has low enough self esteem to fall prey.

Its a tired and boring pattern of human beahvior . . . but oh so predictable. I will say one thing. Nothing is more tedious and boring than meeting people like that. And I despise people that are boring in self destructive ways. *Yawn*

KillarneyRose · #41 10-20-2001, 04:28 PM

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Originally posted by James
A lot of women who are emotionally unavailable will use the old "friend" routine. There is no risk for them. So they use the sublimated sexual tension to get a lot of the emotional nurturing that a standard relationship is supposed to provide from a male that is either dysfunctional enough, inexperienced enough, or has low enough self esteem to fall prey.

I was like that with a few relationships back in college, but then I grew up. Lifesaver, just jump off the boat and swim away as quickly as possible 'cause ain't no good gonna come of this situation!