Need advice... she's making my life hell!

[ealymc]

Originally Posted by couggirl

Emails don't always work when trying to get a restraining order. I had a problem with this woman from church who decided she had some right to control my life. She would do crazy things like show up at mt place and yell profanities through the door. After a while she started to email me. I thought that I finally had some proff that she was mentally unstable, but noone (at least where I live) could have cared about the emails. now she was not threatening me. I just started deleating whatever she sent me and finally had to change my email and move.

What worked? She found me at my new place and did not like that i did not tell her where i moved to, since if she did not know where I lived she could not control me. Well, what finally got the police involved? HER!!! My roommates new the story behind this woman and when she started comming to my new place my roommies would be like Couggirl who? oh yeah she doesn't live here anymore. Then she finally called the police and reported to them that I had been sold into SEX Slavery by my roommies. The police came and so did she. She started yelling at the police officer that he had to make me see her. Police was like NO i don't, she is an adult and doesn't have to see you. Finally I got someone to listen to me and got a retraining order.

Moral of Story: Be strong and patient and this girl will cause problems in her own life, but it might take a while for others too see.

Sorry for the long story and i wish you the best of luck. Couggirl

Wow. I do NOT envy you!

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

This happens sometimes, and you know what? I strongly believe people will come around. Eventually, she'll make a mistake, and what and who she REALLY is will start to show through. The problem with manipulators is that they will eventually spin so many webs that they'll start to forget what lie they told to who. And when it happens, things will unravel for her very quickly. It might not happen right now or even in the near future, but it'll happen.

In the meantime, if you ALWAYS do the right thing and ALWAYS take the high road, even though it's hard, she'll have no ammunition against you. There will be some sheeple in every organization, but your more astute members will be able to see through her and put two and two together. If you're the kind of person who is above reproach, her character assasinations will do no good whatsoever.

[OleMissGlitter]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

I would go. Your absence would give her the opportunity to spread more lies about you.

Agreed, it's very hard for someone to gossip about you if you are in the same room as they are.

[ealymc]

Originally Posted by OleMissGlitter

Agreed, it's very hard for someone to gossip about you if you are in the same room as they are.

Unless they literally have no conscience, which could be likely with this crazy one!

[RaggedyAnn]

I would just ignore the BS and go to the meeting. You both are alumnae now. Perhaps with a little distance, and other things in life taking priority, this may not be as big an issue anymore. Also, she may not be there. You won't know unless you go. In fact, many people may not show up. Alumnae participation is not always what people want it to be-even with an invitation. The important thing is to be there for the collegians-after all, it is your sorority, but their chapter.

Originally Posted by i-hate-sorority

omg!! do not let her approach you!! if she is trying to hurt you, please call help asap!! ok? but never give up!! move on with your life, you have a lot ahead of you to come! your husband and your mom are so right, please listen to them! do not look back!!!

Hooray for the ban.

One down, 3942083423846293684234 to go.

[FrattyVegas]

I would smack her in the ovaries

[kathykd2005]

Is this the return of frattypalmtree?