University of Mississippi - Ole Miss 2014 Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment

[DGTess]

Helicopter moms.
Clinging vine daughters.
Legacies.
Rush.

You do the math.

Silence period has always stymied me, but then my brain simply has a hard time wrapping itself around letting someone else influence one's decisions.

[ElvisLover]

Here's some unsolicited advice to all the moms who have daughters going through at OM, as well as to the PNMs: if you must answer an alum who's pestering you for details, just say that you're having a great rush and will tell them all about it when it's over. Actives have been known to play dirty as well by texting the PMN, asking which house she preffed 1st on her list. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but it does happen. I would advise every PNM to put a lock on their phone where their roommate can't see any information texted to moms, etc. I told my daughter to tell her roommate and anyone else who asked that she couldn't remember which one she put first. It worked. Less is best. Word gets around campus way faster now due to texting.

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by ElvisLover

if you must answer an alum who's pestering you for details, just say that you're having a great rush and will tell them all about it when it's over.

Another option is to tell everyone they're your favorite. But not answering your phone is probably the best option.

Do text messages have auto-responders? THAT would be helpful. Everyone could get an auto-response: I am currently participating in sorority rush at Ole Miss and through this week I will not be taking any calls or texts. The people most important to you will understand and wait for your return call/text.

I'm a GENIUS!!!

[Stellastar1]

Originally Posted by ElvisLover

Here's some unsolicited advice to all the moms who have daughters going through at OM, as well as to the PNMs: if you must answer an alum who's pestering you for details, just say that you're having a great rush and will tell them all about it when it's over. Actives have been known to play dirty as well by texting the PMN, asking which house she preffed 1st on her list. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but it does happen. I would advise every PNM to put a lock on their phone where their roommate can't see any information texted to moms, etc. I told my daughter to tell her roommate and anyone else who asked that she couldn't remember which one she put first. It worked. Less is best. Word gets around campus way faster now due to texting.

More great advice! I would say Ole Miss rush is a great experience but not for the weak at heart, or young ladies with low self esteem. Regardless of what anyone says, it is a different recruitment from ANY other school. Some alumnae and mothers alike are OVER the top during this week. But the wonderful end is, most find a home and life long friends/sisters. In the end, it is all worth it! The trick is to not listen to tent talk, keep your options open and have an open mind.
Just returned from first home game! Lots of excited young ladies. I hear the total is close to 1600 PNMs. Will be a great rush for all of the sororities!

[ElvisLover]

The uncivil part of it comes into play probably because OM has the reputation as all things lovely and proper, while, in reality, their recruitment is "nice-to-your-face and then cut you before you're out the door." Whereas, at other schools across the country, recruitment might be conducted in a less phony manner. A lot of Southern women have enmity just below the surface, but are adept at cloaking it in graciousness.

[als463]

Originally Posted by ElvisLover

The uncivil part of it comes into play probably because OM has the reputation as all things lovely and proper, while, in reality, their recruitment is "nice-to-your-face and then cut you before you're out the door." Whereas, at other schools across the country, recruitment might be conducted in a less phony manner. A lot of Southern women have enmity just below the surface, but are adept at cloaking it in graciousness.

That's the one thing I really miss about living up north. At least in PA, NY, NJ and a bunch of other northern places, you already know how someone feels about you because they don't try to cloak it in anything. Instead, people will tell you to go "....." yourself so, you are well aware of how they feel without trying to play a guessing game.

[FSUZeta]

Those of us from the south know the nuances, so the "civility" doesn't fool us often. It's like the difference between the two most popular uses of "Bless her heart", which can be used to show sympathy or to show no mercy.

[als463]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Those of us from the south know the nuances, so the "civility" doesn't fool us often. It's like the difference between the two most popular uses of "Bless her heart", which can be used to show sympathy or to show no mercy.

It's so funny you use this example as I have been discussing this with my southern friends. I told them I'll be super offended if they use that statement with me. Thanks to GC, I know better.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Those of us from the south know the nuances, so the "civility" doesn't fool us often. It's like the difference between the two most popular uses of "Bless her heart", which can be used to show sympathy or to show no mercy.

THIS^^^ Yes, usually I really am being sympathetic with the phrase but sometimes the claws are extended!

Originally Posted by als463

It's so funny you use this example as I have been discussing this with my southern friends. I told them I'll be super offended if they use that statement with me. Thanks to GC, I know better.

Yep, it's all about context.

[ElvisLover]

Also, Moms, make sure your daughter knows to get out of earshot of ANYONE when she calls you with details. I know that's hard to do, but it's possible.

[33girl]

This may be the time for code words and pig Latin!

[olemisspnm2014]

Thanks so much for clearing this up! I just wanted to know if there were things to look out for because I heard certain things but I will try to relax.

[SWTXBelle]

Ladies,
Just a reminder that Ole Miss has VERY strict silence rules - I'd hate for pnm (or an alumna!) to get in trouble for violating them. PNMs, I'd bet you can find answers for most of your questions here by doing a through search.

[als463]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Ladies,
Just a reminder that Ole Miss has VERY strict silence rules - I'd hate for pnm (or an alumna!) to get in trouble for violating them. PNMs, I'd bet you can find answers for most of your questions here by doing a through search.

Good point. I'll be honest and say that in the 10 years I've been a member of my sorority, I never heard of or realized there was a rule like this put in place at Ole Miss. Now, I'm pretty Panhellenic and would not say nasty things about other GLOs on campus but, I get it. I just didn't even think much of it.

[olemisspnm2014]

Sorry sorry and thanks for the reminder! I didn't mean it like that and it slipped my mind that posting on this website could violate that. I'll refrain from posting until rush is over.