How in the world did my daughter get cut?!

[northerngrl]

I did get cut yesterday. and I know it sounds like the same thing everyone says, I have a four pt gpa, I was in athletics and performing arts, everyone at rush told me that they cant wait to see me back.I even had girls introducing me to their friends telling them to remember my name...one girls even said i was her crush this week...yet today..cut,cut, cut,cut...I had recs for every house I was cut for and I never mentioned the 5 things not to talk about. I have wanted to be in a sorority since I could say the word.
I actually got excited from hearing the girls singing and cheering...now what? I cant cry anymore, and I cant tell my friends at other schools who are in houses...now I hear the once cut always cut so I do not know if I should rush again. It is easy to be so cheerful once you make it in...but not so easy to feel like a piece of shit for really no reason that any one can tell me.I wish with all my heart that i knew how you feel...just try to walk in my shoes today

[33girl]

Originally Posted by northerngrl

I did get cut yesterday. and I know it sounds like the same thing everyone says, I have a four pt gpa, I was in athletics and performing arts, everyone at rush told me that they cant wait to see me back.I even had girls introducing me to their friends telling them to remember my name...one girls even said i was her crush this week...yet today..cut,cut, cut,cut...I had recs for every house I was cut for and I never mentioned the 5 things not to talk about. I have wanted to be in a sorority since I could say the word.
I actually got excited from hearing the girls singing and cheering...now what? I cant cry anymore, and I cant tell my friends at other schools who are in houses...now I hear the once cut always cut so I do not know if I should rush again. It is easy to be so cheerful once you make it in...but not so easy to feel like a piece of shit for really no reason that any one can tell me.I wish with all my heart that i knew how you feel...just try to walk in my shoes today

I know you feel awful, but pissing on someone's fun and happy thread isn't going to make you feel any better.

Are there any chapters that YOU cut that are COBing that you would be willing to take a second look at?

And mods, can we PLEASE move this into its own thread?

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by northerngrl

I did get cut yesterday. and I know it sounds like the same thing everyone says, I have a four pt gpa, I was in athletics and performing arts, everyone at rush told me that they cant wait to see me back.I even had girls introducing me to their friends telling them to remember my name...one girls even said i was her crush this week...yet today..cut,cut, cut,cut...I had recs for every house I was cut for and I never mentioned the 5 things not to talk about. I have wanted to be in a sorority since I could say the word.
I actually got excited from hearing the girls singing and cheering...now what? I cant cry anymore, and I cant tell my friends at other schools who are in houses...now I hear the once cut always cut so I do not know if I should rush again. It is easy to be so cheerful once you make it in...but not so easy to feel like a piece of shit for really no reason that any one can tell me.I wish with all my heart that i knew how you feel...just try to walk in my shoes today

Once cut, always cut is not true for all groups on all campuses. 33girl has some good advice, and if you look at the recruitment stories you will find that you are hardly the first to have had a rough rush.

You can either feel sorry for yourself, or you can pick yourself up, get involved in campus, and see what sorority opportunities there are for you. There is a happy ending, whether it is joining a group or finding other avenues for yourself. Good luck. (and yes, let's move this)

[northerngrl]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Once cut, always cut is not true for all groups on all campuses. 33girl has some good advice, and if you look at the recruitment stories you will find that you are hardly the first to have had a rough rush.

You can either feel sorry for yourself, or you can pick yourself up, get involved in campus, and see what sorority opportunities there are for you. There is a happy ending, whether it is joining a group or finding other avenues for yourself. Good luck. (and yes, let's move this)

I have to admit I did not think what that mom posted was funny, because it really really hurts... I thought the lead in was going to have some answers for me...but you girls did leave good advice. I did drop some houses....mostly because those girls did not rush me as strong as the houses that dropped me...go figure! can anyone out there tell me if they are in a house from COB and how it worked out for you?

[SWTXBelle]

You need to check with your panhellenic office and let them know you are interested in informal rush. If you dropped houses because you felt they weren't rushing you "hard enough" it may be that your rush sensor is just off - they may have been laid back, but interested in you. Check with panhellenic, and also let any friends you have in chapters know that you are interested.

[Denise_DPhiE]

Congratulations JrLeaguer. You teased us pretty bad - internet finger waving at you!!!!

Welcome to GC!

(Fellow Junior Leaguer who has no legacies, only a son!)

[Thetagirl218]

Originally Posted by WinniBug

LOL

I saw the post title, and thought "Oh, boy...here we go..."


Congrats to your daughter!!

The same thought entered my mind!!!!

jrleaguer, Congrats to your daughter!!!!!! Theta was (and still is) an amazing experience in my life!!!! I hope your daughter will have such an experience with Theta!!!! Kites fly high!!!

I would love to know what school she is at, if you wouldn't mine pm'ing me!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by db2008

she researched all sororities and found tri-delt was for her. everything they stand for clicked for her and she was proud she thought so much of them-- all thru rush was just fine for her--tri-delt she felt was a good house and got great feed back from them, she wants to be apart of a great sorority--tri-delt is in her heart--she got cut!? what do you think what happened and what can she do to be a part of them in the future? she had great support from family and friends they are a part of tri-delt past members. she's a good girl and wants to be a part of a wonderful sorority. she positive and wants to hang in there and be a tri-delt its in her heart.

First off all, this thread is actually not about girls getting cut (see the first post).The mom who posted this posted it as a joke. Her daughter got a bid to a sorority on her campus. Sorry fo the confusion!

As far as your daughter wanting to be a Tri Delt, no one here can tell you what your daughter can do to be a part of their sorority. Honestly though, recruitment is over and they have taken new members already, so her chances of getting a bid from them after they dropped her are typically not good. It's tough but that's how recruitment is. Not everyone will get a bid to the one sorority they want (which is why we tell PNMs to be open-minded).

My best advice for you would be to encourage her to ENJOY THE REST OF COLLEGE, get involved in other activities, and have fun, instead of focusing on Greek Life (and Tri Delt).

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by jrleaguer

Q: How in the world did my daughter get cut?!

A: She didn't. She's a .....



THETA!


It seems we no sooner got back from moving her in, and we'll be heading back soon for parent weekend. I'm psyched!

p.s. Sorry I teased ya.

Congratulations jrleaguer. Yes, that was naughty to tease us with your headline, but I'm glad that you had awesome news

[Kitemom]

Congrats from one Theta Mom and Jr Leaguer to another. Hope she enjoys as much as my daughter. A word for moms of girls who got cut. Everyone wants to go to the Disney princess movies. You might have had your heart being Belle put you could be just as happy as Cindy. Please tell your daughters to have open minds and don't get set on being only one princess. They all have enchanted lives.

Thank you for the great advice she has already moved on and loving college, she a strong person and she's getting involved in other activities quote=KSUViolet06;1711349]First off all, this thread is actually not about girls getting cut (see the first post).The mom who posted this posted it as a joke. Her daughter got a bid to a sorority on her campus. Sorry fo the confusion!

As far as your daughter wanting to be a Tri Delt, no one here can tell you what your daughter can do to be a part of their sorority. Honestly though, recruitment is over and they have taken new members already, so her chances of getting a bid from them after they dropped her are typically not good. It's tough but that's how recruitment is. Not everyone will get a bid to the one sorority they want (which is why we tell PNMs to be open-minded).

My best advice for you would be to encourage her to ENJOY THE REST OF COLLEGE, get involved in other activities, and have fun, instead of focusing on Greek Life (and Tri Delt).[/quote]

[northerngrl]

Just to update you...I did affiliate with a COB chapter. ...after I heard what some of the other houses did on Bid night....whoa...I think it should be a requirement that sororities talk about their emphasis on drinking during rush...that way those phonies are outed....seem so sweet singing their songs, but meanwhile are pushers of bid night beer bongs...even to freshmen!!!

[33girl]

A piece of advice: just enjoy what you have now, and don't talk crap about other sororities. It comes across as sour grapes.

Congratulations on receiving a bid.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by northerngrl

Just to update you...I did affiliate with a COB chapter. ...after I heard what some of the other houses did on Bid night....whoa...I think it should be a requirement that sororities talk about their emphasis on drinking during rush...that way those phonies are outed....seem so sweet singing their songs, but meanwhile are pushers of bid night beer bongs...even to freshmen!!!

Whoa. We went bowling.

[Benzgirl]

Out for Ice Cream...it was a school night.